“If he cared about me, he would just know what to do.” “If she loved me, she would know what I liked.” “If I must ask for it, it means it is not sincere when they do it. I want him/her to do it without me having to ask.” All three of these statements come […]
Read MoreOne of the leading reasons people seek marriage counseling or relationship counseling is to get help with communication. Usually this is code for “I know my partner doesn’t hear me and I am not sure I understand them.” There are 2 sides to communication and, like intimacy, there is a sender and a receiver. To […]
Read MoreAn affirmation links a described behavior to a character trait. Say with enthusiasm and celebration! 1. You finished the taxes! Look at what you’ve accomplished! You must feel proud of your perseverance and discipline! 2. I really appreciate the planning you’re doing. You’ve got such good organizational skills. 3. You have such an open mind. […]
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