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# D2 Counseling | Dallas Therapy for Anxiety, Trauma, Relationships & Growth

D2 Counseling offers holistic, action-oriented therapy in Dallas—helping individuals, couples, & families heal from trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges.

## Posts

### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/12/empowered-family-of-origin-workshop/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Empowered! Family Of Origin

**“It’s always a case of mistaken identity.” —Pia Mellody**

That which we do not heal from childhood we replay in adulthood.

This workshop is a 3 day intensive that investigates the origins of adult dysfunctional behaviors. In this revolutionary educational and experiential workshop participants learn to identify the childhood wounds which fuel adult dysfunction, i.e., depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and relationship difficulties. The focus is not on blaming caregivers; but rather healing the trauma (defined as any less-than-nurturing events). The workshop is based on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and utilizes her treatment model.

### DEPOSIT FOR UPCOMING WORKSHOP

Deposit is $500, please call for instructions or click below to pay by credit card.

Workshop Fee is $3,000.00. Deposit to hold your spot is $500.00.

Please let us know if you would like to be on the waiting list for one of these workshops, or would like to hear about upcoming dates.

Upcoming Dates for 2026:

- - Sept 25-26-27
    - Oct 23-24-25
    - Dec 4-5-6

**Empowered! (Select Price)**Deposit $500.00 USDBalance $2,500.00 USDTotal Workshp Price $3,000.00 USD
**Dates of Workshop**September 25-27 2026October 23-25 2026December 4-6 2026

**Categories:** Workshop

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### [Addiction Counseling: Signs, Treatment, and Recovery](https://d2counseling.com/2026/08/18/addiction-counseling-signs-treatment-recovery/)

**Published:** August 18, 2026
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## What Is Addiction and How Does It Affect the Brain?

Addiction is defined by the [American Society of Addiction Medicine](https://www.asam.org/quality-care/definition-of-addiction) as a treatable, chronic medical disease involving complex interactions among brain circuits, genetics, the environment, and an individual’s life experiences. It is not a reflection of character, willpower, or moral integrity — a distinction that carries profound clinical importance, both for how we treat the condition and how those affected understand themselves. Neurobiologically, repeated substance use or compulsive engagement in behaviors can dysregulate the mesolimbic dopamine system, the brain’s primary reward pathway, fundamentally altering how pleasure is experienced, how decisions are weighted, and how stress is tolerated. Over time, the brain adapts to the presence of the substance by downregulating its own reward response, which produces tolerance, withdrawal, and the progressive narrowing of motivation toward obtaining and using the substance at the expense of other sources of meaning and connection.

## Common Types and Signs of Addiction

Addiction encompasses a broad clinical spectrum. Substance use disorders — involving alcohol, opioids, stimulants, cannabis, benzodiazepines, and other compounds — share significant microbiological overlap with gambling disorder, the only behavioral addiction formally recognized in the DSM-5-TR. What unifies these presentations is the loss of control over engagement despite mounting negative consequences, compulsive continuation, and the neuroadaptive changes that make cessation extremely difficult without structured support. Clinically significant signs extend beyond substance use itself and include social withdrawal and isolation, deterioration in occupational or academic functioning, continued use in physically hazardous situations, marked changes in sleep, appetite, and physical presentation, and emotional dysregulation including irritability, shame, and mood instability.

## Addiction and Co-Occurring Mental Health Conditions

Critically, addiction rarely exists in isolation. Research consistently shows high rates of co-occurrence between substance use disorders and other mental health conditions, including major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and personality disorders. This bidirectional relationship — sometimes called dual diagnosis or co-occurring disorders — means that treating addiction without addressing underlying psychiatric and psychological factors significantly increases the risk of relapse. Trauma history, in particular, is a central clinical consideration. A substantial proportion of individuals with substance use disorders have histories of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), and many describe substance use as having originally served a self-regulatory function — a way of managing emotional pain, hyperarousal, or dissociation that had no other outlet.

## Evidence-Based Approaches to Addiction Counseling

Effective treatment is therefore integrative and individualized. Evidence-based approaches used in [counseling for addiction](https://d2counseling.com/therapy/) include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which targets the cognitive distortions, core beliefs, and behavioral patterns that sustain use; Motivational Interviewing (MI), a collaborative, person-centered method that works with ambivalence about change rather than against it; Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), particularly useful for clients whose addiction is intertwined with emotional dysregulation or borderline features; and trauma-informed modalities such as [EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/) or Seeking Safety, which address the underlying traumatic material often driving compulsive behavior. Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT) — including buprenorphine, naltrexone, and methadone for opioid use disorder, or naltrexone and acamprosate for alcohol use disorder — is a well-supported component of comprehensive care that counselors coordinate alongside prescribers when appropriate.

## What Recovery from Addiction Can Look Like

Recovery is best understood not as an endpoint but as a longitudinal process of biological stabilization, psychological integration, and social rebuilding. The stages of change model and recovery capital frameworks both recognize that progress is nonlinear and that relapse, while clinically significant, does not constitute treatment failure. Rather, it provides important diagnostic information about triggers, unmet needs, or gaps in the recovery plan that can be addressed collaboratively. Sustained recovery typically involves not only abstinence or harm reduction goals, but the reconstruction of identity, the repair of relational ruptures caused by active addiction, and the development of genuine meaning and connection that can compete with the pull of the substance.

## When to Seek Help for Addiction

If you or someone you care about is struggling, the most important clinical truth is this: addiction is a treatable condition, and outcomes improve significantly with professional support. You do not need to be at a crisis point to seek help — earlier intervention is consistently associated with better outcomes. [Our counselors](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) are trained to meet you exactly where you are, without judgment, and to work with you toward a path that is sustainable and genuinely yours. Recovery is not only possible — for many, it becomes the foundation of the most meaningful chapter of their lives.

**Categories:** Addiction

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### [How Family of Origin Affects Adult Relationships](https://d2counseling.com/2026/08/06/how-family-of-origin-affects-adult-relationships/)

**Published:** August 6, 2026
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Your family of origin — the household and care giving system in which you were raised — is the first relational template your nervous system ever knew. Long before you had language to describe your experiences, your brain was absorbing information about safety, attachment, emotional regulation, and connection. These early experiences are not simply memories; they become internalized working models that continue to shape how you perceive yourself, interpret others, and navigate intimacy well into adulthood.

## How Family of Origin Shapes Attachment and Identity

In clinical work, family of origin exploration draws on well-established frameworks, including Bowen Family Systems Theory, attachment theory, and structural family therapy. [Murray Bowen’s concept of differentiation of self](http://www.thebowencenter.org/differentiation-of-self) — the capacity to maintain a clear sense of one’s own identity and values within the context of close relationships — is foundational here. Individuals who grew up in emotionally fused or disengaged family systems often carry those same relational blueprints forward, struggling with either enmeshment or emotional cutoff in their adult partnerships. Similarly, John Bowlby’s and Mary Ainsworth’s research on attachment styles demonstrates that the quality of early caregiver bonds — whether secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, or disorganized — directly predicts how we approach emotional intimacy, conflict, and vulnerability with romantic partners.

## Family Roles and inter-generational Patterns

Families also develop characteristic patterns around anxiety management, communication, triangulation, and role assignment. You may have been the peacekeeper, the responsible one, the identified patient, or the invisible child. These roles, while adaptive in childhood, often calcify into relational habits that create friction in adult partnerships. Unresolved [inter-generational trauma](https://d2counseling.com/trauma-and-ptsd/ "Trauma and PTSD Landing") — including experiences of addiction, emotional unavailability, domestic conflict, neglect, or loss — can be transmitted across generations not only through learned behavior but through the physiological imprinting of the stress response system itself.

## How Family of Origin Affects Couples

This is where the intersection of individual history and[ couples work](https://d2counseling.com/couples-therapy/) becomes especially significant. Research consistently shows that most relational conflict between partners is not fundamentally about the presenting argument — it is about the attachment needs and emotional wounds each person brings to the relationship from their earliest experiences. When one partner shuts down during conflict and the other pursues more intensely, they are rarely just disagreeing about the dishes. They are enacting attachment patterns formed long before they met each other.

## How Family of Origin Work Supports Change

Clinical work with family of origin is not about assigning blame or reopening wounds for their own sake. It is about building the kind of self-awareness and earned security that makes genuine intimacy possible. When you understand the emotional logic behind your own reactions — where your fear of abandonment, your avoidance of conflict, your difficulty trusting, or your need for control actually comes from — you gain the capacity to respond rather than react. In a couple’s context, this awareness creates space for empathy and disrupts the negative cycles that erode connection over time.

## Moving Toward Healthier, Intentional Relationships

Whether you are exploring this work individually or as a couple, the goal is the same: to move from unconscious reenactment of old patterns toward conscious, intentional relating. You cannot change what happened in your family of origin — but with the right support, you can change what it means for how you love.

**Categories:** Couples, Family Therapy

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### [Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/12/couples-intimacy-workshop-growing-up-together/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together

Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together!

Interactive One-Day Group Workshop

with [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S & [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, LSSP, CSAT

This workshop is for you if you’re looking to move beyond blaming and finger-pointing so you can identify your strengths as a couple and build on them. Learn how to manage your intense feelings without walling off or losing your temper. Discover how to grow your awareness of the roles you play with your partner and how to recognize what belongs to you and what belongs to your partner. Our goal is for you to walk away with the ability to recognize what patterns keep you stuck and what behaviors can facilitate reconnection and enhance intimacy.

Join us for an immersive and transformative couples workshop designed to explore and navigate the intricacies of relationship dynamics using the Karpman Drama Triangle. Led by Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD and Rev. Daniel Gowan, this workshop provides a safe and supportive space for couples to deepen their understanding of communication patterns, foster empathy, and build healthier connections.

Workshop Highlights:

Karpman Drama Triangle Exploration:

- Delve into the Karpman Drama Triangle, a model that illustrates common roles people unconsciously play in relationships – the Victim, the Rescuer, and the Persecutor. Understand how these roles can contribute to conflict and learn strategies to break free from these patterns.

Communication Skills Enhancement:

- Learn effective communication techniques to express your needs and desires openly. Discover how to actively listen and validate your partner’s perspective, fostering a deeper connection and understanding.

Empowerment and Responsibility:

- Explore the concept of personal responsibility within relationships. Empower each other to take ownership of individual feelings and needs, creating a foundation for mutual support and growth.

Conflict Resolution Strategies:

- Acquire practical tools to navigate conflicts constructively. Identify triggers and learn de-escalation techniques to transform disagreements into opportunities for mutual understanding.

Building Emotional Resilience:

- Cultivate emotional resilience individually and as a couple. Explore ways to cope with stress, manage emotions, and create a resilient partnership that can withstand life’s challenges.

Interactive Exercises and Group Discussions:

- Engage in interactive exercises and group discussions to apply the workshop concepts in real-life scenarios. Share experiences, gain insights, and connect with other couples on a similar journey.

Professional Guidance:

- Benefit from the expertise of experienced relationship therapists who will provide personalized guidance and support throughout the workshop. Receive practical tips and advice tailored to your unique relationship dynamics.

Invest in your relationship and join us for this empowering couples workshop. Rediscover the joy of connection, break free from destructive patterns, and create a foundation for a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.

Workshop Fee is $1200. Deposit to hold your spot is $550.00

 Couples Intimacy Workshop  
 Cpls Wkshp Depo $550.00 USD
 
 Cpls Wkshp Total $1,200.00 USD
 
 Cpls Wkshp Balance $650.00 USD

**Categories:** Workshop

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### [3 Part Relationship Intensive](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/12/3-part-relationship-intensive-workshop/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Designed to help dating or married couples, those who are already in a secure relationship, or couples who are looking to start over fresh and overcome pain/resentment. Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Part I- Getting on the Same Page
- Part II- Now We’re Talking!
- Part III- Let’s Talk About Sex

**Where:** 17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252

**Cost:** $750/couple per part

Spots are limited to 3 couples. Payment due at time of registration.

Relationship IntensiveIntensive Payment $750.00 USD

**Categories:** Workshop

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### [Family Therapy & Child Therapy: Explained](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/24/family-therapy-child-therapy-explained/)

**Published:** July 24, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

In times of struggle, family is often the first place we turn to, so creating a healthy dynamic within the
family unit is vital. Families may need help navigating life’s many challenges, including big changes like
moving, grief, medical conditions, job loss, and financial struggles as well as smaller conflicts between
partners or parents and their children. A family can be any group of people who care about each other,
including parents and guardians, their children, siblings, stepfamily, extended family members, and even
friends who have become like family.

Family therapy is a form of talk therapy focused on the improvement of relationships and functional
behaviors between family members. Family therapy can also help treat specific mental health or
behavioral conditions for one person in the unit or assist a family that simply wants to bond more closely.
So how exactly does family therapy work? Family therapy is an evidence-based treatment that revolves
around conversations. The goal is to have a safe environment for families to engage in dialogue without
feeling judged. As conversations are the foundation of family therapy, it’s important that everyone
involved actively participates in sessions. If some family members resist engaging, conflict may arise.
Trained professionals, like the therapists at D2 Counseling, are prepared to work with families and to
encourage all members to be open and honest. Their guidance will allow those participating to improve
communication, understand one another on a deeper level, and learn healthy behaviors that can improve
functioning overall.

There are specific categories of family therapy that differ in length and technique based on the
circumstances and goals of those attending the sessions. Therapists can be involved in a family’s journey
for several months or more, and the frequency of visits depends on the situation. One example of a type
of family therapy to note is marriage or couples counseling, which involves spouses or romantic
partners. Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) can work with couples on issues such as
communication, raising children, and finances. Another type of family therapy is functional family
therapy (FFT) in which a therapist assists families with children with behavioral issues, including
assessing the dynamics that have led to problematic behavior and offering insight into a path forward for
the parents.
Among some of the most vulnerable of those struggling with mental health in the family unit are children.
The brain isn’t fully developed until age 25, so children and adolescents are especially sensitive to conflict
and mental health triggers. Although many adults may remember their childhood as a time without
responsibilities, growing up isn’t easy for many, and children need support and mental health care just
as adults do.

As young people are still in the process of developing cognition and language, child therapy is a
specific type of therapy with sessions tailored to fit children’s cognitive development. To bridge
the communication gap between children and adults, play and art are often part of the therapeutic work
being done with kids. When asked direct questions, children may not be able to understand, or they may
begin to worry that what they’re saying is “bad” and feel defensive. Even when they can tell you what
emotions they’re feeling, a child may not be able to analyze and convey what situations led to them.
Rather than expecting a child to express themselves like an adult, a trained therapist will join the
child’s world instead. Through play and artistic expression, the child can relax, and the therapist can
assess their moods, thoughts, body language, and behaviors.

As with family therapy, child therapy can sometimes lead to conflict if not approached carefully. The
therapeutic alliance between any client, child or adult, and their therapist is critical. This relationship,
which should involve empathy and positive regard for one another, is an indicator that sessions will be
successful. A child especially should feel like they can open up to their therapist as a result of the
therapeutic alliance. This can sometimes require assistance from a parent because, if a child is made to
feel like they are not allowed to talk with others about what goes on at home, then they may not be able to
open up in therapy.

A trained therapist will connect with the parents and share updates on how therapy with the child is going.
Although neither family therapy nor child therapy are quick fixes, both types of therapy can provide
support and guidance to help families function healthily, benefiting the well-being of all family members.
If your family is struggling at the moment, in whatever way that looks for you, know that D2 Counseling is
here to provide insight, education, and guidance on your lifelong journey as a family. All families and
couples bicker and argue, and it is normal for those struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, and other
mental health issues in their individual lives to also need guidance on how to keep their familial
relationships from being impaired. D2 Counseling can be the intervention needed for you to keep your
family’s bonds close and the family unit functioning happily.

**Categories:** Family Therapy

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### [Building Resilience to Find Your Path](https://d2counseling.com/2025/06/26/building-resilience-to-find-your-path/)

**Published:** June 26, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

No matter your beliefs or politics, it’s clear many Americans are feeling some financial strain and
economic uncertainty this year. The rising cost of living, changing markets, and sensationalized headlines
are enough to make anyone feel unsettled. During difficult times, we tend to wish there was a clear map
that we could use as a tool for navigating life. Instead, we have to create the map ourselves. Building
resilience is like creating your map as you go. No map can eliminate the peaks and valleys from the
landscape, but your map can show you where you are, how far you’ve come, and how to navigate what
challenges may be ahead.

**Resilience is the ability to adapt to adversity, trauma, and stress, and it’s more than just a**
**buzzword.** Resilience is a skill that we all can learn and strengthen, no matter where we’re starting from,
by developing a set of behaviors and thoughts that can help us reflect and recover.
How can you cultivate resilience practically? Let’s walk through what features you can begin adding to
your unique “resilience map.”

**Foster Community** – Fortunately, building resilience isn’t an act that must be done alone. Humans aren’t
meant to be on this journey of life all by themselves, and your connections with others can help you
remember that you aren’t alone. Many people’s first reaction to trauma is to isolate themselves, but the
support and advice that a community can offer is crucial. Take intentional time to stay connected with
your loved ones, and accept their help if they reach out. Add a regular group activity to your resilience
map: religious community meetings, volunteering events, weekly run club, or monthly neighborhood
gatherings.

**Improve Problem-Solving Skills** – Take action, even if it’s a small step, and notice how confidence can
be generated from any amount of progress. If you break a challenge into a list of more manageable tasks,
it’s often easier to make decisions and not feel helpless. The belief that you can handle whatever
obstacles come your way is necessary for building resilience. If you’re feeling uncertain about what
should be your first step, consider first focusing on your physical health. When your body is getting the
sleep, fuel, and activity it needs, it has more energy and is more capable of using logic and being
creative. Take care of yourself first, and then utilize your improved problem-solving skills to add the
bridges and detours that your resilience map needs.

**Find Your Purpose** – Track your progress as you work on your resilience map. Keeping a journal or
discussing developments with a friend can help you stay on track and be grateful for even the small steps
you’ve made. It’s normal to need motivation for even basic tasks during tough times. Finding meaning in
your life could come from spirituality, serving others, family, friendships, work, school, or beyond. Staying
aligned with your core values and long-term goals will help keep you grounded by reminding you that you
are enduring this hardship for a reason. In moments of chaos, it’s easy to feel lost, but your inner
compass will show you which path to follow.

**Focus on What’s Within Your Control** – Emotional regulation is what can allow us to think clearly, even
in times of stress and anxiety. Instead of simply reacting based on emotion in the heat of the moment,
emotional regulation provides the tools to keep anger, fear, and shame from choosing your path. Instead
of spiraling and exhausting yourself, you can instead pause, listen, and strategize. Prayer and meditation
can be deeply impactful tools to achieve emotional regulation. Meditation teaches us to identify what
we’re feeling and notice that these feelings are simply passing experiences. This can rewire our brains to
think more clearly and change how we interpret certain situations. While we may not be able to control
everything wrong in the world, we can control our thoughts and reactions. When not being led by
emotions, it’s easier to see challenges as opportunities to grow. Taking the time for daily meditation or
prayer while building your resilience map can help you avoid mistaking a bump in the road for a dead
end.

**Try Group Therapy** – Regardless of the circumstances that you find yourself feeling powerless in,
whether it’s debt, health concerns, or recovery from a traumatic event, others are experiencing similar
pain. Connecting with them through group therapy can help you view your situation with more
compassion and less judgment. In group therapy with D2 Counseling, professional counselors create a
safe space where you can practice emotional regulation and develop problem-solving skills. The trust and
connection created between group members fosters community and meaning in members’ daily lives.
When your own “resilience map” feels difficult to follow, others can be there to share their own
experiences and provide you with tools for your journey.
None of us are born knowing the exact direction we should go in, but resilience can be the map you build
to navigate your life’s challenges. The path won’t always be easy, but it will offer many opportunities to
grow stronger, build confidence, and find a deeper purpose. Using a holistic and practical approach to
therapy, D2 Counseling is here to help and show you that you are not lost but simply learning the way.

**Categories:** Depression, Support

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### [Don’t Bring January Blues Into February](https://d2counseling.com/2025/08/07/dont-bring-january-blues-into-february/)

**Published:** August 7, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

We’re in the thick of the January blues. Once the holidays are over, the same long nights and festive
decor that was once cozy in December can begin to feel a bit constrictive. The post-holiday blues can be
brought on by little sunlight, cold temperatures, strained finances, and stress or disappointment from the
holiday season. Sometimes a time of celebration can actually accentuate things in our lives that we feel
may not measure up to society’s expectations. Similarly, conflict and confrontation between family
members can interfere with festivities. This can lead to feelings of disappointment and sadness in the new
year, but the January blues may also appear as irritability, fatigue, and a lack of interest in hobbies.

As mental health problems tend to increase at this time of year, loneliness is often at the forefront.
**Although humans are increasingly connected through technology and social media is more**
**ingrained in our lives than ever, humans have never been so lonely.** A recent poll from Gallup
revealed that 66% of Americans feel lonely during the holiday season, while about 20% feel lonely every
day. The majority of those individuals feel they aren’t part of a meaningful community or don’t have
enough close relationships. Americans are waiting longer to get married and having fewer children,
meaning we have fewer and fewer extended family members. Remote work is far more common today
than before the pandemic, and people are spending less time with others outside of their households. In
2023, the U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy declared a **national epidemic of loneliness and**
**isolation**, noting that loneliness has serious effects on both physical and mental health. Despite the
societal changes and the pervasiveness of this epidemic, those who suffer from loneliness often feel
shame and falsely believe it is their fault.

Rather than bringing the January blues into February, how can we fight against this epidemic and make
February a brighter month? First, it’s important to remember that so many others are struggling with the
same shame. Second, be the person to **make the plans, even when you don’t want to.** If so many
others are feeling similarly, you are helping both yourself and others when you become the plan maker in
your own workplace, friend group, or neighborhood.

Be that planner and lead with the mindset that every day can be an expedition, even to your local park.
To do this, focus on creating new memories. It’s easy to spend the majority of our time with friends and
acquaintances catching up and reflecting on past times together. **However, friendships are about more**
**than just knowing one another; they’re about sharing experiences and growing together.** Make
plans that allow you to do an activity together and generate new traditions, which fosters a deeper bond.
Seek out third spaces like run clubs and cafes, take a pottery class, or start a new hobby and invite others
to take part. You don’t need to check a place off of your bucket list to feel fulfilled in your relationships and
make memories special.

Rather than focusing entirely on self-care, like face masks and bubble baths, shift your attention to things
that help you become active in your community. This could look like making an effort to get to know your
neighbors and coworkers, volunteering in your town, or joining a gym or library. Create habits and
discover new hobbies that will help you to be present and engaged with others in your community.

Of course, don’t forget to address some of your basic needs that can help you make it through the winter:
move your body as much as possible, soak up as much sunlight as possible, and fuel your body with
sleep and nutrition. These don’t need to always be actions taken alone. Taking on your new role as a
planner, find a yoga class you could invite a neighbor to, bundle up and try an outdoor winter activity,
even if it’s just a walk around the block with a friend, or invite a few coworkers over for dinner to try out a
new recipe.

Be sure to pay attention to how long the January blues persist. If you’re experiencing prolonged sadness
or having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, reach out for help immediately. All affected by loneliness
should feel safe to reach out to a loved one or crisis hotline in times of struggle. (Call or text 988 to reach
the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, a network of crisis centers that provide free and confidential support.)
Although loneliness is common, especially at this time of the year, there is a path forward to get you
through the dark of winter and closer to the brightness of your next season, whatever that may look like.
Professionally trained therapists can help heal the root cause of your loneliness, such as negative
thinking patterns or specific anxieties that may be hindering your social connections. Therapists can also
provide you with resources to help cope, improve communication skills, and become more confident.
Joining group sessions is one way to tap into the power of community and connect with others who share
your struggles. Individual and group sessions with trained professionals, such as those at D2 Counseling,
can be your safe space to address complicated emotions. If you’re ready to be open and plant roots in a
community, D2 is here for you.

**Categories:** Mental Health

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### [When the World Leaves You Feeling Powerless](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/10/when-the-world-leaves-you-feeling-powerless/)

**Published:** July 10, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

As human beings, we are often determined to feel in control. The outcomes we strive to control can go
beyond our personal lives, including politics and elections, the climate, the economy and cost of living,
and family and parenting dynamics. However, the perception of control is often subjective, and that
perception can influence our lives and well-being just as much as the finite amount of power we have.
People who feel that they have power over their life path report being happier and healthier overall, while
those who report feeling little control over their fate tend to be at a higher risk of illness and death
regardless of their background or income. When facing a challenge, knowing that you may have a small
impact on the outcome can prevent feeling entirely hopeless.

The COVID-19 pandemic is an example of a time when many people’s sense of control collapsed
drastically. This led many to feel “moral distress,” a term created by philosopher Andrew Jameton to
describe the feeling of suffering due to systemic barriers preventing someone from following their moral
principles and ethics. During the pandemic, some felt that their beliefs conflicted with government decrees
and some desperately wanted to see family but worried about getting others sick. In general, many felt
limited either personally or professionally beyond their control.
At the core of moral distress is the feeling of powerlessness. Powerlessness can refer to the feeling that
one must compromise one's values due to outside forces, and it can also refer to the belief that others
don’t fully grasp how dire a situation is. When someone feels ignored consistently or their values are
repeatedly disrespected, they feel powerless. This can turn into frustration quickly, and eventually, that
anger can lead to burnout and exhaustion. Human beings inherently respond to threats, including
existential crises, by either fighting, taking flight and avoiding the issue, or freezing and being in denial.
On the biological level, stress chemicals like adrenaline and cortisol are released in the body in response
to an existential crisis, leading to worse digestion, an increase in blood pressure, and more.

When we feel powerless, how do we cope with the need to fight, take flight, or freeze? Despair can cloud
our vision and make it difficult to see what steps are available. Therapy with a licensed counselor is a
great way to work past the moral distress you may be feeling, and there are other tools that we can use to
our advantage as well.

Resilience is the ability to process and recover from challenging life experiences, stress, and
trauma, and, like most skills, it’s an ability you can intentionally develop and strengthen.
Accept what you feel and that you may not be able to control every situation. Don’t try to force the
negative emotions away but instead reframe your perspective. If you allow yourself to process your
thoughts and emotions, such as by journaling or talking to a trusted loved one, you can analyze what
thoughts may be biased or distorted. If you’re open to change, you can step back from certain beliefs that
may be harming you or holding you back. Power is subjective, so you can reframe the way you see your
strengths, skills, and relationships.

Take action, even if it’s the smallest step you can imagine. Your confidence will grow simply by setting a
goal, no matter how small, and following through with it. Live by your values, and speak up to express
when you think something needs attention from others. Researching more about a subject, joining a local
activism group, donating to a cause, sharing your concerns with a friend or family member, and
volunteering your time are all examples of small steps you can take.

Find your why. Motivation is needed on the journey to empowerment. Even amidst a challenge or deep
struggle with a lack of control in your life, consider how a situation is contributing to your growth.
Connection with others can also be a huge motivator. Human beings need kinship as much as they need
food, water, and shelter. Regardless of the situation that you find yourself feeling powerless in, whether
it’s student debt, health issues, or recovery from a trauma, others are walking through a similar
experience as you. Connecting with them through group therapy or online platforms is one way to know
that you are not alone. Reaching out to trusted loved ones can be an incredible way to foster meaning in
your life.

Changing your perspective from one of powerlessness to one full of possibility will help you to cultivate
resilience. A sense of calm can come from acknowledging that we are in control of our mind, our body,
and our spirit. We may not be able to control everything wrong in the world, but we can control our
thoughts and emotions.

If the feelings of distress and powerlessness persist for several weeks despite the use of the coping
strategies above, world events may be triggering unresolved trauma within you. When moral distress
intertwines with symptoms of depression or anxiety, it is time to seek the assistance of a licensed
counselor. At D2 Counseling, we offer a non-judgmental place to work through whatever is causing your
pain. Our counselors take a holistic and practical approach to therapy, including effective techniques
based on scientific and spiritual principles. Simply wanting to heal and change is progress in itself, and
change is possible with D2 Counseling.

**Categories:** Mental Health

---

### [Is Your Mindset Holding You Back From Growth?](https://d2counseling.com/2024/06/25/is-your-mindset-holding-you-back-from-growth/)

**Published:** June 25, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

We all want to be our best, but do we actually have the right *mindset* to grow? The lens through which we view ourselves and our abilities heavily affects how we navigate life and its multitude of challenges.

The month of May is **Mental Health Awareness Month**, which was established in 1949 by the nonprofit Mental Health America to generate awareness about mental health and the importance of wellness for Americans. Although discussing mental health may have become less stigmatized across the country thanks to great endeavors like Mental Health Awareness Month, *how do most people translate that awareness into actual growth in their lives?*

Many of us may relate to being resistant to change, whether that is a feeling within ourselves, a loved one, a coworker, or even an acquaintance. Oftentimes, the more someone is pushed, the more set in their ways they become. Rejecting change is part of human nature as a basic response to fear and risk, and some are more prone to this than others based on their approach to growth.

Psychologist Carol Dweck’s book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” explores two contrasting perspectives: **the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.**

With a **fixed mindset**, a person believes that their qualities and abilities can’t be changed. A fixed mindset carries the belief that people are born with natural talents, so, if a skill doesn’t come effortlessly to someone, then they shouldn’t bother trying. This mindset leads to the belief that setbacks are permanent and defining for life, which causes people to avoid challenges or give up when things get difficult. Taking big risks and working hard for something is too risky for those with a fixed mindset.

In contrast, with a **growth mindset**, a person’s innate qualities and abilities are just the starting point of a skillset that can be honed and developed through effort, dedication, and embracing past mistakes. Those with a growth mindset see setbacks as singular occurrences that won’t define them forever. This leads people to bounce back from failure and find meaning in what they’re working on without knowing the outcome. Therefore, with a growth mindset, people can thrive in a challenge, take more risks, learn new things, and think more creatively without a crippling fear of failure.

When using this framework to analyze your own life, know that most people fall somewhere on a spectrum between a fixed and a growth mindset, so you don’t have to identify fully with one or the other in all scenarios.

Adopting a growth mindset has numerous positives, including improving academic and career performance. A growth frame of mind also encourages people to collaborate, accept feedback, and embrace a more diverse range of perspectives, which can improve relationships and even promote inclusivity in our society. Having an attitude with an openness for growth is even beneficial in therapy, as described in this piece written by [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/):

*Called to Grow*

*I read a wonderful piece by Alexander Lang a fellow Presbyterian Minister entitled “Why I Left The Church.” (*[*https://www.restorativefaith.org/post/departure-why-i-left-the-church*](https://www.restorativefaith.org/post/departure-why-i-left-the-church)*). It was accompanied by his final sermon (preached a few weeks ago), and well worth listening to. In his article, he ties some level of his burnout to the difficulty in working with populations that are fixed into their own way of thinking. Alternatively, there are people who continue to grow beyond this certainty of their own “knowing.” I realized in reading the article that I have the luxury, for the most part, of working with people who are trying to grow.*

*Intuitively we have set up a practice at D2 Counseling where the work we do invites these “people of growth” into a process where we are privileged to walk with them. It is one of the reasons we resist working with court-ordered (or even spouse-ordered!) therapy. An order to “go grow and learn” is usually not sufficient reason for people to in fact open their minds and Grow.*

*I often caution clients to not let their knowing get in the way of their learning. Rev. Lang explains (it has been my experience with the Presbyterian Church USA hierarchy that it will likely be months before he becomes Mr. Lang) that a constant resistance to growth and change is exhausting to engage. In contrast- in a counseling practice, we simply assign homework that invites a client to examine themselves, and if they are interested in growing, they will actually do it. Those locked into certainty rarely do. In this way, our process is self-cleaning. I often caution clients to not let their knowing get in the way of their learning. This challenge continues for me as well. I must continue to stretch my understanding of how intellectual, and emotional systems work and, to that end, I have found it easier to do that in creative ways that I enjoy. I do believe that this willingness to grow is a gift and the only true response to a gift is to meet it with gratitude. The gratitude is not simply thank you, I believe it needs to be reflected in action. So, I try to grow.*

*Some years ago I came to an arrangement with American Airlines (based here in Dallas). I would pay them to take me to places too far to drive, and they would take me. It has worked quite well! I have seen parts of the country and the world that have exposed me to new ways of living that I could not have seen from my porch. To be sure, growth is not limited to travel, but it is something that I really enjoy and refreshes me with newness and refreshment if I stay open to getting past my “knowing.”*

*My son the journalism major offered a powerful suggestion that has contributed to my growth. He offered that in forming opinions (especially current events) we need to be extremely careful*

*about our information sources. He disallows the ones on the extreme left and right and continues with the suggestion that he seeks out 5 different sources for input before forming his own opinion. Anyone who has ever compared how CNN and Fox report the same event realizes the net sum of these two is zero.*

*So it seems to me that somehow growth, (more specifically willingness to grow) is fundamental to our quest to be in healthy relationships with self, with others, and with our Creator. What I have learned both as Minister and Counselor is that our capacity to love is fundamental to this Equation.*

*Rev. Lang moves to outline his next steps after ministry. He offers that he is “going to be investing all of my energy into a business that helps people find and form those relationships so they can experience God’s love in their lives.” If only my ministry could be so Godly and healthy!*

**So what does it take to foster a willingness to grow in our lives?**

First, **embrace challenges**. A person’s neuroplasticity refers to their brain’s ability to adapt to new experiences. Developing new skills and working through problems strengthens our neuroplasticity and forms new neural connections in our brains. Your cognitive abilities improve in the process.

Second, **persevere through failure**. Self-reflection and seeking feedback on what improvements could be made in the future are critical for this step.

Third, **have a genuine aspiration to change**. Know what your motivations for growth are and know what the consequences will be. This requires you to overcome your attachment to your old habits and embrace new ones.

Remember to have self-compassion as you take steps to develop your growth mindset. Your willpower will be stronger because of it. The first step towards growth, reading this article and feeling empowered to begin your growth journey, has already been taken. D2 Counseling is ready today to walk with you along this path and provide the tools you need for your growth and overall well-being to flourish.

**Categories:** Mental Health

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### [Sex Driven Values](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/sex-driven-values/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

In line at the grocery store I was struck by the cover of the December issue of Cosmo. Eva Longoria was smiling to greet my 13-year-old daughter and I, and her top (Eva’s) was just low enough to accentuate the cleavage. Promised topics in this issue included “Guys’ Sex Drive- The Dirty Little Bedroom Secrets Nobody Wants to Talk About.” And: “Girl On Top- The 9 Pleasure-Maxing Sex Positions Will Send You Both to the Moon.” And: “The Sexiest Things to Do Before Sex- Discover The Real Meaning of Shower Power.” And: “Your Sexual Health- STD News Gynos Don’t Share.” And we are told, Eva’s interview is the “sauciest ever.” It is explicit. The Holiday Issue!

I am not a prude. Sensuality, sexuality and sex are fun. But so is emotional connection. My issue with the issue is the presumption that the standard that Cosmo posits is the one that Soci- ety seems to accept. Sex drives differ. Happy, successful couples have a regular, healthy sex life. But the “regular” part is one they have worked out. Not Cosmo or Madison Avenue. Next time you are in the bookstore wander over to the magazines. Look at the covers found in “Men’s Interest.” Now go over to “Women’s Interest” and compare. Same women, same flat stomachs, same promise of sexuality. When par- ents of adolescent boys come to me with their concerns over their child viewing internet porn it usually takes a few minutes for the parent to sort through their concerns and fears for their child. But one of the resounding themes that emerge is that real life sex is not like that. Non-stop sex at the drop of a hat without intimacy is not healthy. Nor is it realistic. Cosmo disagrees. We are told all about women’s sex drive in their advise to men. “Chances are, your little bed devil is usu- ally up for a hearty roll in the hay. (She’s a Cosmo girl after all).” Look, I understand that Cosmo is about selling magazines, not setting standards, but enough exposure to this message places unrealistic expectations on a sexual rela- tionship and the individuals in the relationship.

Often, if not usually, couples have differ- ences in their sex drive. On a scale of 1-10, Cosmo would have us all at an 8-10. Reality shows that like most things, most of us are at a 4 -6 and there are about the same number of 2’s and 3’s as there are 8’s and 9’s.

I counsel couples to begin discussions on where their relationship needs are in four areas when we look at this topic. (It is useful if you have been married 2 years or 20 years). First, ask and offer what the needs are for you and your partner in the areas of physical intimacy (hand holding, neck rubs, pats on the fanny). Second, consider your needs in the area of emo- tional intimacy. Honestly, this is usually harder for guys than it is for women, but it is worth the effort, if both can be honest with themselves and with each other. Third, what are your sex needs? Are you a Cosmo bed devil that falls on a 9 or a 10? Or are you with the rest of us with needs closer to the middle. Problems arise when a 3 marries an 8 and they cannot resolve it. The anxiety over this will come out sideways in the relationship. Finally, where are you, as a couple with your lovemaking needs? I’ve got to tell you that it took me a long time to understand that this was not the same as sex. Maybe it is a guy thing, but a healthy discussion between partners may free both of you up to move the relationship for- ward in this area. What limits you from enjoying or participat- ing in these areas? Where do your ideas overlap? Where can you work on compromise? Perhaps most importantly, what is “regular” to ya’ll? Your relationship will benefit if you recognize that these areas are best defined by you both, not by Cosmopolitan. A gift to each other.

[– Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Categories:** Couples

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### [Better Marriage Relationships](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/better-marriage-relationships-2/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

If the truth be known, I am probably only a marginally effective marriage counselor. The only redemption in accepting this statement is that I am not sure any of my peers rank higher. It is not that I don’t have enough education or technique. I have licenses and diplomas that clearly illustrate that I am educated well beyond my own intelligence. There is a contributing fac- tor to this process, however, that limits a counselor from moving the couple along to a higher functional level. That limiting factor is the willingness or ability of the couple themselves to participate.

Whenever a couple comes in, one or both acknowledges that they have problems in the relationship that need to be fixed, and even “probably have some things they should look at about themselves.” This is code for “I need to look like I am open to the process, but frankly, if the other one in this relationship would deal with their issues \[that are offensive to me\], we would be fine.” The only exception to this slam dunk truth is when one or both have been working on their “stuff” individually before relational counseling and have dealt with their contribution to the relationship. Then the slam dunk truth is only partially true.

As marriage counselors, we work with what shows up in the office and the art of our job is to identify the level at which the couple is playing and try to coach them further up the curve. Again the growth is limited not only by our educational skill but by our ability to relate at what- ever level the couple arrives with. So couples, here are some things you can do to further growth in your relationship, whether you use a counseling process or not. As the line goes (with apologies to Jerry Maquire), “Help us help you!”

First, tap into your ability to be self honest. Growth begins when you look at you. Of course you see the faults in the other better than they do. The ability to focus on others rather than ourselves leads to blame which ensures we never see our part. The relationship does not improve until both parts improve their offering. Second, learn that you are responsible for your own feelings, and your own happiness. If you are not sure of what it is you need or want, how in the world do you expect your partner to participate? Handing them responsibility for your happiness again puts you into the victim role and you hand away the power you have for getting your needs met. “They should know what I want/like without me having to ask for it” is a recipe for disaster, frustration and is not true.

Third, develop better boundaries. Protective boundaries keep us from having to take on what others say or do. Containment boundaries keep us from stepping on other people’s toes. Learn to develop both or you will drain your level of emotional energy that is required to work in an effective relationship. This is very difficult work and most don’t do it very well. I usually spend several sessions with couples just on boundaries. Take a class, read a book, practice with each other. You and the relationship deserve better than what most of bring in the area of boundaries.

Finally, marriage is not a net-sum relation- ship. There should be unlimited love, acceptance and positive regard. For one to win, the other does not have to lose (a feature of dysfunctional homes). The quick indicator I watch for is the level of reactivity around criticism and defensiveness. Couples describe horrible fights from last Tuesday, but 3 weeks from now cannot even tell you what they were about. This indicates reactivity not a meaningful conflict or difference. Reactivity is always tied to history and almost always predates the couple. Deal with the history and learn about you or you will blame the other for your unhappiness for the rest of the relationship. (Then whoever dies first wins). Most of us spent more time in Driver’s Ed than we did learning about healthy relationships. If you want to improve yours, growth is available, and it is a rewarding effort. Help us help you.

–

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S*

**Categories:** Marriage Maintenance

---

### [The
Cost
of
Depression](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/the-cost-of-depression/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

My heart is hurting.

Last summer a good friend of mine died from his depression. As a minister, it was a privilege to serve his widow by presiding at his memorial service. As his friend I have cried before, during and after his funeral. Suicide invites us to evaluate our relationship with the person, and a lot of “what ifs?” and “if only I had…” surface in our mind. Yet as a counselor I know that depression takes people to places they would not go on their own, and at some point, get so far out there they cannot get back on their own, or even ask for help.

It is beyond the scope of this article to go into depression, medicine or suicide at any length but it there is a stigma that surrounds these issues that need to be considered. Mental illness is an organic chemical imbalance. This chemical imbalance can often be addressed in a number of ways. Exercise is one way. We’ve all heard of endorphins and their effect on the brain. While I personally don’t believe in endorphins while I am on the last quarter mile while running on the treadmill (then I only believe in panting), I do know that somehow I feel better if I work out regularly both physically and mentally. There is a physical reaction, an organic reaction that occurs in the brain that addresses the chemical imbalance when someone is depressed. Another way this chemical imbalance can be addressed is through counseling. Changes in brain chemistry can be made with changes in behavior. You can act your way into right thinking (and feeling) in many circumstances. The process is gradual, though remarkable progress can be made. Another way to address the chemical imbalance is through medicine. Sometimes it is the only way, depending on the imbalance.

Depression is best addressed however with a combination of these resources, including medicine. Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to depression, and its treatment. In fact, this stigma continues with most mental illness. With education and time, I hope this stigma disappears. (We used to believe there was something wrong with left‐handed people. Ever heard of a “left handed compliment?” The stigma around being left‐handed is the etiological source of this phrase). Anyway, there is resistance to the belief that medicine is appropriate for use in depression. That somehow the individual should just “snap themselves out of it.”

If you subscribe to this approach I would challenge you to tell a diabetic to “just get over it” without their insulin, or that someone should just “snap out” of their high blood pressure. The principle is the same. Medicine can help address the chemical imbalance of the diabetic, one with high blood pressure and the depressed.

I cannot begin to imagine the dark place that my friend found himself when suicide seemed like a good choice. To be in a place where the ending of one’s life looks like a reasonable alternative. To be in that place, something is chemically broken in the brain and the illness succeeded in taking his life. If my practice is any indicator, men seek treatment far less that women do, yet studies show that depression affects both sexes about the same. If you or someone you know suffers from depression (or think you might), please take a step towards health and recovery. You do not have to live like this.

My heart is hurting.

–
[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Depression

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### [End of Life Choices](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/end-of-life-choices/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

We should be very very scared of what is going on in Florida right now.

Try to put Terry Schavo out of your mind and walk with me down a path that you will likely walk for yourself or with someone you love. As a patient in a health care setting, you have the right to make choices about your health care. This principle is called autonomy. It is the right that ensures that your choices are honored. It is the responsibility of the medical team to bring you information about your condition and bring you appropriate alternative approaches to deal with your situation. But ultimately the choice of treatment is yours. This is straightforward so long as we deal with a broken bone or a readily treatable infection. But what happens when the stakes are higher. We in the United States do a lousy job at end-of-life care. In part, I believe we suffer from the societal denial that death will ever affect one of us individually. For whatever reason, we sometimes shut our brains off and allow medical decisions at end of life to be driven by technology. You may well find yourself in the situation of having to ask the difficult question of “just because we can, should we?” When at that juncture, who do you want to make medical decisions for you? For myself, I would like to be able to include a team in making this choice. My team would include the medical staff, my family, and perhaps my minister. Ultimately however, it should be your choice.

But what happens if you become incapacitated and unable to speak for yourself. Who do you want to make your choices for you. It has long been recognized that this decision should go to next of kin. Theoretically, this is the individual that would know you best and be in the position of being able to decide for you as you would decide for yourself. We are given the opportunity to specify this decision maker through the legal device of Medical Power of Attorney. It is available at any hospital, or, your lawyer can help develop one for you. In addition, there is a device in Texas known as the Advanced Directive to Family and Physicians. This instrument may be used to help provide information to the decision maker that the physician will be looking at to make the decisions you might be unable to make for yourself.

Back to Terry Schavo. My thoughts and prayers go out to the family. My issue with this situation is not about the choices that anyone is making, but rather that the Terry Schavos right to autonomy has been violated. It should scare you that the individual that is legally chosen to make Terry’s decisions for her, choices that she herself wanted, has been unable to speak on her behalf because the government is trying to choose differently.

I worked for three years as Palliative Care Chaplain at a local hospital. As chaplain, it was my job to walk with families such as this in this difficult time. It was not my job to make decisions for the family, simply to support them as they chose the path that was right for the family, right for the decision maker, but most importantly, right for the patient. The results of these decisions were not the same from case to case, but we were always clear that the decision maker did have say. It was a much easier choice for the decision maker when a discussion with the patient had been held and everyone was clear on the patient’s wishes. They were harder choices were made when families had to guess or even argue about what the patient would have wanted.

The choice to continue, or discontinue life support, be it ventilator support, artificial hydration or artificial nutrition are medical treatment choices. One side of Mrs. Schavos issue wants to claim that she will “starve to death” when in fact, based on her own desires and understanding of the situation, the governmental interference is extending her suffering. If you were the patient, would you want to make these choices for your treatment, or would you prefer to designate a decision maker? Please be clear, now, with your family and loved ones what your choices are to be, and put the necessary forms on file with the health care facility, your attorney and your family.

And pray that the State and Federal Government, and George W. Bush do not take a political interest in your situation.

–
[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Support

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### [Healthy Marriage](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/healthy-marriage/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

If the truth be known, I am probably only a marginally effective marriage counselor. The only redemption in accepting this statement is that I am not sure any of my peers rank higher. It is not that I don’t have enough education or technique. I have licenses and diplomas that clearly illustrate that I am educated well beyond my own intelligence. There is a contributing factor to this process, however, that limits a counselor from moving the couple along to a higher functional level. That limiting factor is the willingness or ability of the couple themselves to participate.

 Whenever a couple comes in, one or both acknowledges that they have problems in the relationship that need to be fixed, and even “probably have some things they should look at about themselves.” This is code for “I need to look like I am open to the process, but frankly, if the other one in this relationship would deal with their issues \[that are offensive to me\], we would be fine.” The only exception to this slam dunk truth is when one or both have been working on their “stuff” individually before relational counseling and have dealt with their contribution to the relationship. Then the slam dunk truth is only partially true.

 As marriage counselors, we work with what shows up in the office and the art of our job is to identify the level at which the couple is playing and try to coach them further up the curve. Again the growth is limited not only by our educational skill but by our ability to relate at whatever level the couple arrives with. So couples, here are some things you can do to further growth in your relationship, whether you use a counseling process or not. As the line goes (with apologies to Jerry Maquire), “Help us help you!” First, tap into your ability to be self honest. Growth begins when you look at you. Of course you see the faults in the other better than they do. The ability to focus on others rather than ourselves leads to blame which ensures we never see our part. The relationship does not improve until both parts improve their offering. Second, learn that you are responsible for your own feelings, and your own happiness. If you are not sure of what it is you need or want, how in the world do you expect your partner to participate?

Handing them responsibility for your happiness again puts you into the victim role and you hand away the power you have for getting your needs met. “They should know what I want/like without me having to ask for it” is a recipe for disaster, frustration and is not true. Third, develop better boundaries. Protective boundaries keep us from having to take on what others say or do. Containment boundaries keep us from stepping on other people’s toes. Learn to develop both or you will drain your level of emotional energy that is required to work in an effective relationship. This is very difficult work and most don’t do it very well. I usually spend several sessions with couples just on boundaries. Take a class, read a book, practice with each other. You and the relationship deserve better than what most of bring in the area of boundaries.

 Finally, marriage is not a net-sum relationship. There should be unlimited love, acceptance and positive regard. For one to win, the other does not have to lose (a feature of dysfunctional homes). The quick indicator I watch for is the level of reactivity around criticism and defensiveness. Couples describe horrible fights from last Tuesday, but 3 weeks from now cannot even tell you what they were about. This indicates reactivity not a meaningful conflict or difference. Reactivity is always tied to history and almost always predates the couple. Deal with the history and learn about you or you will blame the other for your unhappiness for the rest of the relationship. (Then whoever dies first wins). Most of us spent more time in Driver’s Ed than we did learning about healthy relationships. If you want to improve yours, growth is available, and it is a rewarding effort. Help us help you.

–
[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Marriage Counseling

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### [Insurance Crisis](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/insurance-crisis/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Last summer, after much encouragement from my wife, I made an appointment to see my physician about my snoring. (I was sleeping just fine- thank you). I am on my wife’s health plan and we hoped that since we were on the top tier plan (that means most expensive), that perhaps any necessary treatment would be a covered benefit. After a physical we found out that I was pretty healthy but I needed to watch my cholesterol, and a sleep study was warranted. The sleep lab called and had approval for the study from my insurance. What you go through for this evaluation is fodder for another story but suffice to say that for me, the emphasis was on their study, not my sleep. At any rate, after the doctor reads the evaluation he tells me that yes, I do indeed need one of those night time breathing machines, but will require another study to determine appropriate settings. The study was ap- proved by Insurance Almighty and the study completed. My healthcare coverage even included the cost of the C-pap machine. We were told. At this point some of the claims started being rejected. I will save you the 6 hours of discussion that it took for me to finally glean what had happened. It seems that sleep disorders are not a covered benefit for my policy in 2007 (ironically they are in 08). My insurance “Claims Representative” was very helpful in telling me they should not have approved the work. At this point, the lab was paid but they were stiffing the physician. On my initial round of calls Cheryl in Chicago tells me that this was going to be called “an exception.” The mistake was theirs, and all associated work would be covered. Sounded good, but 3 months later, the bills are still unpaid, and the Supervisor I have appealed to tells me I never talked to Cheryl and I have never talked to Chicago.

At this point I find out that my wife’s employer actually has a contract with a negotiation company whose sole purpose in life is to argue with Insurance Almighty. Kind of a nice benefit isn’t it? What it tells me though is that this runaround we all get from the insurance companies is now standard practice and to be expected. The employer provides health insurance but only with a company that is not going to pay (at least not without hours and hours of arguing). This health advocate company also had my claims denied. I was left with one final appeal before lawsuit, and the insurance company finally paid. In this same time frame I have had lab work to check the cholesterol. The lab has not been paid because the same insurance company has told them that my wife and I have other health insurance so they won’t pay. I am up to the appeal process here.

In gaining pre-approval for a colonoscopy (yes I am that old) the medical office said they were told it is covered benefit three calls our of five, so we went with the assumption that it will be covered. (My doctor said they used to do two calls out of three, but lately have had better ac- curacy with three out of five).

My father died last year and one of the kindest things he ever did was line up his own burial. One of the features he paid for was a life insurance policy that would pay off the arrangements if he died before payments were finished. We got the bill last week that said since my father died, he must have had a pre-existing condition that led to his death so they are not going to pay off his note. Huh? The doctor says the cancer wasn’t diagnosed until a year after dad bought this contract but maybe the insurance company knows something the oncologist doesn’t. I am not sure dad is all that willing to pay the difference at this point. I certainly am not.

When the recent storms took it’s toll on my satellite dish I dreaded what I knew was going to happen when I called the utility company. I am amazed to say that I now prefer to deal with a utility company over my insurance company. My only offering to you is that when you see the battle coming, start with a fresh sheet of paper and log all that is said. Date, time, who you talk to, content of conversation and ask for the reference number of the call. If I had an easy way to do it, I would record all calls. When I used to get that warning that “this call may be monitored” I had begun to hope that it was. But then I realized they may be monitoring the call to chastise the rep for being too helpful or too honest. A physician client of mine says this is standard operating procedure now. I do not know where this insurance thing is going, but if our own insurance company has become the enemy of our health, what is the point of having insurance at all.

–

[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [Is There Room for Religion in Christian Counseling?](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/is-there-room-for-religion-in-christian-counseling/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

“Do you do Christian counseling?” The caller had asked a question that I have come to fear and one which raises the hair on the back of my neck. I have learned not to answer directly, but rather to respond, “why do you ask?” Some- times the caller wishes to explore my belief system and approach to counseling, but I am finding that a large percentage of the calls are out of fear and in response to how they have been treated by their last “Christian Counselor.”

In the movie “Leap of Faith” Steve Martin plays Jonas Nightengale, a convincing faith healer/con man who never wavers in telling people to ante-up with their faith and their money if they expect changes in their life. When the changes don’t happen he is happy to allow that his parishioner victims simply did not have enough faith.

When a “Christian Counselor” blames a client’s circumstance solely on lack of faith or a client’s unchanged circumstance on poor prayer habits, it is religious abuse. The counseling process must be about more than religious directives in spite of a particular client’s circumstance. A 1992 Gallup Poll shows that of those seeking counseling:

“Sixty six percent prefer a professional counselor who represented their spiritual values and belief, and 81% preferred to have their own values and beliefs integrated into the counseling process.”

In light of this, it is clear that most clients seek counseling that will be congruent with his or her own values. But what exactly are the counselor’s values? The range is very wide, even on such basic notions as biblical inerrancy and salvation. There is something very warm about knowing that one’s decision is truly God’s decision. Unfortunately, the counseling does not come with the guarantee that God’s will is truly being followed or suggested. Credentials and licenses may help, but the possibility of abuse is tremendous. Denominational requirements for ordination vary all the way from $25.00 ministerial licenses available on the Internet to traditional Protestant ordination paths of 4-6 years of supervised process and education. Rabbinical pursuits may be longer yet with demands of study in Jerusalem. Licenses are only minimum standards set by secular state government for counseling, and other private associations set their own standards. Some of these designations are truly helpful. Which ones?

Even good intention and piety do not necessarily overlap with quality counseling. If the counselor imposes their values behind the skirts of Divine Directive, again, it is religious abuse. Which teller window is the client stepping up to?

The difference between Pastoral/Christian counseling and secular counseling is directly related to the importance that the counselor and client place on the religious or spiritual influence within the encounter. At one end of the continuum is the position that religion or spirituality plays no role in the process. At the other end is the position claimed by the counselor (and granted by the client) that the counselor speaks for God, and so directs the client. A healthy place for the client to begin this journey of placing themselves on this spectrum is around the their own understanding (I ask them to articulate it) as to why “Christian” or “Religious” counseling is important to them. In exchange the counselor should be able to articulate an answer as to why they claim to be a pastoral or “Christian” counselor and describe and explain their credentials around counseling and ministry. Don’t accept these answers at face value without exploring what they mean for you or for the counselor. If scripture or religion is to be used as a weapon to manipulate behavior or feelings then the client needs to be very cautious, and please, don’t call it Christian or pastoral.

–

[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [The Myths of Mindreading](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/the-myths-of-mindreading-2/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

“If he cared about me he would just know what to do.”
“If she loved me, she would know what I liked.”
“If I have to ask for it, it means it is not sincere when they do it- I want him/her to do it without me having to ask!”

All three of these statements come out of the realm of romantic fantasy. All three rely on mindreading and are recipes guaranteed to add to our relationship frustrations, yet they are common beliefs. From Sleepless In Seattle to any given copy of Cosmo we have all been set up to believe that somehow other people (especially those closest to us) are supposed to be able to “just know” what we like and what we need. And so, in this belief, we never learn to ask to get our needs met. 
In the last Shrek movie there is a scene where all of the characters that missed out on their “Happily Ever After ending” congregate to commiserate. Now, I am not sure we have to go to that extreme, but honestly, the characters in that scene were more real than the rest of what Hollywood would have us believe. Sleeping Beauty was lying unconscious until the magic kiss, when suddenly; all of her needs were met. But wait- 30 seconds earlier- she didn’t even know what her needs were! I love a good story but as a therapist I am here to testify that over time we as a culture have developed some unrealistic expectations about how others are to relate to us.
Ultimately it is our responsibility to get our own needs met. It is perfectly acceptable to ask for help in getting them met. And- it is ok for others to say no. The last three sentences are often fraught with mis-understanding. The point is, if we are going to hand over the responsibility for our happiness (or any of our wants or needs) to other people we lose the ability to meet our own needs and we turn into victims. “Oh why won’t they do this for me?” becomes our mantra and we blame others for our circumstance. The way through this is to realize first that we are not victims, we are volunteers. We must take responsibility for our own actions and our own needs. I will say again, it is our responsibility to get our own needs met, and, we are allowed to ask for help from others to get them met. 
I was teaching an intimacy class one time to 8 or 10 couples. The class was named “Frisky Business” and we were discussing this very idea. Now these couples had been married anywhere from 18 months to 24 years so it was quite a mix. I had everyone take out a sheet of paper and asked them to write down 10 things their spouse could do for them that help them feel that they were loved and appreciated in the relationship.
(Whenever I do this exercise with couples I have to set 3 parameters. The 10 things cannot include chores, tv, or sex. Otherwise I get back “do the dishes for me”, “leave me alone when the game is on” and “do this particular thing in bed for me”). So they began the exercise. It went fine for a minute or two, but then I began noticing that people weren’t writing. Everyone had 2 or 3 written down, but their enthusiasm for the exercise was falling off fast. After another minute or so people were flat out trying to copy off of others papers to look busy. But wait- I had asked them to write me a list of what their significant other could do for them to make them feel special. If we cannot define this for ourselves, how in the world are others supposed to contribute?

How are they supposed to magically know what we need when we aren’t even sure ourselves? So I offer to you that our first step in getting our needs met is to be able to identify what they are. This is not as easy as it sounds, must of us focus on how we want to feel rather than focusing on what we need. We can get better at it however and the reward is that we get to quit placing unrealistic expectations on those around us and we get to give up the resentment we hold over others when we don’t feel what we want to feel. As I begin to work with clients on this process I steal a concept from the YMCA. They have a visual motto that has Mind-Body-Spirit at the points of a triangle. This is a useful model to examine what you need in these areas to stay balanced. Take out a piece of paper, make three columns and start writing. As you develop your list, start a discussion with your SO or a friend to start getting feedback and perspective about this balance we all need and seek. Erma Bombeck, a practical humorist, once wrote something to her sisters on Valentines Day. She said something to the effect – “Ladies- if you didn’t get what you wanted today it is because you didn’t circle it in the paper and put it on his plate yesterday.” She was a favorite author of mine, and came from a different time in our culture but her point is valid. For us (male or female) to have expectations about how others are treat us, without us participating in the process, is inviting disaster in the relationship. Figure out what you need, and learn to ask for it. Take responsibility for your own feelings, for your own peace and your own happiness.

**Categories:** Couples

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### [One Professional’s Use of Al-Anon](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/one-professionals-use-of-al-anon/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

My counseling practice is hosted by a faith- based organization and many clients come in who are trying to manage or begin to understand the disease of alcoholism. The concept of a family disease is usually foreign to them by name, but when we begin to consider behaviors within the family system, the client can usually begin to recognize the pervasiveness of this disease. Given where the practice stands, we usually end up discussing the morality of alcoholism amidst the struggle of family members who are trying to “make the alcoholic quit” or at least modify the other person’s behavior. I explore this desire by encouraging the family members to consider that the alcoholic is a sick person trying to get well, rather than a bad person trying to get good.

Al-Anon is a useful resource for the family members (and friends) to go and explore how they participate in this system, or family disease. We are hopeful about getting the alcoholic to modify their behavior, but I challenge these family members to consider that they need to begin to look at where they can change their own behavior and perspective. I am careful at this point to explain that this is not about blame, but rather seeing the system from third person, and under- standing that they need to be willing to work on their own behaviors. We accept that alcoholism is a family disease, and members of the family must show willingness to address this disease if they plan to ask the alcoholic to address the dis- ease. My rule for members of an alcoholic system is that you don’t put more effort into the alcoholic’s recovery than the alcoholic will. But, conversely, everyone must be willing to begin to work on his or her own stuff. Al-Anon is the first place I send clients to help them begin to understand this principle of participation in the system. In counseling jargon, they are invited to understand their own level of self-differentiation within the family. In addition, the principles of Al-Anon promote higher levels of this self- differentiation. A simple example of this is when a member learns and internalizes that they do not have the power to “cause” someone else’s alco- holism. To learn that they cannot “control” or “cure” the disease allows the individual to begin to consider where their level of control is, and how they might engage the alcoholic differently- perhaps even to “detach with love.” (When this is internalized, the family member usually fully grasps the usefulness and challenges found within the Serenity Prayer).

Alcoholism is a family disease, and as such, must be treated within the entire family. The drinking is but a symptom of the problem. Otherwise, abstinence from alcohol would eliminate all problems. Usually not the case. Attendance at Al-Anon is the fastest way I can get clients to engage in a healthy fashion with this disease. I point out that to resist treating their role in the system is no different than the alcoholic refusing to quit drinking. I am convinced that the number one feature of this disease is denial. This is true for both the alcoholic and the al-anon. Solution focus within the meetings and for the participants moves the clients to a place where they gain some relief, begin to grow, and move them to deal with their own situation productively.

[– Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Categories:** Alcoholism

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### [Reducing the Stress of Change](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/reducing-the-stress-of-change/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

The changes continue! How are we to embrace the change?

It is a consistent thought in our culture that change is hard, people resist change, and that movement and growth is often in spite of ourselves. There is an alternative view however that bears looking at. We know in the helping professions that there are systems that move to growth and health. Skin tears mend. Bones repair. Grief is dealt with.

So why do we want to hang out on the street corner of Change and Resistance and proclaim that a necessary crossroad?

The medical community stands in a unique place today. Patients have invested their trust in their health care provider and now the fruit is coming to bear. Physicians are in the place of trust now that some clarity has occurred and our population is moving back to some level of normal. Initially, when the pandemic first hit in 2020, most of our culture looked to authority figures outside of themselves for guidance. We quickly learned that “the authorities” proved to be offering a moving target. Local, State and Federal recommendations changed frequently and were less than consistent. As things have calmed, as the rhetoric has begun to diminish. The Physician (particularly our personal physician) is returning to the position of authority that our community depends on. And the opportunity arises for the Medical Community to begin to speak of change with a more encouraging approach. We humans may be uncomfortable with change, but we are designed to take advantage of it. It is a survival tool at the cellular as well as the communal level.

One of the factors we learned well in the last year or two is how important the immune system is as stress is encountered. To begin to acknowledge change as a part of our growth will lessen the impact of the stress of the change. As an example- Most physicians I am working with acknowledge that telehealth has taken on a new role in their practice. This is a great opportunity to look at one’s thoughts around this and make some choices about what parts of telehealth benefit the practice and help either the physician, the patient and which parts benefit both. It will be a rare case that some benefit cannot be found in one of these areas. For the physician to use this paradigm shift on this topic as a talking point with patients when they begin to lament the changes that have to face through Covid will model and healthier approach to the change.

Similarly, to begin to embrace the new norm of masks in office (for many of us) or sanitization practices that we have performed in our office in front of the patient is another great opportunity to acknowledge that the medical community growths through change as well. How this is presented to the patient or our staff will impact the level of resistance that comes with the ask. When we model a matter-of-factness with new practice it is accepted more readily. There are plenty of changes to inventory and engage, the invitation is to model your approach to it as an act of care for your patients.

We are a year and a half into this global pandemic and change continues to greet us at every corner. As this is written the United States sits at about a 67% vaccination rate. States and even parts of the Metroplex vary. Other parts of the world offer substantially different numbers. And how is our population to deal with these differences often even in the same house. From a psychological point of view we teach clients that they need to develop a sense of safety from within, rather than depending others to do it for them. As a part of this development, we coach to develop a trusted circle they can depend on and one which will support them through day to day activity, even day to day change. We are back to our regular check-ups. The postponed procedures have begun to resume and we are starting to connect with our Physician as we were a couple of years ago. The physician has far greater influence on the individual over the WHO or even our own CDC.

Change may be unpopular but we can help people approach it in a way that lessens their anxiety, and help them embrace their movement towards health.

[– Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Categories:** Support

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### [Sex Ed 101](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/sex-ed-101/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I guess we should all feel better now that NBC’s Katie Couric has given us the code words that teens are using around sex. We can all sleep better with the knowledge that “hooking up” has multiple meanings and that “friends with benefits” does not include health care. It makes for titillating T.V. but how does this information, or the statistic that 4 of 10 fifteen-sixteen year-olds have had sex, help us in our community. This subject is not going to go away, and I am sure that it will be controversial to our children’s grandchildren as it is to us. It amazes me how- ever how our society wants to argue and dele- gate around sex education. Should it be in the school? Should the school teach abstinence? What about safe sex? Should STD’s be talked about? Where have our kids gone to find out about sex?

I would suggest that we have confused the issue. From an educational point of view, of course we need to teach biology. The reproductive system in the human species is not about values, it is a matter of fact. And our kids need to know these facts.

It is the issue of the timing about reproduction, methods of birth control and issues of sexually transmitted diseases that cause the discussion to heat up. As a counselor and as a minister I offer that these issues of value and morality do not belong to the government, but rather, to the family, and by extension, the church. Sexuality is a gift from God, one meant to be enjoyed, ex- pressed and appreciated. This is not a new role for the church, i.e., discussions of morality, sim- ply one that the church needs to reclaim.

Where have you stepped up to enhance the biology lesson with discussions of morality and values with your children? How do you model respect for the other sex in your relationship with your spouse? When have you discussed the differences between men and women and their approach to visual images? How has this discussion informed the way your daughter dresses in public? I am not a prude, but I was dumb-founded last week to see a well developed female teenager 14-15 years old wearing a revealing t-shirt (she had ripped it to show cleavage) with the inscription on the front that said “Porn Star.” She was shopping with her mother. How have you talked with your son about pornography and the relationship between these images and real life relationships?

Personally, I do not want PISD teaching morality to my children. That is not their job (and by the way, they don’t want it), but becomes their responsibility when we saddle them with teaching anything other than biology. I do how- ever, expect my church to step up to the plate here. Sex education needs to be a process, not a one-time discussion. As kids age, we need to continue to address it as their experience and understanding increases. The pastoral counselor in me tells me that our churches need to be the voice in the wilderness on this issue. We need to provide this structure, influence, support and safety to our kids. If you think a “just say no” campaign is working, you have your head in the sand.

**Categories:** Couples

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### [Walking with Our Kids through Cyberspace](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/walking-with-our-kids-through-cyberspace/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

In the course of my counseling teens and their families one of the subjects we invariably get around to is computer and cyberspace usage. Unless Mom or Dad is in the computer business or high tech, the kids are savvier than the parents are. The some- what offensive notion that we used to hold about our parents being a little doddering and out of touch has come true. Unfortunately we are them. Most, if not all, of my adolescent clients have their own web site under My Space or Facebook. Does your child have one? This is a site where anyone can claim a spot and start posting information, photos, music, video and invite comments from others. In an attempt to stay connected with my clients I posted my own MySpace (Actually my 13 year old did. This is obvious when you see that my profile tells the world that the focus of my world is my daughter and “I devote my life to serving her because the world revolves around her!”). I am then invited by others into their world on MySpace. In my “network” I am connected to 171,950,541 others. Friends of friends. There exist minimal safe- guards to the sites for the underage. They must invite you to join their sites. I have the privilege of seeing what is on your child’s site. You clearly do not know what is out there, or at least we need to visit about what you are allowing your child to post. Risqué pictures, blatant racism, simulated sex video and provocative blogging. As you might imagine, meanness comes out as well. The drama of High School is now played out online as well as in the halls of the school.

Whenever I notice societal trends that [concern](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/) me, I always pause to remember the video of the preacher of the 60’s ranting and berating rock and roll from the pulpit because it was going to destroy society. “Ask any young person what they like about this rock music- they will tell you it’s the beat!” 40 years later I am still trying to understand what is wrong with rhythm. So I try to be cautious before raising an alarm. I suppose what concerns me most is that without guidance, our kids are exploring uncharted waters. We are somewhat cautious about what our children are exposed to. That is what rating systems are about at the movies. We get the opportunity to help shape what meaning our children make of various information pieces. And, we get to help them relate consequences to behavior. If we do not walk with them on the computer, we cannot offer this to them. We used to think that the brain was pretty much developed by the mid teens. Newer research shows that the growth and maturation of the brain does not occur until about 22. What this indicates to me is that we cannot blindly allow our children to wander with no boundaries. Most parents would not turn a young teenager lose in downtown Dallas but that is exactly what we do with their brain as they go into a computer we don’t know how to navigate. It is seductive for them to use that space to practice relationship skills, and explore their creativity, but boundaries need to be offered, and most parents are not taking advantage of this opportunity to help shape their children.

College students are finding out that posting inappropriate material on the Web comes back to haunt them at job interviews when their activity no longer remains anonymous (it really never was anonymous, it only seemed so). Likewise for a young teen to fantasize or report about something they have done will bring consequence.

This is a great intersection for the parents to discuss trust with their child. The teen is going to rightly seek privacy. But trust must be earned, not simply granted. And its earning occurs with proof that appropriate choices are made. I would offer that the child gets to access their site and post whatever, but we as parents must maintain the right to cruise through it at our discretion. Again, this is a great opportunity to sit with them and reflect on what you see on the site and what it means to your child. I am not naïve enough to believe that this will be a welcomed activity (I too have teenagers), but you owe it to your child to know what they are doing in their neighbor- hood, and who is in it with them. The big difference today is that it is a neighborhood that we did not have access to when we were their age.

– Rev. Daniel Gowan

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [The Price Parents Pay](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/the-price-parents-pay-2/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

With a senior at West, I was not surprised at the stories of excess that were relayed in the Dallas Morning News series The Price of Prosperity. As a parent, I too readily recognize the pressures that my kids face to “keep up” as well as the internal tension I personally have to deal with as I grapple with my own history and the desires I have for my children. As a counselor I have come to see that parental responses to kids over issues like spending and accountability fall along the traditional bell curve. My admission here is that I probably fall onto the more conservative/strict half of the bell than do many parents. With that caveat aside, I would also submit that the point of the series was that the whole curve is skewed with the level of prosperity that is found in parts of Collin County. So the task of modeling and instructing appropriate behavior for our kids does become a challenge.

I asked a parent/client where balance was for them on this issue, and he laughed and said that it was the point they waived at as they shot from one extreme to the other. I can relate. For us, we have found that balance on spending must include participation by the child in setting limits. In addition, the child must have the freedom to choose an alternative within these same boundaries. Credit cards with no limits don’t fly in our house.

We gave my son an old truck of mine when he began to drive. He is expected to pay for gas and insurance. This meant a job, or no truck. What he has discovered recently is that it is a gas guzzling truck. Gas is costing more. More hours of work vs. fewer miles driven. (See how nicely this is starting to work?) He has his own checking and savings account, and is expected to keep up with his debit card. I was surprised however when he relayed that in class the other day, only about half the students had a checking account and that of those, only 2 of the kids balanced their own checkbook. We gave my son a pay as you go cell phone and started him with a few minutes. It is his responsibility to pay for it. His time, his minutes, his money. He gets to see the relationship first hand. I will add that we will occasionally buy him a card for phone minutes and a tank of gas, but we try to hold to the principle that he is ultimately responsible for these items.

We have also begun to encourage savings. Do the math with your child on a Roth IRA that begins at age 16. It becomes easier to get a buy in around the savings plan. (I wish my Dad had done that for me!).

Our daughter gets a (fairly) regular allowance that has some flexibility for more dollars with more chores. When the “I wants” start, we defer quickly to “You’re welcome to use your own money.” A level of thoughtfulness then ensues about how important the want really is. It is this consideration that I believe we are trying to instill.

To ignore teaching these lessons to our kids sets them up for failure unless the money is al- ways going to be unlimited. (Sorry, I can’t speak to that situation…) Consumerism is a big deal these days for them and for us. I believe we owe it to our children to teach them how to match wants and needs with reality and ability to pay. The cost in not doing this is a harsh harsh lesson for the child down the road when there may not be a safety net.

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Side by Side in Camptalk](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/side-by-side-in-camptalk/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

The following is the article currently running (August 09) in Camptalk, the monthly publication of the Dallas Safari Club. I have secured a column there based on the concept of “Outdoor Parenting.” My kids are tolerating it well so far. Time will tell.

Side By Side: My son got this terrible look on his face. All I had done was ask him to step out onto the porch with me as I needed to talk to him. He didn’t want to go outside and I asked him why. “Because you’re like the Santa Claus of bad news when we have to talk on the porch. It’s where you talk about STD’s, drugs, my speeding ticket, smoking, and every other thing I have ever done wrong.” He really did catch me by surprise. He was relieved to find out I only wanted to ask about his schedule and an elk hunt draw in Colorado. We didn’t draw Colorado that year but he pointed something out to me in the exchange. That is, very little of my “telling” is well received. Truth be told, most of the wisdom I have ever been able to impart to my kids has been while we were side-by-side, certainly not face to face. “Why does the buck chase the doe?” he asked me when we were sitting on Willow Creek outside Mason. We had let the doe and the trailing buck go but my son tossed me a pitch that any Dad could have hit out of the park. The chance to tell my boy about the birds the bees and the bucks, and he brought it up!

I told him about the rut, I told him about estrus, I told him about fawns and fights and I told him what went where and what happened when it got there. With every piece of information he kind of blinked and adjusted his neck. I finished and let him ponder all of this for just a moment and then laid the punch line on him. “And it is just like that for people too” I told him. With a look of shock and awe he turned to me wide-eyed and said “NOOOO” loud enough that the buck (long since gone) probably heard him. When you’re side-by-side with your kid you can sneak up on them. For some reason, a kid can talk to the parent easier if both are facing forward. One of the most important aspects of hunting and fishing with my kids has been the windshield time we got to spend together. With a trip longer than the one to the 7-11 the topics invariably get deeper. If you listen you can begin to hear what they truly are worried about and dealing with.

Parenting is more art than science. The sooner we learn to take up the teaching moments when they occur, side by side, the sooner we get to engage our kids about what is important.

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Relationships on Hold](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/relationships-on-hold/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Relationships on Hold

My son answered the phone one time too many at the dinner table. I’ll fix him……… (published in the Dallas News).

Relational Respect

In 1982 I took my first position out of col- lege with Eli Lilly & Co. Probably the greatest perk for that job was the mobile phone (not cel- lular) they provided us. The handset was mounted on the dash and about the size of a loaf of bread. The box that fueled it was mounted in the trunk and was the size of a small microwave. To get one in Dallas, the wait was 5-7 years, so I drove to Brownwood to get one sooner. The in- stallation only took 9 hours. As you traveled from town to town, you toggled the tower num- bers on the control panel according to a national directory you were given. I was always careful to call ahead to let my date know I’d be a few minutes late. It always impressed and to have a mobile phone when no one else did truly fed my ego.

Flash forward 25 years and my 13 year old sends photos and texts on a phone smaller than a pack of cards. We can’t get through a meal with- out somebody’s phone going off. We sure are in touch with each other. Today, the status is found with the one that can turn the phone off, or go somewhere without it. Kids today (I now offi- cially sound like my father) see nothing wrong with interrupting an in-person conversation with someone to take a call, or respond to a text. Back when Alexander introduced the ringing of the phone to the world, it tapped into a primal need we have to be wanted and valued by another. The urgency in a ringing phone took hold there and has been passed down from generation to generation. An interesting byproduct of this however is that we now claim the urgency of the ring (or vibration) over the actual importance of the call. If you don’t believe me, listen to your neighbor at Starbucks or dinner and pay atten- tion to the inane level of conversation. When did that become urgent or important?

I first thought the cell phone (and email and AIM and etc.) were going to help us improve our relationships. We were going to be able to con- nect better. We were going to be able to show others we value them. What I see however is how we show the ones we are with how much we do not value them when we place our interest in the unknown at the other end of the cell. I have begun to believe that this busy-ness (at the expense of the relationship) is so we do not have to deal with others or ourselves at an inti- mate level. We are, after all, too busy. I have clients, in my office for marriage counseling, who have convinced their spouse that they do not know how to turn off their Blackberry. Please. I have seen them answer the call in my office because it was ringing. At some point in- tention- and what we want to believe about someone else- gets trumped by what their behav- ior indicates. When you are sitting in marriage counseling, and you answer the phone, it is be- cause the call is more important than the spouse. Bet if you drop the PDA in a bucket of water it will turn off (or at least mute the ring).

The way to meet the need to be known by another (and to know them) is through appropriate intimacies (that may in fact be through the use of a cell phone) that focus on how we show the other they are important to us. “Put the phone away at dinner” I tell my kids, “and pay attention to those of us, with you, at the table.” There is a time to “check in” with others but not at the expense of the one you are with in person. Especially when on the counselor’s couch talking about marriage problems around communication.

[– Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Natural Consequences with Children](https://d2counseling.com/2020/01/03/natural-consequences-with-children/)

**Published:** January 3, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I spent the first 18 years of both of my children’s lives trying to give them my experience. I have concluded that this attempt has been a horrible failure as it relates to changing their choice of behavior. As I have watched others struggle with child rearing, and struggled myself, I have concluded that natural consequence is the most effective behavior modification available to parents.

There is a theory of learning and behavior modification that states right thinking will lead to right behavior. It is wrong! Thank goodness this thought prevails or the sale of self- help books would plummet! Experience will show however that you act your way into right thinking, you do not think your way into right acting. This is the reason it is so difficult to tell a child what to do. The consequence of a behavior is a far better teacher than anything we are going to tell them.

Experience in life is about action and consequence. As parents, then, the best we can do is hope that reflection about the consequence will lead to changed behavior. When the consequence is related to the behavior, this child then is faced with greater stakes the next time the situation arises. It would be nice if we could simply confer as parents and come up with a rolodex of behaviors and then list the corresponding natural consequence we would like to impose, but it is rarely that simple. I have found however a few principles that help me determine where to go in correlating consequence with behavior. First, the parent must not “fix” all the child’s problems. If you save the individual from the consequences of their behavior, then the behavior will not change. Completing the science project for them because they started too late only fosters a dependence on you, rather than moving them towards independence. Second, consequence needs to be related. If the issue with the child is not calling to check in while at the mall with friends, they will not relate to a consequence of extra chores during the week. Perhaps loss of the cell phone for a couple of weeks is more important and understandable to the child. Third, the consequence needs to be reasonable. If the child is responsible for feeding the family pet, we don’t let the dog die of starvation. We can relate the issue of eating to the situation and then Junior does not eat until Fido is fed. Finally, the consequence must keep the child safe. If the issue is drinking and driving drunk, it is not safe to let them drive drunk and wait for the wreck. The safer consequence for driving impaired is not driving.

Love is defined by Peck (*[The Road Less Traveled](https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Road-Less-Traveled-Timeless-Edition/M-Scott-Peck/9780743243155))* as “the extension of ourselves for the purpose of nurturing another’s spiritual growth.” I like that. When we set appropriate boundaries and consequences for our children, we are expressing our love for them. It is not love to simply let them do what they want. Our job as parents is to equip our children as they grow to meet the world on their own. They will not always have us there to save them, and it is our job to teach them how to be in this world without a dependency on us. Natural consequence will help us do that with them.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and*  *dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Parenting, Parenting Articles

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### [Let Nature Do The Work](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/let-nature-do-the-workthe-myths-of-mindreading-cloned/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I have spent 16 years trying to give my experience to my children. I have concluded that this attempt has been a horrible failure as it relates to changing their choice of behavior. As I have watched others struggle with child rearing, and struggled myself, I have concluded that natural consequence is the most effective behavior modification available to parents. There is a theory of learning and behavior modification that states right thinking will lead to right behavior. It is wrong! Thank goodness this thought prevails or the sale of self-help books would plummet! Experience will show however that you act your way into right thinking, you do not think your way into right acting. This is why it is so difficult to tell a child what to do. The consequence of a behavior is a far better teacher than anything we are going to tell them.

 Experience in life is about action and consequence. As parents, then, the best we can do is hope that reflection about the consequence will lead to changed behavior. When the consequence is related to the behavior, this child then is faced with greater stakes the next time the situation arises. It would be nice if we could simply confer as parents and come up with a rolodex of behaviors and then list the corresponding natural consequence we would like to impose, but it is rarely that simple. I have found however a few principles that help me determine where to go in correlating consequence with behavior.

 First, the parent must not “fix” all of the child’s problems. If you save the individual from the consequences of their behavior, then the behavior will not change. Completing the science project

for them because they started too late only fosters a dependence on you, rather than moving them towards independence.

 Second, consequence needs to be related. If the issue with the child is not calling to

check in while at the mall with friends, they will not relate to a consequence of extra chores during the week. Perhaps loss of the cell phone for a couple of weeks is more important and understandable to the child.

 Third, the consequence needs to be reasonable. If the child is responsible for feeding the family pet, we don’t let the dog die of starvation. We can relate the issue of eating to the situation and then Junior does not eat until Fido is fed.

Finally, the consequence must keep the child safe. If the issue is drinking and driving drunk, it is not safe to let them drive drunk and wait for the wreck. The safer consequence for driving impaired is not driving. Love is defined by Peck (The Road Less Traveled) as “the extension of ourselves for the purpose of nurturing another’s spiritual growth.” I like that.

 When we set appropriate boundaries and consequences for our children, we are expressing our love for them. It is not love to simply let them do what they want. Our job as parents is to equip our children as they grow to meet the world on their own. They will not always have us there to save them, and it is our job to teach them how to be in this world without a dependency on us. Natural consequence will help us do that with them.

[– Rev. Danial Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [High School Senior Rebellion](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/high-school-senior-rebellion/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

If you listen carefully, you can hear it all over Collin County. It is a disquieting noise, one that parents initially find annoying, but annoy- ance quickly turns to concern and exasperation. It is the sound of high school seniors hitting the “stupid wall.” The sound has a familiar ring to it, it happened last year at this time. It happened the years before that and will happen again next year. To the untrained ear it sounds a lot like the noise that would be made if you walked head long into a wall you didn’t know was there. Thunk.

My counseling calendar fills up every year at this time. It seems to coincide with the mail order arrival of high school graduation announcements. Normally bright, intelligent creative kids turn into thoughtless, unethical and mostly selfish creatures. When asked “what were you thinking?” you are met only with blank stares. They are only a shadow of their former selves.

I used to label these behaviors as simple rebellion but I have come to believe that this morphing is playing a useful role in facilitating the fast approaching flight from the nest. (I’ve been practicing my kicking motion for some months now). Tied closely to this is the opportunity for conflict to arise either over the behavior, or in some cases out of nowhere. The behaviors and the conflict are a natural part of the growing process and one which all kids engage in to some degree. This conflict facilitates independence and allows the child to focus on their own anger or the parents “unfairness” as a type of emotional rationale to separate and leave. The explanation is very intellectual but very unsatisfying (and usually forgotten) in the face of dealing with absurd, previously unconsidered, behavior.

What’s a parent to do…. Here, I speak as much as a fellow sojourner as I do Counselor. First, we must maintain the appropriate boundaries. Stick with me parents- there is strength in numbers! As the kids hit 17, 18, and 19, they want more freedoms and we should give it to them. But we must hold the line somewhere, and honestly, I see that there is a part of their development that needs to know where the boundary is. It should be a flexible boundary, but one that needs to be pointed out when the idiot behavior manifests itself. When curfew is wantonly disregarded, take away the car, the phone, the cash take away something- so they don’t just blow by the boundary again tomorrow. If the standards of truth in the home are taking a shellacking, examine the truth with them using your understanding of true and false and encourage their acceptance of your truth. Again, natural consequences should guide your choices on behavior modification.

Perhaps most helpful to us as boundary setters is to get support. We must stay united! In the midst of the crisis I find it useful to run my thought process (and intentions on correction) by someone else who has been there before. I personally use a couple of guys whose kids are a few years older than my own and they seem to appreciate the opportunity to help out. My initial response is almost always nuclear, that is, make the consequence so horrible that the offender will never consider doing it again. I think. This doesn’t work. It builds resentment, creates pushback and will not change behavior in spite of momentary satisfaction on my part. (It is sort of like revenge, it feels good initially but doesn’t ultimately serve a useful or healthy purpose and leads to remorse). By talking with others who are not involved in the battle I can take advan- tage of their perspective. If we choose our men- tors carefully we will gain the benefit of their experience. The process is moving as it is supposed to. (I keep having to repeat this to myself, and will soon believe it). Be strong parents- we can prevail!

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[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Drive Day](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/drive-day/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

For several years I have modified my email electronic signature to note events or trends in my children’s lives. It occurred to me the other day that a change is impending as my 14 year old daughter anticipates learning to drive.

In Texas the kids get to start learning to drive at 15 or so to prepare for the licensing process. Generally, with a few hours of class- room teaching, the student can obtain an instruc- tion permit once they are 15. This permit allows them to begin behind the wheel education. With a minimum of 6 months of further education (classroom, behind the wheel and testing) the student is eligible for licensing at 16. Even then there are additional limitations on the license. Two that I am very much in favor of are the pro- hibition of more than one passenger in the car that is under the age of 21. Focus is required for driving and a car full of your buddies does not contribute to this focus. Likewise, they are not allowed to use a “wireless communication de- vice.” Please, no texting or calling while you are driving in the car beside me. Perhaps because I do have two teenagers, I end up counseling a lot of adolescents and their families. If I can estab- lish a little trust with both sides that come to see me, my greatest ability in the relationship is one of translator. I usually am not invested in what the parent’s issues are and so can work with the kid to get the parents to see life from a teen’s point of view. If I can get the kid to lighten up on the attitude and use adult-friendly language, they usually walk out of the office feeling heard and gain back at least a little of the power they seek. Likewise, since I have kids, and worked in the Trauma Room at Methodist Hospital, I un- derstand parental concern and even fear. I have seen what rolls into the hospital at midnight and I am the guy that had to make that call in the middle of the night. I know first hand what hap- pens in the real world. BTW- midnight is the bewitching hour and kids need to be in before then. I will also admit that what I have seen has influenced where I draw boundaries with my kids (my son once told me that the gift he was going to give to his kids was that he would NOT work in an ER). Since I am not their parent, I can usually say the same thing that their parent has been saying (visualize Charlie Brown’s teacher and “BLAH BLAH BLAH”) for some time but the client-teen will hear it when I say it.

One of the issues that is a regular topic of discussion is when should the young teen start this education process around driving. The idea of Mommy’s little man or Daddy’s little girl be- hind the wheel is a sobering visualization. Not only does one realize how time has slipped past but also we are immediately struck with the im- maturity level of our child and the starting place of “they’re not ready to drive.” It is a constant topic for discussion (or negotiation) in my of- fice. To every parent’s surprise I come down on the side of the kid and encourage the parent to get them started behind the wheel as soon as possible.

Here is my rationale. Call the day that the child gets to drive by themselves (with your per- mission) Drive-Day. You do have control over when D-Day occurs. Hold out until the child is ready and as responsible as you can influence them to be. But the fact remains that the number of days between today and D-Day are finite. Let’s call that number X Days. Lets call the number of hours that the child practices in X days- call them Y hours. You can control the number of Y hours that the driver drives in X days. Here, more is better. As unnerving as it is, get them out and get them driving. There are things that happen on the road we cannot pre- dict, and no amount of “telling about them” will substitute for experience. Clearly, the way we drive will influence our teens but until they wit- ness another driver blow a red light and nearly kill them while behind the wheel, will they pay closer attention and increase awareness at lights. Putting off their driving will only limit their ex- perience, and ultimately we as parents get to choose D-Day. I want your child (and you want mine) to have as much experience between now and then as possible.

“In the spirit of full disclosure, both of my teen- agers are now driving.” Daniel Gowan

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[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Collaborative Divorce and Kids](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/collaborative-divorce-and-kids/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Time after time I have watched teenagers, just prior to leaving home, initiate conflict or exaggerate a fight with their parents to facilitate the separation. This often leaves the parents con- fused and hurt at a time they are genuinely trying to connect. The tension serves to equip the child with a framework of motivation to ease the separation. Fortunately, this dynamic plays a useful and timely role in greasing this process, and dealt with productively, plays itself out in a short time frame. I am seeing that this paradigm occurs between adults at the time of divorce, and the dynamic fuels the friction with many couples. Unfortunately, it puts the kids in the family in an untenable position with the potential for elevated pain and suffering.

In divorce counseling, Rule Number One says that no matter how big a jerk your soon-to- be ex is, do not say anything negative about them to the kids. Every ounce of negativity you offer to them in this way will return later on your head with an expanded consequence. I see my clients, children of a divorce, time and time again sitting in my office working out a clearer perspective of truth about both parents. When one or both parents have been negative towards the other, the child always ends up resenting the offender. This is true if the client is 12 or 32, and it is even more heightened if one parent has been lying about the other. The truth does come out. Your not-so-significant other may now be the jerk of your life, but they are still your child’s parent. You do not have the right to manipulate that relationship. All parents deserve a primary relationship with their child, one that is not con- trolled by another person.

You owe it to your kids to set aside your need to inflict pain. The pain you direct towards your ex will usually take out the onlookers, including your kids. This infliction may provide you with a momentary satisfaction but it will return to haunt you when the children figure out for themselves that you did it. I guarantee it. The fact that you are divorcing is adequate expression that you are both redefining your relation- ship with the other. You do not have the right to make your children an additional battlefield or you will count them among the casualties. By the way, this principle remains true despite how the other is treating you. I recognize the difficulty in accepting this piece of it, but it is true nonetheless.

Check out the collaborative law process in your state. It is a refreshing approach to this re- definition of relationship we call divorce. In this process, mutually beneficial resolutions are sought and the kid’s needs take on a higher priority in the process. I have seen the process serve the children and the couple well. The process does not work for all, but it is one of the re- sources available to divorcing couples that can strengthen their concern for the children’s well being.

I can always find common ground with feuding parties, sometimes we just have to take a step or two back from the conflict to see it in a different light. If you begin this separation process with common ground around protecting the kids and putting their needs first you will do a better job, a healthier job, in redefining your relationship. That is after all- divorce at its simplest- a redefining of boundaries in a relation- ship. You will enhance your relationship with your child if you deal appropriately with them in their relationship with their other parent.

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[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [CampTalk - Outdoor Parenting](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/camptalk-outdoor-parenting/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

My son went dove hunting for years be- fore he was big enough to shoot. With the safety course under his belt at 12, he became a full fledged member of the opening day group that I had been out with for years. The 4:30 am breakfast, the drive to Snyder, steak the night before at Bucks- all of it took on a new flavor when he graduated from specta- tor. And, gratefully, in his first year there were a lot of birds and he limited out well before noon. The second morning at the café held just as much promise and excitement and everyone was talking about their failures and successes the day before. Mid breakfast one of the comments caught my ear. If I heard right, some of the guys at the next ta- ble had limited opening morning and had returned to a tank that afternoon for addi- tional shooting. I watched closely to see if my son picked it up. It seemed to be going over his head but by now I was hearing more comments about the double dip. This table of guys slowly realized that their discussion was being overheard and that my son was examining them. A friend sitting to my right leaned into my ear and asked me how much Nintendo a reward would buy if my son turned in the poachers. The talk turned and I dismissed the event and never really thought of it again.

I don’t hold myself up as the beacon of ethics in the outdoor world, but I do try to consider what is right and wrong, and cer- tainly what is legal. I learned my lesson when the game warden caught me without a plug over a pond in North Dakota. I ex- plained truthfully to him that I had been tur- key hunting the week before in Missouri where plugs were not required. With his ball point pen inserted as a plug and a warning, he sent me back to the pond. I don’t think of myself as particularly virtuous but when I had kids I noticed my behavior was being watched by people very important to me, and ones I seemed to have an impact on. I had no idea I was talking to other drivers until my (then) three year old son asked me “what a gashole was.” I blanched, and told him the best that I could come up with, that it was where you put the gas into the truck. My lesson about talking to other drivers was learned there as well.

Last year in Snyder, 8 years later, my son thanked me for not taking him back out to shoot more than his limit on his first opening dove day. “I would have hated to have had to work through that” he said. And I wasn’t even sure he was paying attention.

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[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Boundaries and Adolescents](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/boundaries-and-adolescents-2/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

This fall I entrust another child to PISD as she moves to middle school. As a parent, I would prefer to continue with Indian Princess. As a counselor I recognize that adolescence has begun, and my task as parent is to provide safe boundaries in which she can grow. Not always an easy task. I remember her and see her as a smaller child but am constantly challenged to see her as a young adult. Boundaries, I know, are to be tested. It is difficult for me to hold the line at times, and will admit that it is easier to do ahead of time, rather than in the thick of the battle. Having done this once already, I see some of the pitfalls that lie ahead.

 First when you are told by your adolescent (it doesn’t matter if they are 13 or 17….) that no one else has a curfew, it is not true. When you are told that no one else’s parents call to check if there is a parent at the party, it is not true. When you are told that no one else has to call if their plans change, it is not true. When you are told that there is always beer and pot at the party, it is not true. When you are told that no one else has to work, it is not true. When you are told that no one else has to pay for their auto insurance and gas, it is not true. When you are told that everyone is having sex, it is not true. When you are told that no one else has to spend time with their family, it is not true.

 If these are true for your child’s friends, then your child needs new friends, because the parents of these friends do not know how to set boundaries for their children, and they are hurting them far more than helping them.

 The rough guidelines that we begin with include curfew with acknowledgement that nothing begins until school work is addressed. Once plans are made, we expect them to remain constant unless we are asked about it ahead of time. (Phone calls to ask to change plans at 11:40 pm with a midnight curfew don’t get approved).

 We expect to know where our kids are and who they are with. At younger ages, I

demand to know who is providing the supervision. Even at older ages it is not safe to turn our kids loose to just drive around town with their friends, and come and go wherever and whenever they please.

 Growth from adolescence to young adulthood is a big jump. The risk is to allow a child the freedoms of adulthood without the responsibility. I see many parents try to avoid the conflict of having to set appropriate boundaries (and natural consequences when violated), but the cost in abandoning your child is their emotional and social retardation. Once on their own, the child has little else to do but fail. The workforce, college, and the real world in general does not take on the task to provide a responsibility-free lifestyle.

 Boundaries at their best, keep everybody safe. When responsibility is shown, it is appropriate to move the boundary. It is a fluid process, and one with which I am not always comfortable. I do believe that the struggle is worth it however, our children are too important to simply hand over to the world without equipping them.

P.S. – If your adolescent is female, you need to read [Reviving Ophelia](https://www.amazon.com/Reviving-Ophelia-Saving-Selves-Adolescent/dp/1594481881), by Mary Pipher.

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*Rev. Daniel Gowan, LCDC, LPC-S*

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Adolescent Freedom and Responsibility](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/09/adolescent-freedom-and-responsibility/)

**Published:** April 9, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

As a Dad my fifteen year old tunes me out at home, but as a Counselor my adolescent clients are surprisingly candid and willing to talk about their lifestyle and what is happening in their lives. The parents of my daughter’s friends all know what I do for a living. When we run into each other socially someone usually prods me to find out what is really going on in our teen’s world. I avoid working when away from the office and can usually short circuit the conversation by saying they don’t want to know. If they really push, I threaten to tell them. They end up agreeing with me.

Kids who are having a great year don’t end up in my office so we understand from the start that the population I work with is defined up front by their propensity for some problem. There are some common threads that run through this group, common denominators that we as parents overlook at our peril and at our teen’s expense.

First is unsupervised time. What most parents forget, or never realize, is that identity is formed in tension with other individuals. We try on our identities, we practice our identities, and hopefully we end up choosing to become what we are called to be. But in this “practice time” the practice is usually in an area that parents should be cautious of. Muscles are formed when we exercise them. Bones decalcify in space without resistance. And our identities do not develop unless we are acting against something or someone else. The parent’s job here is to put some parameters on where or who this someone else is. I believe we are allowed to jerk our children back off the edge of a cliff and sometimes we need to. But if we don’t even know they are walking on the ledge we cannot participate.

Second, we need to attach responsibility to the freedom that the child seeks. Our kids are all about this idea of freedom and our role in this is to show them how to appreciate it. Appreciated freedom manifests itself in responsible behavior. I saw a very thought provoking editorial cartoon once that made this very point. Frame one posited “Two good examples of why we should leave our kids more than just money.” The next frame showed Paris Hilton and Brittney Spearson a drunken spree. When we are given freedom with no responsibility we never learn how to appreciate it or use it wisely. To do this, simply offer your child alternatives without taking their choices personally. Be home by midnight or lose the use of the car tomorrow night. Do your chores or don’t go out. Hand them back the power to choose and then their choices will reflect the opportunity to claim the responsibility that needs to accompany freedom. And the best part for me is that I get to recognize that their choice is then their responsibility and I do not have to invest in which choice they make.

This latter principle is directly related to the final one I offer you. Get with the other decision makers in the house so one of you does not erode the other’s power. Yes this is difficult, particularly in extended and mixed families. But if we can agree that the health and growth of the adolescent trumps all else, then we stand a chance of finding common ground upon which to offer these choices to our child.

I had one client who had lost the use of his car as a reprimand. With some coaching, I told him that we could get the use of his car back if he would agree to be home by curfew (and he would have to do it on a consistent basis). He smiled and declined because he knew his Dad was going to give him back the car soon enough and Mom and Dad never agreed on curfew anyway. When Junior was out, he simply waited for Mom to raise the heat enough in messages to him on his cell that he would then call Dad back and assure him that he’d be home “soon.” In the vagueness of “soon”, he could get Mom and Dad to fight over the specific time, and Junior got to stay out drinking.

Responsibility must accompany freedom or it is really indulgence. If we as parents are not going to insist on this responsibility then we are abandoning our children. It might even lead one to suspect that our refusal to insist on this teaching with our children is the source of the lesson the child is learning. Our children deserve better.

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*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LCDC, LPC-S*

**Categories:** Parenting Articles

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### [Loneliness: The Silent Epidemic](https://d2counseling.com/2023/09/12/the-silent-epidemic-loneliness/)

**Published:** September 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Many of us know what it’s like to be in a room full of people yet feel a heavy cloud of loneliness hanging over us. From losing a job or a loved one to chronic illness, there is an endless list of reasons why someone may feel lonely. Loneliness is subjective to each person, and it is not the same as simply being alone. The number of friends someone has on paper doesn’t guarantee they aren’t lonely if their need for emotional intimacy isn’t being met. While many people prefer to be alone at times to relax or tap into their creativity, extended and unwanted loneliness can have detrimental effects on mental health.

In fact, earlier this year, the [US Surgeon General](https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/index.html), Dr. Vivek Murthy, declared an “epidemic of loneliness and isolation.” Even before the pandemic began, more than half of adults reported experiencing loneliness. The pandemic only exacerbated those numbers, especially in younger adults.

The Surgeon General believes loneliness to be the root cause of many other epidemics worldwide today, such as addiction and obesity. There are severe negative consequences associated with loneliness, including insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Isolation can also lead to an increased risk of heart disease, stroke, diabetes, self-harm, and dementia.

These issues are interconnected with our physical well-being because socializing is one of our basic needs. Throughout history, humans have made it through both trying times and prosperous times together. Humans have always had to rely on one another, and we remain wired to do so to this day. Our bodies alert us when we need more and deeper connections, just as they warn us when we need water and food with thirst and hunger. When the need continues to go unmet, it can become a serious problem.

The Surgeon General outlined a “National Strategy to Advance Social Connection” with six pillars. These pillars focus on community care as opposed to self-care, which is a difficult mindset change for many Americans who have spent their lives being told to focus on things at an individual level.

The first pillar involves increasing the amount of social infrastructure in communities, such as libraries, volunteer groups, green spaces, and public transit. The second pillar addresses the need for public policies that support increased human connection, and the third pillar requests healthcare systems to assess and support patients’ social needs while tracking where loneliness is most prevalent.

The fourth pillar tackles a significant catalyst of loneliness: the digital world. As the internet distracts many people from in-person connections, leads to unhealthy comparisons with others, and creates a space for bullying and discrimination, transparency with technology companies is more important than ever.

The fifth and sixth pillars seek to spread awareness. First, leaders in all sectors involved must collaborate on research to form a bigger picture of the causes and impacts of loneliness. Then, a countrywide culture of kindness, respect, service, and commitment to one another should begin to be celebrated.

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Loneliness-two.webp "Loneliness two")

These steps laid the framework for how the US can fight an epidemic of loneliness, but smaller steps can happen in all of our everyday lives. Individuals can begin taking time to reconnect with family and friends without the distractions of social media. Parents can ask more questions about their child’s friendships and digital footprint. Patients can be encouraged to speak honestly with their healthcare providers about life changes and subsequent effects on their mental health. All affected by loneliness should feel safe to reach out to a loved one or crisis hotline in times of struggle. (In crisis? Call or text 988.)

Professionally trained therapists can also help get to the root cause of your loneliness, such as negative thinking patterns or specific anxieties that may be hindering your social connections. Therapists can also provide you with resources to help cope, improve communication skills, and become more confident. Joining group sessions with others struggling with similar issues can be an effective way to be empowered to make changes in your life. Individual and group sessions with trained professionals, such as those at D2 Counseling, can be a safe space to address complicated emotions and overcome social anxiety. If you’re ready to walk away from your cloud of loneliness and plant roots in a community, [D2 is ready to walk with you today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact").

**Categories:** Depression

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### [Are You Feeling The Holly Jolly… Holiday Blues?](https://d2counseling.com/2023/12/21/holiday-blues/)

**Published:** December 21, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

It’s the happiest time of the year… or is it? For many people, November and December can be the toughest months of the year. Some may picture hearty meals served in a busy kitchen, unwrapping gifts in a cozy living room with a warm fire going, and hosting loved ones that they are excited to see when they think of the holiday season. However, for a lot of people, family pressure, emotional overload, and the stress of paying for it all are what come to mind first. The holidays can leave many feeling even lonelier than they do year-round.

As a refresher from past email articles, loneliness is different from simply being alone. You can feel lonely in a room full of people, just as you may not feel lonely while on your own. The World Health Organization and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention both recognize loneliness, defined as the subjective feeling when someone does not feel connected to others, as an epidemic that can lead to serious mental and physical health issues.

If you relate to often feeling lonely during November and December, you are not alone. The statistics vary, but the National Alliance on Mental Illness reported that 66% of people feel lonely during the holidays, while 64% of people struggling with mental illness report that the holidays make them feel worse. Many of these numbers have only been exacerbated by increased social isolation during the COVID-19 pandemic in recent years.

Not only are those who are lonely during the holidays not alone in feeling this way, but their feelings are a part of human biology. We must have human connection to survive, so our bodies warn us when we need more of it, just as our bodies warn us that we need to eat via hunger. The manifestation of loneliness may look different in everyone. Some may feel tense and tired, while others are anxious and struggle with decision fatigue. Loneliness could show up in everyday life as a headache or even a compulsion to self-medicate with drugs or alcohol.

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/holiday-2.webp "holiday 2")

**If the holidays are a source of joy for so many, why do some of us experience such a heavy loneliness during this time?**

In truth, the reasons will differ from person to person. During the holidays, expectations are high, and there is more pressure than normal on relationships and finances. Flashy commercials on TV, Hallmark movies, and influencers on social media perpetuate the concept of “the perfect life” to convince us to buy more to keep up. Naturally, viewers begin to compare themselves to a lifestyle that is unattainable and may begin to feel negatively about ways their life falls short of perfection.

Not everyone feels loved and supported by their family, partner, and friends. Some may be going through a period of deep grief or struggling with a lifelong strained relationship. Families may be split apart in different cities, countries, or continents without the means to reunite this year.

The holidays can bring about a lot of triggers, such as painful childhood memories, parties with food and drinks outside of daily habits, end-of-the-year deadlines, and significant financial stress from travel, buying presents, and hosting.

Fortunately, there are tools already available in your home and community that can help you alleviate the loneliness and make this season as positive as possible:

To start, **the narrative of the holiday season being a magical time should be challenged.** Instead, we can focus on practicing gratitude in this season. If you’re currently missing family, maybe a small dinner gathering with friends or colleagues could be a bright spot in your December. Gratitude is far more powerful than many initially realize. You may find some peace in knowing that families come in all different forms and that you aren’t alone in this struggle.

Try a **self-care activity** and create a peaceful environment for you to enjoy your solo time. Take a relaxing bath, watch a comforting movie, or go for a walk to look at the holiday lights.

**Do something for others.** Volunteering benefits the community and can also lower stress, isolation, and symptoms of depression. In Dallas/Ft Worth, the North Texas Food Bank, SPCA of Texas, Dallas Arboretum, Dallas Parks & Recreation, and more may be looking for volunteers.

**Tap into your creative side,** even if the activity is a solo one. Paint, craft, dance, or take yourself to a holiday concert or performance. For example, in Dallas/Ft Worth, almost every day this December, NorthPark will host free concerts and shows in the north court as part of its Sights and Sounds of the Season. There will be performances from local schools and professional companies, like Avant Chamber Ballet and Fort Worth Symphony Orchestra. (Nov. 28–Dec. 23. 8687 N. Central Expy.)

**Lower your screen time.** The less exposure to other people’s holiday highlight reels, the better. Remember that most people are posting only the positive sides of their holiday, not their struggles and pain.

**Engage in your community.** Call and catch up with an old friend or mentor, check out a new exercise class, try a hobby you’ve never tried before like rock climbing in an indoor gym, join group yoga in the park, or find a neighborhood book club. For example, in Dallas/Ft Worth, every Friday in December, the African American Museum is hosting a free matinee holiday movie screening at noon. (Dec. 1–Dec. 29. 3536 Grand Ave.)

If your feelings of loneliness are overwhelming right now, know that you don’t have to handle this burden alone. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or doctor, or call the 988 crisis line to get 24/7 free and confidential support. Professional support from trained counselors could also be a benefit to your daily life, whether your loneliness is heightened during the holidays or consistent throughout the year. D2 Counseling is ready today to assist you in creating the peaceful and joyful holiday season you deserve.

**Categories:** Depression

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### [Parenting and Natural Consequences](https://d2counseling.com/2018/05/11/parenting-and-natural-consequences/)

**Published:** May 11, 2018
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I have spent all of parenthood trying to share my experience with my children. I have concluded that this attempt has been a horrible failure as it relates to changing their choice of behavior. As I have watched others struggle with child rearing, and struggled myself, I have concluded that natural consequence is the most effective behavior modification available to parents. There is a theory of learning and behavior modification that states right thinking will lead to right behavior. It is wrong! Thank goodness this thought prevails or the sale of self-help books would plummet! Experience will show however that you act your way into right thinking, you do not think your way into right acting. This is why it is so difficult to tell a child what to do. The consequence of a behavior is a far better teacher than anything we are going to tell them.

Experience in life is about action and consequence. As parents, then, the best we can do is hope that reflection about the consequence will lead to changed behavior. When the consequence is related to the behavior, this child then is faced with greater stakes the next time the situation arises. It would be nice if we could simply confer as parents and come up with a rolodex of behaviors and then list the corresponding natural consequence we would like to impose, but it is rarely that simple. I have found however a few principles that help me determine where to go in correlating consequence with behavior.

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First, the parent must not “fix” all of the child’s problems. If you save the individual from the consequences of their behavior, then the behavior will not change. Completing the science project for them because they started too late only fosters a dependence on you, rather than moving them towards independence.

Second, consequence needs to be related. If the issue with the child is not calling to check in while at the mall with friends, they will not relate to a consequence of extra chores during the week. Perhaps loss of the cell phone for a couple of weeks is more important and understandable to the child.

Third, the consequence needs to be reasonable. If the child is responsible for feeding the family pet, we don’t let the dog die of starvation. We can relate the issue of eating to the situation and then Junior does not eat until Fido is fed.

Finally, the consequence must keep the child safe. If the issue is drinking and driving drunk, it is not safe to let them drive drunk and wait for the wreck. The safer consequence for driving impaired is not driving. Love is defined by Peck (The Road Less Traveled) as “the extension of ourselves for the purpose of nurturing another’s spiritual growth.” I like that. When we set appropriate boundaries and consequences for our children, we are expressing our love for them. It is not love to simply let them do what they want. Our job as parents is to equip our children as they grow to meet the world on their own. They will not always have us there to save them, and it is our job to teach them how to be in this world without a dependency on us. Natural consequence will help us do that with them.

**Categories:** Relationships

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### [The 7 Guidelines to Creating Intimacy With Friends, Family and Lovers](https://d2counseling.com/2018/11/27/the-7-guidelines-to-creating-intimacy-with-friends-family-and-lovers/)

**Published:** November 27, 2018
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

The number one human need after survival is to seek connection. It is a biological imperative that this happen through attachment, and it makes sense when we consider that the infant sees the world first in the eyes of their mother and father. This gaze back and forth creates the attachment and the connection and contributes to how well we will connect later in life with others. I have come to see that there are two currencies we use in relationship with others. The first is power. “Because I said so.” The other is intimacy. To be fair these are very broad categories, and the subject of a different article, but suffice to say that when I am doing marriage counseling, the currency shows itself within the first 5 minutes. If it is power, the couple is stuck in a drama that will never end until there is a winner. And if there is a winner, then both lose. When doing couples therapy in this situation, they don’t want solution, they want the counselor to validate their side of the competition. On the other hand, if the game can be shifted to intimacy (which must begin with boundaries) the relationship can actually function as a personal growth vehicle that will propel both individuals (and the relationship!) to a healthier place. We move into the world of relationship with varying skills and abilities and there are 7 guidelines that will help us move towards intimacy and better connection.

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## 1. Each person views the other person realistically.

One visual we use when we teach boundaries is to imagine yourself inside a Hula Hoop. If it is inside your Hula Hoop, then it is your business. If it is outside your Hula Hoop it is none of your business. So- who they are and how they are, is also none of our business and we are freed up to see them *as they are*. From here we can meet people where they are without having to believe they need to be something they are not.

Many of us will project onto another our expectations of who we need them to be over who they really are. I could never begin to love my wife for who she is until I go past who I needed her to be. And that had NOTHING to do with her. And by the way, I was completely unconscious to it. How could I possibly see her realistically when I am wrapped up in how I need her to be (fill in the blank) so I will feel (fill in the blank B) about myself. It does take a third person view of self to begin to recognize it but if you have somehow found your way to this article, you have the level of consciousness necessary to see and work on this dynamic.

## 2. Each person takes responsibility for their own growth.

We are responsible for our own feelings. You are not responsible for mine and I am not responsible for yours. Similarly we are responsible for getting our own needs met. In a bounded world, as an adult, it will be up to me to grow. My friend can choose not to. My partner can choose to dive in deeper than me. But I get to have my own back and I am in charge of my own growth. I often see a resistance to this idea when people point at someone near them and try to claim that the other is hindering their growth and keeping them from it. This is power we have handed away to the other. Recovery and personal growth is about reclaiming this power and living in action, not reaction to other people. The only true victims (outside of a car-jacking) are children and animals. The rest of us are volunteers. The good news is that no-one can limit our growth. One unconscious fear many have is fi they feel they are beginning to out-grow their partner or friend. That may be concerning for the relationship but it does not have to hinder the growth or become an excuse to quit growing.

## 3. Each person focuses on solutions to problems.

In healthy relationships people focus more on process than they do on content. If we focus on the problem we grind away at the granular detail of what happened and why we must be offended by it. To be sure, recognition of a problem is a necessary first step but to hang out here keeps us in the problem. In this stuckness comes a familiar dance. It is so familiar to some that this is where they are most comfortable. I have met people who seem to only be happy when they are unhappy. They almost demand that a problem be found in a situation or a relationship to maintain their focus there. If we give up the need to blame and judge we will move to solution faster. Judgement in and of itself is not bad. Judgements are necessary for life. Where the problem resides is when we use judgement to judge another as “less-than” and we go one-up to them. If they are the source of the problem we can maintain focus on them, they will be one-down in our mind and one more time we have shifted the relationship to one of power, not intimacy. The other gift or curse (they are synonyms) of focusing on the problem and the creator of it is that we can maintain our victim status. Woe is me in this situation. And in the victim position we can hold onto our victim anger (resentment) and feel one-up to them.

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## 4. Each person supports the other without rescuing.

In Scott Peck’s book The Road Less Travelled, he devotes an entire chapter on “Love Defined.” In it he offers an extremely functional definition of love. Love is the extension of ourselves for the purpose of nurturing another’s or our own spiritual growth. It is the work we do to help another grow. And sometimes that is really hard. I get confused about where the line is between nurturing their growth and enabling them. If I do your work for you it can become rescuing. And you learn little to nothing and I end up burdening me and the relationship. I usually do it out of an inability to tolerate your uncomfortability as you struggle with whatever it is, so I do it for you . So it really wasn’t for you to begin with. Support however, looks like encouragement. Like standing with someone doing something hard. Support lets them know we have there back but we don’t do it for them. And when they get in a pickle we don’t necessarily pull them out of their mess. We let them know they are not alone in the mess but we don’t fix it for them. Two caveats. First there is no reason we cannot always be kind and second, when somebody gets into the aforementioned pickle it is not supportive to taunt them about it (or say I told you so, or gloat in the myriad of subtle ways we know how to, without doing it directly.)

## 5. Each person can accept collaboration.

Years ago, before I had partnered with Dr. Dina Hijazi, she approached me about doing a joint presentation on health and wellness in the Dallas Community. We both regularly presented at this venue but always as an individual effort. I declined her offer immediately. It was not in my comfort zone to either share or work with someone else on something like that. (I was in private practice for a reason!). Her comment was to the effect that it would be fun to collaborate and that exercise would lead to a greater creativity. And there was just a bit of a challenge in her response. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and ultimately agreed to do the joint presentation with her. And she was right. The creativity went way up between us and the synergy created a more dynamic presentation.

This idea that we can accept collaboration is tied to the next point about celebrating differences. Dr. Hijazi is a Psychologist, and my background is from theology. If I can make room, that difference in background shows itself in an enhanced teamwork.

## 6. Each person celebrates the differences between them.

Self-esteem is inherent. We are born with it. Sometimes we become detached from it if we are shown or told we are not important. It is not valid, we truly do have inherent worth, but don’t always recognize it. If we don’t value ourselves we are going to have difficulty valuing another. We may in fact focus on the difference in a negative way and begin (even unconsciously) demanding the other be like us. We have been taught that we live in a finite world that has to constantly be weighed and measured. Is there enough money, is there enough time, is there enough for me? And in this model we begin to judge. If there is not enough to go around we may begin to try to take it from someone else. (I want my share of the credit if we do something together!). We will even begin focusing on the differences in a negative way. However, if we learn to enjoy the differences and realize we are OK (not less than) the relationship becomes richer. This captures the idea of self-differentiation. If we are comfortable with who we are, it is not a threat for another to be different from us. In fact we begin to celebrate it. To be sure we will want to be on the same page when it comes to values, but our differences elsewhere make us more interesting, not threatening.

Our strengths don’t make be better than, our weaknesses don’t make us less than, they simply make us different. And this makes us more interesting to each other.

## 7. Each person communicates simply and directly.

One caution here, it sounds slightly easier than it is! To do this, I must be very clear *with myself* about what I am communicating about. Often we speak based on what we are feeling in light of the other person’s behavior. This is best navigated with “I” statements. Most of us find it easier to focus on the other person’s behavior and how that is impacting us. If we bring it back to us, and what is going on with me, communication will speed up and actually becomes easier. I truly want to be heard, so it is best for me to communicate in a way that makes it easy to hear. Stick to what is going on with me and invite dialog to get the other’s perspective. Intimacy carries two sides: Sharing to be known, without attachment to the outcome and listening with curiosity to find out who the other person is, without defensiveness. “You never take me out anymore” is going to be harder to hear than “I miss the fun we have when we go to the movies-would you like to go see one this weekend?” The second statement, while longer, is more authentic and direct.

We don’t make the other person guess what is going on with us.

This growth towards intimacy is more fun when both are playing but we don’t ever really have control of another person. The good news in that statement is that no one can limit our growth. Recovery is living our life in action, not reaction. This means we can practice these principles with all people and begin to work towards closer relationships. As we withdraw and reflect after an exchange (this is called the clinical method of learning), we can evaluate our behavior in light of these principles, amend them, and try again.

**Categories:** Intimacy

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### [Marriage Maintenance- How Often Should We Change the Oil?](https://d2counseling.com/2019/04/05/marriage-maintenance-how-often-should-we-change-the-oil/)

**Published:** April 5, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

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Purchasing a new car and driving it off the showroom floor is a thrilling event. We’re mesmerized by the new car smell, the glossy paint, and all the latest “bells and whistles.” The last thing on our mind is future fluid changes, tunes ups, and replacing worn out parts. In high school I had my dream job for a teenage boy; I worked at a car dealership washing and detailing new cars and helping in the service department. I still remember the day when a lady brought in her car making a loud engine noise. When asked when she last had an oil change, she replied, “What’s an oil change?” Later the mechanic showed me the inside of her oil pan, in which the oil had become a gooey glob of thick sludge. The failure to perform regular maintenance ended up costing her a ton of money.

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Marriage has its similarities. We’ve finally met that person with whom we want to spend the rest of our life. We envision long talks over dinner, thrilling vacations together, and never-ending passion. We’re not considering conflicts over money, or how children will crowd out time spent together, or what to do when our individual dreams clash as much as they align. All of those will require regular maintenance to keep the relationship functioning smoothly. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman reports that couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help. What would happen if we put off needed car repairs for six years? The same thing that often happens to marriages. Relationship problems do not go away on their own; they deteriorate in two primary ways. The obvious is for the conflicts to become volatile. Words and behaviors become hurtful, leading to resentment and bitterness. The subtler yet just as harmful change is for emotional distance to build between the partners. The fact is that most marriages end not because of arguing but because the relationship grows cold and lifeless.

Every couple needs to learn how to discuss painful emotions in a constructive way that leads to understanding instead of the typical pattern of blaming and defensiveness which just pours gasoline on the fire. Second, couples also need to recognize that most conflicts are not about the issues being debated. Instead they are often about underlying dreams and what those issues symbolize to each partner. My first major argument with my wife after we got married was about the height to mow the grass in our yard. Silly huh? We soon realized we were not fighting about grass but about how the grass symbolized the dreams we were each bringing to the relationship concerning our new home and visions of the family we were building together. Third, couples need to learn and practice the skills for building friendship. That came easily when we were dating. Later it becomes effort that can get pushed aside by careers, children, and routines. Every relationship needs to build in times of fun, laughter, and play. If not, you might find your marriage clogged by a gooey glob of thick emotional sludge.

If this sounds too familiar, the therapists at D2 Counseling can help.

**Categories:** Marriage Counseling, Marriage Maintenance

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### [Affirming Language When Speaking with Adults](https://d2counseling.com/2019/06/27/affirming-language-when-speaking-with-adults/)

**Published:** June 27, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

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An affirmation links a described behavior to a character trait. Say with enthusiasm and celebration!

1\. You finished the taxes! Look at what you’ve accomplished! You must feel proud of your perseverance and discipline!

2\. I really appreciate the planning you’re doing. You’ve got such good organizational skills.

3\. You have such an open mind. I really enjoy speaking with you.

4\. I can see how you’re containing your emotions right now and I appreciate that. You’ve got such determination.

5\. You really do look out for others at work. I value that quality in you.

6\. When we talk you ask lots of questions. I can see that you’re a curious person who enjoys learning.

7\. I notice your effort and focus, and I greatly appreciate that.

8\. I see how you value yourself and others at the same time. That’s a skill I admire!

9\. Your positive outlook brings out the best in me! You seem to be an optimistic person.

10\. Thank you for adding to the laughter in this house. You’re so playful!

11\. You’re getting so much done! You’re got great time management skills!

12\. You’re a good trip planner and I really appreciate that! I see the time and energy you put into researching our options. Thank you!

**Categories:** Communication, Couples, Marriage Maintenance

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### [Understanding Alcoholism as an Illness that Affects the Entire Family-The Value of Al-Anon](https://d2counseling.com/2019/07/15/understanding-alcoholism-as-an-illness-that-affects-the-entire-family-the-value-of-al-anon/)

**Published:** July 15, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

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“The alcoholic is a sick person trying to get well, rather than a bad person trying to get good.” “I am convinced that the number one feature of this disease is denial. This is true for both the alcoholic and the Al-Anon member.”

Many clients trying to cope with the disease of alcoholism are unfamiliar with the concept of a family disease. But when we discuss it, they begin to recognize its pervasiveness. Frequently, the idea comes up around the morality of alcoholism amidst the struggle of family members who are trying to “make the alcoholic quit” or at least modify the other person’s behavior. I encourage the family members to consider that the alcoholic is a sick person trying to get well, rather than a bad person trying to get good.

Al-Anon is a useful resource for family members and friends to discover how they participate in this system or family disease. We are hopeful about getting alcoholics to modify their behavior, but I challenge family members to consider that they need to begin to look at where they can change their own behavior and perspective.

Alcoholism is a family disease; and members of the family must show willingness to address this issue no less than the alcoholic. My rule for members of an alcoholic system is: don’t put more effort into the alcoholic’s recovery than the alcoholic does. But conversely, everyone must be willing to work on their own stuff. As a family disease, alcoholism must be treated within the entire family. The drinking is only a symptom of the problem. Otherwise, abstinence would eliminate all problems, which is not usually the case.

Al-Anon helps clients understand this principle of participation in the system. In counseling jargon, they are invited to understand their own level of self-differentiation within the family.

Attending Al-Anon meetings is the fastest way I can get clients to engage in a healthy way with this disease. I point out that to resist treating their role in the system is no different than the alcoholic refusing to quit drinking.

I am convinced that the number one feature of this disease is denial. This is true for both the alcoholic and the Al-Anon member. Solution focus within the meetings and for the participants moves the clients to a place where they gain some relief, begin to grow, and move them to deal with their own situation productively.

By: [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), M.Div, M.A., LPC-S, LCDC, CSAT

**Categories:** Alcoholism

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### [Give The Other: The Gift of Listening To Them](https://d2counseling.com/2019/08/12/give-the-other-the-gift-of-listening-to-them/)

**Published:** August 12, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

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One of the leading reasons people seek marriage counseling or relationship counseling is to get help with communication. Usually this is code for “I know my partner doesn’t hear me and I am not sure I understand them.” There are 2 sides to communication and, like intimacy, there is a sender and a receiver.

To hear what the other is saying requires active listening. Let me offer what that is not. We may hear all the words, we might nod in the appropriate pauses and may even be able to repeat the last phrase the other gave us, yet this is still not necessarily active listening. We can passively engage in a conversation and never reach that deep level of understanding and connection most of us crave.

Active listening requires as much (if not more) energy as the sender is using. Active listening requires us to set aside our defensiveness and our preconceptions and many of us don’t even know what those are. There is a great YouTube Video entitled *It’s Not About The Nail* by Jason Headley.  (It is worth taking the time to watch, just don’t forget to come back!)

Jason does a masterful job illustrating how we get caught up in what we *KNOW* our partner needs to do. And as our focus on that *knowing* continues, we can’t show up for the exchange to the frustration of our partner. The video offers a glimpse of his understanding only to have it swept away as he returns to his *knowing*.

Curiosity will serve us better. Curiosity allows us to see where we are being taken without us turning into the driver. To do this I must first set aside and manage my own anxiety. This is usually harder to do with our partner because of our history. The moment our brain believes we are going down an old path it jumps ahead to the ending we had before, rather than letting the journey unfold on its own. Try this instead. See yourself listening to the other. If we can become an observer of the situation (often referred to being in third person) rather than a participant we will give ourself the pause necessary to stay actively engaged. Staying in third person, as an active listener means we don’t take things personally. We must remind ourselves that they are telling us about themselves (even if they are pointing a finger!). This is why, as a sender, it enhances the process to use “I” statements instead of claims about the other.

The curious listener holds a space between what the other is saying and what we receive. It is this space we must treat in a sacred way. It is here that the relationship can begin to shape us, and where understanding can begin. If we already KNOW what is coming, we shut off this possibility.

We always want the other to hear us and we know that the above direction is a good practice for those listening to us but the real work comes, not in inviting others to listen differently, but to begin by doing it ourselves. Rome was not built in a day and it may take some time (yes more than we want) to change long standing patterns in communication. We really only have control over our own behavior, so this is where we must begin improving our communication skills, that is, how we choose to listen differently.

I heard a speaker say one time that he preferred to be a student of golf over that of golfer. Students, he explained, were always learning and it was his experience that when he arrived at that place that he pretty much knew it all, there was no need to learn. His game continued to improve as he continued to learn. Our relationships are like that. If we can be students and continue to learn, we put a positive energy into the relationship and we contribute. If we know how they are supposed to do it we move to that place of judgement and pick at what we don’t like them doing. Focus on your own growth, move to third person as you actively listen and honor that space between you and the other with curiosity. It will move you to better communication.

**Categories:** Communication

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### [Alcoholism and Al-Anon](https://d2counseling.com/2019/09/13/alcoholism-and-al-anon/)

**Published:** September 13, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I’d like to talk for a minute about the characteristics found within an alcoholic family. The first thing I would note is that the behaviors don’t always match up with intentions and when people say one thing but do another I encourage the family to simply watch the behavior because the alcoholic frequently wants to be judged by their intentions. But what happens is everybody in the family has to deal with the impact of their behavior. And so we get some relief when we give up the idea that we need to watch for their intention and simply watch the behavior because it frequently is the healthier way to watch what’s going on in the family and understand what the reality is.

The unfortunate part of alcoholism is it generally goes on for a long period of time and one of the things is that behavior increasingly gets worse and worse, and it happens over this longer period of time. And what becomes normal behavior is not the same as what healthy behavior should be within the family. The second characteristic I touch on is the idea of boundaries. The boundaries don’t generally go very well or not maintained in. In an alcoholic family, the behaviors are often outlandish and people are expected to put up with them.

So the idea is that the protection boundary that we each of us have to protect ourselves from other people is often ignored and we are not allowed. Particularly the kids are not allowed to set boundaries on what’s appropriate and what’s not. The containment is often weak and the containment boundary is often weak and a family system that has alcoholism because these Bethany’s behaviors that have slipped over time end up looking normal to the family and it’s often not until the family gets outside of their own nuclear family but they start to see how outrageous the behaviors have become.

The third characteristic of families with an alcoholic system is the presence of secrets and this becomes quite tedious again particularly for the children because it’s recognized early that there are some things that can be talked about some things that can not and the kids pay a terrible price if they bring up some of the events that have happened within the home and the family tries to avoid the spotlight with these secrets. The energy builds up the anxiety builds up within everyone in the family as they realize they can’t talk about what’s going on in the family.

A lot of times the kids aren’t allowed to bring other friends home after school vacations are cut short. Vacations are avoided and no one is allowed to talk about what the dynamic is behind all of that. When folks go to Alabama they are with other people who understand what that’s like and you’ll be able to find some support there at the Al-Anon meetings. When you do go to them and then tied closely to that is this other feature which is what I call isolation over time. Has the alcoholism normal increases and the behaviors increase around the alcohol.

The family does get more and more isolated. The with the secrets that go on fewer and fewer people talk to friends fall away kids can’t bring kids other friends home and the isolation of the entire family increases. And in a lot of families you’ll see when the kids get old enough they don’t leave for college they escape they don’t leave from home to get another job they run and that’s when they are trying to find relief. And the only way they know how to separate from that. And so the invitation to go to Al-Anon is not so much to focus on how to make the alcoholic be different but rather to figure out what tools are available to begin to look at ourselves to find relief and how I can choose to show up differently in a relationship how I can choose to show up and continue to grow in spite of what I’m facing at home and what the family situation looks like.

I suggest people try six or eight meetings when they try 
Al-Anon before they decide if it is or is not for them. Try a couple of different groups. Each group has a different personality.

You might find that you fit better in this one or this one over here seems more comfortable but try several different meetings in the DFW area. We have the luxury of having a lot of different meetings around and your community may be different but do some research and check with your counselor find out where some eleven meetings are they generally we’ll have a list of healthy groups that they know about and I just want to encourage you to go and try it. It’s the place that I hear from clients regularly it’s the first time they went someplace that people understood what they were going through.

Need other resources? Send us an email at info@d2counseling.com or [contact us](https://d2counseling.com/contact/) today.

**Categories:** Alcoholism

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### [Grief During the Holidays](https://d2counseling.com/2019/11/24/grief-during-the-holidays/)

**Published:** November 24, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Relationships can be tough this time of year. I call it the Bermuda Triangle of holidays. For many, this will be the first set of holidays without a loved one. Broken relationships can take many forms. Most in [Collin County](https://www.collincountytx.gov/) have experienced divorce in their family. Death takes away loved ones far too soon. This will be the first Christmas without my little brother. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukah and New Year’s Day take on radically different meanings when it is the first time through without a spouse.

In my practice I often hear the same words of loss, anger and depression as those used when we experience a loss through death as well as divorce. I used to think grief occurred like stair steps. You moved through one stage and “stepped up” to the next one. My experience is different than this however. What I have observed with mine and other’s grief is that it is more circular (think Slinky). One day we have a level of acceptance about the loss, and the next we try to deny it. Over time however, we seem to move through all the stages while returning to each periodically. With time, the rawness begins to dissipate. Sometimes slowly, and I am not sure that it ever completely goes away. Sometimes we are given the opportunity to deal with these feelings, these “stages,” at different levels. Like the layers of the onion, we can usually go deeper.

When I facilitate divorce recovery groups (or other loss-related groups) we try to deal with the feelings in a productive manner. My experience is that the groups generally go either into the solution -or- into the problem (sometimes in spite of where I try to take them). My theory is that we must deal with the feelings in a productive way or they are going to come out sideways down the road. A constant look backwards rarely allows us to move into today, let alone tomorrow. It is clear to me that grief involves the sadness of dealing with lost hope for the present and the future. This can be true hope-lessness. With productive, solution-oriented work (and time) the hope for the future and the hope for the present can be more hope-ful, but it must be a new and different hope. Grief is about reconciling these two perspectives between lost and new hopes.

Traditions often tie us to these hopes of the past. This is why it is so difficult to experience great times of tradition like Thanksgiving or Christmas. The holiday is just not the same if we all aren’t there. But a new hope-fulness would encourage us to develop a new tradition that helps us move on while still enjoying an existing tradition in a new way. 2

At one time I used to facilitate groups that would allow the venting for people to focus on feelings of hope-lessness. At our group we have changed our view on this. Now, we offer to walk forward with people. Perhaps we are just offering to walk a different part of the journey with people, but my observation is- people continue to grow and move forward with forward looking behavior. It sounds simplistic but I have observed that the people who are happy in life are the ones who focus on what they have and the unhappy folks are the ones who constantly focus on what they don’t have. To that end a productive move through grief and loss may include some of the latter but a solution-oriented approach will continue to encourage us towards a focus on what we do (and will) have.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas.*  holidays without a loved one. Broken relationships can take many forms. Most in [Collin County](https://www.collincountytx.gov/) have experienced divorce in their family. Death takes away loved ones far too soon. This will be the first Christmas without my little brother. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukah and New Year’s Day take on radically different meanings when it is the first time through without a spouse.

**Categories:** Depression

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### [Better Marriage Relationships](https://d2counseling.com/2019/11/24/better-marriage-relationships/)

**Published:** November 24, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Marriage counseling would be far more effective if we could give people a course on personal growth before they focus on relational growth. In light of this awkward awareness, if the truth be known, I am probably only a marginally effective marriage counselor. The only redemption in accepting this statement is that I am not sure any of my peers rank higher. It is not that I don’t have enough education or technique. I have licenses and diplomas that clearly illustrate that I am educated well beyond my own intelligence. There is a contributing factor to this process, however, that limits a counselor from moving the couple along to a higher functional level. That limiting factor is the willingness or ability of the couple themselves to participate.

Whenever a couple comes in, one or both acknowledges that they have problems in the relationship that need to be fixed, and even “probably have some things they should look at about themselves.” This is code for “I need to look like I am open to the process, but frankly, if the other one in this relationship would deal with their issues \[that are offensive to me\], we would be fine.” The only exception to this slam dunk truth is when one or both have been working on their “stuff” individually before relational counseling and have dealt with their contribution to the relationship. Then the slam dunk truth is only partially true.

As marriage counselors, we work with what shows up in the office and the art of our job is to identify the level at which the couple is playing and try to coach them further up the curve. Again, the growth is limited not only by our educational skill but by our ability to relate at whatever level the couple arrives with. So, couples, here are some things you can do to further growth in your relationship, whether you use a counseling process or not.

First, tap into your ability to be self-honest. Growth begins when you look at you. Of course, you see the faults in the other better than they do. The ability to focus on others rather than ourselves leads to blame which ensures we never see our part. The relationship does not improve until both parts improve their offering. Second, learn that you are responsible for your own feelings, and your own happiness. If you are not sure of what it is you need or want, how in the world do you expect your partner to participate? Handing them responsibility for your happiness again puts you into the victim role and you hand over the power you have for getting your needs met. “They should know what I want/like without me having to ask for it” is a recipe for disaster, frustration and is not 2 true. Third, develop better boundaries. Protective boundaries keep us from having to take on what others say or do. Containment boundaries keep us from stepping on other person’s toes. Learn to develop both or you will drain your level of emotional energy that is required to work in an effective relationship. This is very difficult work, and most don’t do it very well. I usually spend several sessions with couples just on boundaries. Take a class, read a book, practice with each other. You and the relationship deserve better than what most of bring in the area of boundaries.

Finally, marriage is not a net-sum relationship. There should be unlimited love, acceptance and positive regard. For one to win, the other does not have to lose (a feature of dysfunctional homes). The quick indicator I watch for is the level of reactivity around criticism and defensiveness. Couples describe horrible fights from last Tuesday, but three weeks from now cannot even tell you what they were about. This indicates reactivity not a meaningful conflict or difference. Reactivity is always tied to history and almost always predates the couple. Deal with the history and learn about you or you will blame the other for your unhappiness for the rest of the relationship. (Then whoever dies first wins). Most of us spent more time in Driver’s Ed than we did learning about healthy relationships. If you want to improve yours, growth is available, and it is a rewarding effort. Help us help you.

[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100

**Categories:** Marriage Counseling, Marriage Maintenance

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### [Boundaries and Adolescents](https://d2counseling.com/2019/11/24/boundaries-and-adolescents/)

**Published:** November 24, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

*Note: I wrote this a few years back when my daughter was moving up to [Frankford Middle School in Plano](https://www.pisd.edu/frankford) ISD*

This fall I entrust another child to PISD as she moves to middle school. As a parent, I would prefer to continue with Indian Princess. As a counselor, I recognize that adolescence has begun, and my task as a parent is to provide safe boundaries in which she can grow. Not always an easy task. I remember her and see her as a smaller child but am constantly challenged to see her as a young adult. Boundaries, I know, are to be tested. It is difficult for me to hold the line at times, and I will admit that it is easier to do ahead of time, rather than in the thick of the battle. Having done this once already, I see some of the pitfalls that lie ahead. First when you are told by your adolescent (it doesn’t matter if they are 13 or 17….) that no one else has a curfew, it is not true. When you are told that no one else’s parents call to check if there is a parent at the party, it is not true. When you are told that no one else must call if their plans change, it is not true. When you are told that there is always beer and pot at the party, it is not true. When you are told that no one else must work, it is not true. When you are told that no one else must pay for their auto insurance and gas, it is not true. When you are told that everyone is having sex, it is not true. When you are told that no one else must spend time with their family, it is not true. If these are true for your child’s friends, then your child needs new friends, because the parents of these friends do not know how to set boundaries for their children, and they are hurting them far more than helping them.

The rough guidelines that we begin with include curfew with acknowledgement that nothing begins until schoolwork is addressed. Once plans are made, we expect them to remain constant unless we are asked about it ahead of time. (Phone calls to ask to change plans at 11:40 pm with a midnight curfew don’t get approved). We expect to know where our kids are and who they are with. At younger ages, I demand to know who is providing the supervision. Even at older ages it is not safe to turn our kids loose to just drive around town with their friends and come and go wherever and whenever they please. 2

Growth from adolescence to young adulthood is a big jump. The risk is to allow a child the freedoms of adulthood without the responsibility. I see many parents try to avoid the conflict of having to set appropriate boundaries (and natural consequences when violated), but the cost in abandoning your child is their emotional and social retardation. Once on their own, the child has little else to do but fail. The workforce, college, and the real world in general does not take on the task to provide a responsibility-free lifestyle. Boundaries at their best, keep everybody safe. When responsibility is shown, it is appropriate to move the boundary. It is a fluid process, and one with which I am not always comfortable. I do believe that the struggle is worth it, however, our children are too important to simply hand over to the world without equipping them.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Parenting, Relationships

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### [EMDR- Therapy of Choice for PTSD](https://d2counseling.com/2020/01/13/emdr-therapy-of-choice-for-ptsd/)

**Published:** January 13, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

I recently saw the movie “[Bombshell](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6394270/)”, the story of a media giant’s abuse of women, power and privilege. In reflecting on the film, I was particularly struck by the depiction of an environment of oppression that was created by those at the reigns at Fox News. The abuses that occurred in that environment ranged from the subtle “little t trauma” of comments sprinkled throughout (often under someone’s breath) and the overt “big T trauma” of sexual molestation. See https://d2counseling.com/trauma-and-the-grammatical-guide/ The abuses and the resulting trauma were smothered in a blanket of secrecy and fear. This type of system-centered abuse doesn’t just exist in the workplace. This abuse can occur in the family system as well and everyone is exposed to the damaging effects of trauma. A part of the impact of this trauma can be the negative beliefs an individual develops about themselves; “I don’t matter” – “I am not enough”- “I am unheard”, or “I am unlovable.” As a therapist, [EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/) (Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is one of the most effective tools I have learned and use to treat trauma, it’s triggers and accompanying negative core beliefs. I came to EMDR because of my yogic perspective where trauma not only affects the mind but pervades the body. Left to fester, trauma wounds the soul. With the understanding that healing does not only take place in a cognitive body, EMDR addresses the treatment of traumatic memory cognitively, emotionally and somatically. For individuals who struggle underneath that blanket of secrecy and repression, EMDR is a way to desensitize traumatic memory without the necessity of retelling. EMDR is a way to rewrite the negative beliefs clients have developed about themselves and the world in which they live and rewrite the survival rules clients have lived by that no longer serve them.

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [Nature is a Parent’s Best Tool](https://d2counseling.com/2020/01/15/nature-is-a-parents-best-tool/)

**Published:** January 15, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

An Open Letter to Parents: It has taken me 16 years (that’s how old my son is), but I think I have finally come up with a New Year’s resolution that would enable all of us to better shape our children’s growth and development. This year let’s all resolve to allow natural consequence guide the repercussions to our children’s behavior.

I have spent these 16 years trying to give my experience to my child so that this good information will guide his choice of behavior. I have concluded that this attempt has been a horrible failure. There is a theory of learning and behavior modification that states that right thinking will lead to right behavior. Thank goodness this thought prevails or the sale of self-help books would plummet! However, this approach to learning is wrong.

Experience will show that you act your way into right thinking, you do not think your way into right acting. Therefore, it is so difficult to tell children what to do. The consequences of a behavior are a far better teacher than anything we are going to tell them.

Experience in life is about action and consequence. As parents, then, the best we can do is hope that reflection about the consequence will lead to changed behavior. It would be nice if we could simply confer as parents and come up with a Rolodex of behaviors and then list the corresponding natural consequence we would like to impose, but it is rarely that simple. I have found, however, a few principles that help me determine how to correlate consequence with behavior.

First, I try not to “fix” all their problems. I do not help complete school projects the night before they are due, for example. At older ages, I resist managing their calendar. Dentist appointments that conflict with a job or a sporting event are left to the child to deal with. If they need a ride, then certain parameters are offered as the need arises. Second, consequence needs to be related. If the issue with the children is not calling to check in while out with their friends, they will not relate to a consequence of extra chores during the week. Perhaps loss of the cellphone for a couple of weeks makes more sense to them. Finally, allowing the natural consequence needs to be reasonable and safe. If the issue is drinking and driving drunk, it is not safe to let them drive drunk while we wait for the expected wreck or arrest. The safer and more reasonable consequence for driving impaired is not driving.

Love is defined by M. Scott Peck (*[The Road Less Traveled](https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Road-Less-Traveled-Timeless-Edition/M-Scott-Peck/9780743243155))* as “the extension of ourselves for the purpose of nurturing another’s spiritual growth.” I like that. When we set appropriate boundaries and consequences for our children, we are expressing our love for them. It is not love to simply let them do what they want. Our job as parents is to equip our children as they grow to meet the world on their own. They will not always have us there to save them, and it is our job to teach them how to be in this world without a dependency on us. Resolving to rely more on natural consequence will help us do that with them. Happy New Year!

**Categories:** Parenting

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### [Good Enough Parenting](https://d2counseling.com/2020/01/16/good-enough-parenting/)

**Published:** January 16, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

There is no such thing as perfect parenting. Feel free to check that out with my kids. What I will cop to is near perfect intention. My parenting intentions were almost always solid. Exhaustion (often from parenting!) and ignorance might be the only contributors that prevented a perfect score here. Alas, my kids didn’t get to experience all the good intentions. They enjoyed or suffered (with parenting – these are synonyms) through the impact of my parenting. So while I meant well, my best often fell short. That “encouragement to be better” came out as criticism and at times the impact was to shame them. As my kids have grown and chosen to do their (emotional) work I have enjoyed/suffered the experience of being invited to their therapy to contribute to their growth.

 –Side Note: I often say that as kids age out of the house our responsibility for them continues around paying for their education and their therapy-

 So I got to experience paying for the session *and* learn of the impact I had on them. Thankfully I have learned that to be accountable and continue to build on the relationship means I listen without defensiveness and “yes but…”

This allows the healing to build. There is a time for explanation only after they ask for it and truly want it. To offer it at any time before that instant is to negate their experience and move me to center stage telling them why they’re wrong. Not a useful tool to grow relationship. I have benefited from watching time after time, a child trying to engage in understanding their childhood (and often times the harder parts to swallow) only to watch the parent flounder back over to the side of “not only did I mean well but look at all the good stuff that I did for you.”

 Yes the impact I had on my kids obviously shaped them, and they had lots of advantages, more than most. But to fall on that when they are trying to make sense of some of the tougher things they experienced is shallow, selfish and points to a level of narcissism I need to keep working on.

 So after going through a few of these sessions, I can say my perspective has been refreshed and today I could start over and do a better job. Today however, I just don’t think I have the energy it takes with little kids!

 So how do we learn as parents to moderate our skills and behavior to accommodate or correct for the impact/intention dynamic. What my (adult) kids (and their therapists) have taught me is that I have to put my ego away and focus on my child’s need. And, in most cases this requires a perspective I was not sent into parenting with. When my first born showed up in that Richardson hospital room the man that met him had the experience of how my parents raised me coupled with my better intentions. And it was trial and error from then on. I did try to pay attention around me to see how other parents were doing it but generally I defaulted back to my experience of what was done to me. After all, I turned out OK didn’t I? And back into the soup I go. I will never forget one afternoon as we prepared to head over to the barbershop for my son and I was engaged in a lengthy suggestion about how I thought his hair would look good if he were to cut it that certain way. My wife overhearing this (and a woman of few words) simply asked if I was still working with my therapist on my father’s impact of overbearing opinions. Point made.

 It is a fine line between parenting and controlling and one that is more difficult with younger children. Frankly it is often just easier to squash the situation with “Because I Said So!” But that leaves little room for individual growth and expression with the child. I had to learn that balance between giving them enough room to make a mistake and being sure the mistake they might make is short of falling off a cliff. Today I look like a parental genius (in my own mind) as I see where they are successful today. But my kids and I often have very disparate points of view about what is going on in that polaroid from their youth. And we have arrived back to the difference between impact and intent.

 My best days as a parent were when I stayed fully present with my kids. There I remain teachable and my curiosity not only allowed me to connect with them but to learn from and with them. I took my boy to the [Dallas Zoo](http://www.dallaszoo.com) when he was about 4. As we walked in, I could hear the lions roaring, something I had never heard before and just knew he would be impressed by it. But his eyes had lit up when he saw the concrete alligator in the picnic area and immediately ran to sit on it. I asked if he didn’t want to go see the lions roar and he said no, he was with the alligator. I started to scoop him up and run up the hill to the lions but I saw the joy on his face bouncing on the alligator. I sat down with him and laughed at me.

Good enough parenting.

**Categories:** Co-Parenting, Parenting

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### [Freedom and Responsibility](https://d2counseling.com/2020/02/03/freedom-and-responsibility/)

**Published:** February 3, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

As the kids grew up, they would regularly tune me out at home, but as a counselor my adolescent clients are surprisingly candid and willing to talk about their lifestyle and what is happening in their lives. When I cross paths socially with my friends who still have kids in high school someone usually prods me to find out what is really going on in their teen’s world. I avoid working when away from the office and can usually short circuit the conversation by saying they don’t want to know. If they really push, I threaten to tell them. They end up agreeing with me.

Kids who are having a great year don’t end up in my office, so we understand from the start that the population that my group works with is defined up front by their propensity for some problem. There are some common threads that run through this group, common denominators that we as parents overlook at our peril and at our teen’s expense. First is unsupervised time. What most parents forget, or never realize, is that identity is formed in tension with other individuals. We try on our identities, we practice our identities, and hopefully we end up choosing to become what we are called to be. But in this “practice time” the practice is usually in an area that parents should be cautious of. Muscles are formed when we exercise them. Bones decalcify in space without resistance. And our identities do not develop unless we are acting against something or someone else. The parent’s job here is to put some parameters on where or who this someone else is. I believe we are allowed to jerk our children back off the edge of a cliff and sometimes we need to. But if we don’t even know they are walking on the ledge we cannot participate. Second, we need to attach responsibility to the freedom that the child seeks. Our kids are all about this idea of freedom and our role in this is to show them how to appreciate it. Appreciated freedom manifests itself in responsible behavior. When we are given freedom with no responsibility, we never learn how to appreciate it or use it wisely. To do this, simply offer your child alternatives without taking their choices personally. Be home by midnight or lose the use of the car tomorrow night. Do your chores or don’t go out. Hand them back the power to choose and then their choices will reflect the opportunity to claim the responsibility that needs to accompany freedom. And the best part for me is that I get to recognize that their choice is then their responsibility and I do not have to invest in which choice they make. This latter principle is directly related to

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the final one I offer you. Get with the other decision makers in the house so one of you does not erode the other’s power. Yes, this is difficult, particularly in extended and mixed families. But if we can agree that the health and growth of the adolescent trumps all else, then we stand a chance of finding common ground upon which to offer these choices to our child.

I had one client who had lost the use of his car as a reprimand. With some coaching, I told him that we could get the use of his car back if he would agree to be home by curfew (and he would have to do it on a consistent basis). He smiled and declined because he knew his Dad was going to give him back the car soon enough and Mom and Dad never agreed on curfew anyway. When Junior was out, he simply waited for Mom to raise the heat enough in messages to him on his cell that he would then call Dad back and assure him that he’d be home “soon.” In the vagueness of “soon”, he could get Mom and Dad to fight over the specific time, and Junior got to stay out drinking. Responsibility must accompany freedom, or it is really indulgence. If we as parents are not going to insist on this responsibility, then we are abandoning our children. It might even lead one to suspect that our refusal to insist on this teaching with our children is the source of the lesson the child is learning. Our children deserve better.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Parenting, Support

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### [The (High School) Senior Rebellion - How to Handle Defiant Teen](https://d2counseling.com/2020/02/14/how-to-handle-defiant-teen-senior-rebellion/)

**Published:** February 14, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

What my kids are only now starting to figure out is that I get even with them in my writings. I only change the names to protect the guilty. My son was a high school senior when I wrote this.

**HS Senior Rebellion**
If you listen carefully, you can hear it all over [Collin County](https://www.collincountytx.gov/). It is a disquieting noise, one that parents initially find annoying, but annoyance quickly turns to concern and exasperation. It is the sound of high school seniors hitting the “stupid wall.” The sound has a familiar ring to it, it happened last year at this time. It happened the years before that and will happen again next year. To the untrained ear it sounds a lot like the noise that would be made if you walked head long into a wall you didn’t know was there. Thunk.

My counseling calendar fills up every year currently. It seems to coincide with the mail order arrival of high school graduation announcements. Normally bright, intelligent creative kids turn into thoughtless, unethical and mostly selfish creatures. When asked “what were you thinking?” you are met only with blank stares. They are only a shadow of their former selves.

I used to label these behaviors as simple rebellion, but I have come to believe that this morphing is playing a useful role in facilitating the fast approaching flight from the nest. (I’ve been practicing my kicking motion for some months now). Tied closely to this is the opportunity for conflict to arise either over the behavior, or in some cases out of nowhere. The behaviors and the conflict are a natural part of the growing process and one which all kids engage in, to some degree. This conflict facilitates independence and allows the child to focus on their own anger or the parents, “unfairness” as a type of emotional rationale to separate and leave. The explanation is very intellectual but very unsatisfying (and usually forgotten) in the face of dealing with absurd, previously unconsidered, behavior.

What’s a parent to do…? Here, I speak as much as a fellow sojourner as I do Counselor. First, we must maintain the appropriate boundaries. Stick with me parents- there is strength in numbers! As the kids hit 17, 18, and 19, they want more freedoms and we should give it to them. But we must hold the line somewhere, and honestly, I see that there is a part of their development that needs to know where the boundary is. It should be a flexible boundary, but one that needs to be pointed out when the idiot behavior manifests itself. When curfew is wantonly disregarded, take away the car, the phone, the cash- take away something- so they don’t just blow by the boundary again tomorrow.

If the standards of truth in the home are taking a shellacking, examine the truth with them using your understanding of true and false and encourage their acceptance of your truth. Again, natural consequences should guide your choices on behavior modification.

Perhaps most helpful to us as boundary setters is to get support. We must stay united! During the crisis I find it useful to run my thought process (and intentions on correction) by someone else who has been there before. I personally use a couple of guys whose kids are a few years older than my own and they seem to appreciate the opportunity to help. My initial response is almost always nuclear, that is, make the consequence so horrible that the offender will never consider doing it again. I think. This doesn’t work. It builds resentment, creates pushback and will not change behavior, despite, momentary satisfaction on my part. (It is sort of like revenge; it feels good initially but doesn’t ultimately serve a useful or healthy purpose and leads to remorse). By talking with others who are not involved in the battle I can take advantage of their perspective. If we choose our mentors carefully, we will gain the benefit of their experience. The process is moving as it is supposed to. (I keep having to repeat this to myself, and I will soon believe it). Be strong parents- we can prevail!

*[ Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Parenting

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### [The Price Parents Pay](https://d2counseling.com/2020/03/03/the-price-parents-pay/)

**Published:** March 3, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

With two kids that graduated Plano West, I was not surprised at the stories of excess that were constantly paraded in front of us as parents (often by my kids who wanted us to keep up!). As a parent, I too readily recognize the pressures that my kids faced to “keep up” as well as the internal tension I personally had to deal with as I grapple with my own history, and the desires I have for my children.

As a counselor I have come to see that parental responses to kids over issues like spending and accountability fall along the traditional bell curve. My admission here is that I probably fall onto the more conservative/strict half of the bell than do many parents. With that caveat aside, I would also submit that as we consider this- the whole curve is skewed with the level of prosperity that is found in parts of Collin County. So, the task of modeling and instructing appropriate behavior for our kids does become a challenge.
I asked a parent/client where balance was for them on this issue, and he laughed and said that it was the point they waved at as they shot from one extreme to the other. I can relate. For us, we found that balance on spending must include participation by the child in setting limits. In addition, the child must have the freedom to choose an alternative within these same boundaries. Credit cards with no limits do not fly in our house.
We gave my son an old truck of mine when he began to drive. He was expected to pay for gas and insurance. This meant a job, or no truck. What he discovered was that it was a gas guzzling truck. Gas cost a lot. More hours of work vs. fewer miles driven. (See how nicely this is starting to work?) He had his own checking and savings account, and was expected to keep up with his debit card. I was surprised however when he relayed that in class as a senior, only about half the students had a checking account and that of those, only 2 of the kids knew what it meant to balance the checkbook. We gave my son a pay as you go cell phone and started him with a few minutes. It was his responsibility to pay for it. His time, his minutes, his money. He got to see the relationship firsthand. I will add that we would occasionally buy him a card for phone minutes and a tank of gas, but we tried to hold to the principle that he is ultimately responsible for these items.
We always encouraged savings. Do the math with your child on a Roth IRA that begins at age 16. It becomes easier to get a buy in around the savings plan. (I wish my Dad had done that for me!).
Our kids got a (fairly) regular allowance that has some flexibility for more dollars with more chores. When the “I wants” start, we defer quickly to “You’re welcome to use your own money.” A level of thoughtfulness then ensues about how important the want really is. It is this consideration that I believe we are trying to instill.

To ignore teaching these lessons to our kids sets them up for failure unless the money is always going to be unlimited. (Sorry, I can’t speak to that situation…) Consumerism is a big deal these days for them and for us. I believe we owe it to our children to teach them how to match wants and needs with reality and ability to pay. The cost in not doing this is a harsh lesson for the child down the road when there may not be a safety net.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijaz](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/)i, PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [There Is A Solution From Addiction](https://d2counseling.com/2020/04/01/there-is-a-solution-from-addiction/)

**Published:** April 1, 2020
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Mental health and addiction treatment options are often difficult to find and are within a system that is difficult to navigate. The pendulum of excess for treatment options peaked in the late ‘80s/early ‘90s. The swing cannot rebound much more to the other extreme. As a society we desperately need to move back towards a sane balance where people in need truly do have more alternatives to treatment, health and recovery.

However, even today there is a solution for those suffering from addictions. The natural progression of addiction continues to drive individuals to new bottoms. But in this downward spiral there is hope. With each new low is the opportunity for the addict or alcoholic to move through their denial and seek recovery. Twelve Step groups such as [Alcoholics Anonymous](https://www.aa.org/) and [Narcotics Anonymous](https://na.org/) do work and they are widely available. Early AA quoted a recovery rate that is seemingly higher (over 50%) than current recovery rates suggest. There is significance in this and it is actually positive in that in earlier times (AA began in the ‘30s) only low bottom cases were able to grasp the steps and principles necessary to move to recovery. It had finally become “bad enough”. If one suffering from addiction finds that it is now “bad enough” recovery can be achieved. They can step off the downward spiral before it crashes at the bottom.

The tremendous value in 12-step groups is that they are widely available, the program is affordable and it works. But willingness is the key. They are programs for those that want recovery- not necessarily for those that need recovery. As a clinician I would prefer to prescribe medical detoxification followed by in-patient treatment that would progress to long-term support and recovery. This isn’t always practical or affordable. But recovery is available to the suffering by going to meetings and investing fully with the experts on abstinence. To the suffering I would say, “Go and do what they tell you to do.” They have a vested interest in making recovery available to you in sharing their experience, strength and hope, and recovery is possible. If you are unwilling to choose this path and still insist on doing it “your way” you might pause a moment and reflect on how well “your way” has worked so far.

Addiction to alcohol or drugs is very much related. 12 Step groups have emerged to focus on one issue or another and their traditional approach is designed to maintain an integrity and survival of each group around a specific issue. But the pure addict or the pure alcoholic is rare. Often the addict doesn’t wish to admit that alcohol may be a

problem (they are reserving their right to get high with a liquid) and the alcoholic doesn’t wish to include their prescriptions or other drugs in their abstinence. Many (including myself) believe that AA was divinely inspired-and is probably not coincidence that one of the co-founders, Dr. Bob Smith, was addicted to both drugs and alcohol.

Perhaps, surprisingly, I make more referrals to Al-Anon than I do to other 12 step groups aimed at the alcoholic or the addict (such as AA or NA). The number one feature of this disease is denial and family of the addict or the alcoholic often sees the addiction much clearer than the user. The Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. Addiction is a family disease. As such all members suffer, not just the alcoholic or addict. Al-Anon provides relief. The family of such an alcoholic usually needs relief as bad as the addict does. As an indicator, if you have read to this point and have decided you need to give this article to a friend or relative who is addicted, you probably will benefit from attending Al-Anon. Until a surrender of “I will do whatever it takes- even to go to THOSE meetings” occurs, the untreated will continue to suffer. (This statement addresses both the addict and the family members!)

Medical detoxification is often necessary. This is available as emergent medical care. Emergency rooms cannot turn people away who need serious medical attention simply because they do not have insurance or cash. (They are also not going to spend much money or energy on a patient beyond the crisis). So the patient must step into recovery immediately following detoxification or the relapse is almost certain. Go to a meeting today. There is a solution.

*[Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/), LPC-S, CSAT and [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/), PhD, CSAT are Co-Founders of D2 Counseling and lead a quality team of mature, experienced therapists that specialize in children and family as well as individuals, couples and groups. They take an active and engaged approach and work with marriage and family counseling to depression, anxiety and dependency issues with offices in Plano and Far North Dallas. www.D2Counseling.com 972-975-9100*

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [Do you find yourself stuck in cycles of anxiety, shame, and guilt?](https://d2counseling.com/2021/04/27/do-you-find-yourself-stuck-in-cycles-of-anxiety-shame-and-guilt/)

**Published:** April 27, 2021
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) categorizes emotions into two groups: core emotions and inhibitory emotions. According to this approach, humans are hard-wired to experience core emotions, such as fear, anger, sadness, disgust, joy, and excitement, which are triggered in the middle part of the brain and are not subject to our conscious control. Core emotions are brilliant sources of wisdom, providing influential messages that are meant to be adaptive and help navigate our lives. Alternatively, inhibitory emotions, such as shame, anxiety, and guilt, are learned emotions on a mission to block (inhibit) core emotions. Inhibitory emotions block core emotions for two reasons: when the brain attempts to protect you from the perceived emotional overwhelm that a core emotion may illicit, and when the core emotion may create conflict with a person whom you feel you need to please, such as a partner or parent.

Many of us get caught in cycles of relentless anxiety, shame, and guilt that we just can’t seem to abate. This may sound like preoccupations with catastrophic possibilities (anxiety), consistently questioning your worth and how you measure up in accordance with your view of others (shame), and torturing yourself concerning your past behaviors (guilt). Now, anxiety, shame, and guilt have their place and can certainly be productive. However, because of their inhibitory approach, can also be excessive and trivial.

Relief from inhibitory emotions begins when we connect with what they are blocking: the underlying core emotion(s). Processing core emotions enables us to get to what is considered The Openhearted State, where we feel calm, connected (to ourselves and others), compassionate, confident, curious, and clear. Interestingly, an emotion in its pure form only lasts a minute and a half if we respond to it effectively, with a developed skillset. This can be a motivating reminder in moments of intense emotion.

Birthed out of this theory, The Change Triangle provides a map to journeying through inhibitory emotions and core emotions to get you to The Openhearted State. As seen on The Change Triangle, defenses are also a place where we often get stuck. Defenses are anything we do to avoid feeling, such as addiction, numbing out, sleeping, rumination, too much screen-time, and perfectionism. The creator of The Change Triangle, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, theorizes that depression is a defense because in a depressive state we are disconnected from our emotion; therefore, healing from depression requires connection and processing of core emotions. Many of us spend time oscillating between defenses and inhibitory emotions, out of avoidance of feeling core emotions. This method of coping prevents us from experiencing The Openhearted State and induces suffering. Hendel beautifully shares her theory in her book, [*It’s Not Always Depression*](https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/itsnotalwaysdepressionbook), which introduces The Change Triangle as a model that provides steps to take you from a space of disconnection to your true self: The Openhearted State.

The ultimate objective of The Change Triangle is to assist you in feeling better. Once you hone skills to process emotions, you can heal repressed emotions and hang out in the splendor of The Openhearted State. Spending more time in this state helps us build the confidence we need to maintain a quality life.

I’d be thrilled to [further orient you](https://d2counseling.com/contact/) to this model and many others to assist in your healing journey at D2 Counseling.

**Categories:** Depression, Relationships, Trauma

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### [There is a Solution](https://d2counseling.com/2021/11/10/there-is-a-solution-2/)

**Published:** November 10, 2021
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

When you take a bird’s eye view of humans as a species, we’re pretty incredible beings, aren’t we?

Think about it: In the grand scheme of things, we are fragile little ecosystems. We are subject to threat left and right– wars, natural disasters, meteors narrowly missing Earth by a scientific force that is far beyond me, and most recently, a global pandemic– and yet, we adapt. We find alternate pathways, and we continue to stand the test of time.

Despite our undeniable strength, though, we are still humans who need other humans.

In the aftermath of COVID, we are seeing soaring rates of substance abuse, suicide ideation, and isolation. Our physical need for isolation and other responses to the pandemic have taken a toll on all of us.

This degree of universal struggle is something that most of us have never seen in our lifetime, and that can feel daunting or near impossible when you’re in the thick of it. We can know that we possess the ability to heal all we want, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we know *how.*

We’re here to tell you that there is a solution. With the help of a trained professional, you can navigate the hard things, the lonely things, the good things, and everything in between with an awareness of your capacity for strength. You can walk with a compassionate witness that maintains that bird’s eye view of *your* existence, who can remind you that you are more capable than you give yourself credit for.

With a growing team of [professionals](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) trained in a wide variety of specialties, D2 Counseling is here for whatever hard thing you find yourself going through. We look forward to hearing from you.

**Categories:** Support

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### [Vulnerability is not Weakness](https://d2counseling.com/2022/02/02/vulnerability-is-not-weakness/)

**Published:** February 2, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

We are living history. At a time when all of humanity is experiencing a global phenomenon as a collective, we have never felt further apart.

Society has seemingly settled into the pandemic routine: zoom calls, different protocols at work and school, and a new way of socializing, but exhaustion with using digital tools to stay in touch has left many feeling hollow rather than reconnected.

As a consequence, a second pandemic has been spreading around the globe: loneliness. Loneliness is a socio-cultural phenomenon with real biological consequences, including a correlation with both depression and anxiety, and it has become more pervasive over the last two years.

It may feel as if almost every conversation seems to drift towards discussing the pandemic, but the topic rarely ever then turns to discuss the deeper marks that this universal experience has left on us all.

**Even in this unique time, acknowledging our common humanity can bring us together when a pandemic is keeping us apart.** Common humanity is the understanding that struggling is universal. We are as much connected by our suffering as we are by our successes.

Society teaches us to put on a happy face due to the stigma surrounding loneliness and other mental health issues, so it’s no surprise that discussing our inner thoughts with others might be uncomfortable at the start. It takes vulnerability to outwardly acknowledge our struggles with loneliness, but that honesty is what often allows others to offer us support and ask for it in return.

*We must allow ourselves to be vulnerable in order to reconnect, but how can we put that remedy into action?*

Group therapy allows you to share your personal experiences in a way that empowers and validates your deeper self. By sharing your own story with the group, you become the author of a narrative in which you are strong and capable of progress. When others in the group share with you in return, a connection begins to grow in real-time. This acknowledgment of our common humanity is the way that we can move forward together.

With a team of counselors trained in a wide variety of specialties, including [group therapy](https://d2counseling.com/group-therapy/), D2 Counseling is here to guide you on your path to healing. We are ready to hear from you and start that journey today.

**Categories:** Depression, Support

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### [Is This Pandemic Grief?](https://d2counseling.com/2022/03/01/is-this-pandemic-grief/)

**Published:** March 1, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Is it normal to grieve your pre-pandemic life? A shadow of grief has been cast across millions of people since the beginning of the pandemic, and those who have suffered a direct loss are not alone in feeling this way.

Grief can also be caused by drastic changes to your worldview involving a loss. The public health measures that have been in place since 2020 have contributed to many struggles, such as the absence of a loved one, the end of meaningful employment, and even general disillusionment with how the world works.

As part of the cycle of grief, what began with *denial* at the beginning of the pandemic may have shifted to *anger and frustration* as many of these changes have become permanent.

Loss is a shared phenomenon in humanity, but the cultural belief that we need to appear to have “it” all together can keep us from taking the time needed to mourn. Frequent reminders of instability worldwide in our news and social media can contribute to feeling even more *overwhelmed and hopeless.*

**How can we properly grieve the old way of things and accept this “new normal?” Seeking meaning out of loss or traumatic change is a key part of navigating the grieving process.**

Many people find having faith to be their source of meaning and hope through grief. Faith might be religious in nature but can also be faith in your personal strength and resilience.

Finding meaning in the journey you’ve been through and the new perspectives you’ve gained may take time, and the answer may never feel worth the cost of what was lost. Loss may be woven into all of our stories, but taking charge of your own narrative can help you begin to overcome the grief.

Seeking this “why” is not attempting to answer why the tragedy first occurred but instead what you intend to live for going forward. Over time, grief finds a more quiet place in your heart and mind with the *acceptance* of this new reality.

Creating a stronger community can help those mourning to overcome the pain together. Joining a group, allowing those tough conversations to happen, and talking to a professional can be powerful tools to work through grief.

D2 Counseling is here to help you navigate your way through healing with a team of counselors trained in a variety of specialties, including grief therapy. [Reach out today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/) to begin your own narrative built on a belief in your future.

**Categories:** Pandemic, Support

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### [The Mental Health Burden of COVID](https://d2counseling.com/2022/04/01/the-mental-health-burden-of-covid/)

**Published:** April 1, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

You’ve been cleared by your doctor for Covid-19 but are still feeling far from yourself physically and emotionally. Your colleagues and friends don’t understand how debilitating the brain fog and sleepless nights have been for you, and your work and relationships have started to become affected.

Almost everyone has felt added stress from the pandemic, but the burden is particularly heavy for those battling Covid symptoms that just won’t seem to go away after the initial period of illness. *This phenomenon is known as long Covid.* Some experience mild long Covid effects, but the symptoms of others are so severe that they directly impact their ability to navigate daily life as they did before.

Mental health is innately tied with physical health. This means that the symptoms of long Covid are not only caused by the virus but also from the trauma associated with being ill and not knowing when normal life will return. Navigating a long-term illness that could redefine one’s career, relationships, and family life takes a negative toll on mental well-being.

When looking at prominent long Covid symptoms, such as fatigue and breathlessness, it’s possible to see how the common symptoms of both Covid and prominent mental health disorders, such as depression and anxiety, can overlap and intertwine.

Fortunately, there is a path toward healing the mind and body from long Covid. This path must not only involve life-saving treatments but also the types of treatments that can make those lives *full* again. Understanding the connection between physical and mental health is critical to seeing progress. **When recovery is viewed from a holistic perspective that encompasses mental health, then long Covid patients can begin to thrive again.**

If there is a silver lining surrounding long Covid, it may be increased awareness of the need for all treatment plans to target not only specific symptoms but the entire body as a whole, including mental health, and to include extended support over time for patients and their families both during and following an illness.

D2 Counseling has a team of [counselors](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) trained in a variety of specialties, including methods that can alleviate the psychological symptoms of Covid. Whether the focus is anxiety management strategies, cognitive processing therapy to change your perspective of traumatic events, somatic experiencing therapy to release trauma from the body, or a combination of several, there is a path toward healing for you. Today can be the start of that journey.

**Categories:** Pandemic, Support

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### [Is Trauma Just a Buzzword?](https://d2counseling.com/2022/05/03/is-trauma-just-a-buzzword/)

**Published:** May 3, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

This May is Mental Health Awareness Month, a time to increase awareness and reduce the stigma surrounding the mental health issues that so many of us experience.

However, there is one mental health buzzword that has already been receiving media attention over the last few decades: trauma. References to trauma can be found everywhere from your favorite TV show plotline to pop culture references on Twitter.

Could we be assigning the label of trauma to some situations that don’t actually match its definition? We know that the effects of trauma are real, but the true meaning is difficult to narrow down.

*The DSM-V, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, currently defines trauma as “actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence.”*

However, an experience that doesn’t technically qualify according to the DSM-V can still have negative effects. The accumulation of less profound events may not lead to a PTSD diagnosis but can still generate severe emotional damage, especially if the events occur during periods of brain development in childhood.

In an effort to distinguish between these types of trauma, some experts use the “big T” and “little t” models. “Big T” traumas are some of the most debilitating events a person can experience, such as sexual violence or a threat against life. “Little t” traumas may look like emotional abuse or the loss of a close relationship.

Many people often overlook or try to rationalize “little t” traumas in order to avoid being seen as dramatic or overreacting. Rather than properly dealing with the symptoms of “little t” traumas, some turn to negative coping mechanisms, such as substance use.

One of the traumas often overlooked is neglect. Parents may be unable to meet the emotional needs of their children due to their own history of trauma or other mental health conditions. Repeated exposure to trauma caused by neglect in childhood can prevent the brain’s normal systems from working properly.

**Not addressing the emotional distress from any traumatic experience can cause damage over time.** Fortunately, there are clear paths to treat trauma and break the cycles of trauma in families and relationships.

Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing ([EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/)), [Somatic Experiencing](https://d2counseling.com/somatic-experience/), and experiential therapy that utilizes groups and immersive activities can be used to begin the journey of working through “big T” and “little t” trauma. For some struggling with “big T” traumas, inpatient, partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient care may be a critical part of the treatment plan.

As a strong resource for all types of programs in the DFW area and across the country, D2 Counseling is committed to helping everyone find the best fit for their therapy needs. You can break the cycle of trauma in your life starting today by reaching out to a mental health professional.

**Categories:** Trauma

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### [Taking Control of Your “New Normal”](https://d2counseling.com/2022/06/07/taking-control-of-your-new-normal/)

**Published:** June 7, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

The sun shines through your window, aiding your alarm to wake you up for the morning. You stretch and cheerfully jump out of bed, ready to take on all the day has in store. You’re full of life and excited to experience each moment. Your life up until this point has been as it should be, a collection of good and bad experiences each molding you into who you are. Nonetheless, life goes on each day.

It was just another regular day until it wasn’t. You begin to hear talks going around about this deadly virus that’s spreading at an uncontrollable rate. You’re told to work from home until further notice. One event gets canceled, another store closes, and suddenly — everything is shut down.

We all remember that day, the last day felt ‘normal’ to us. Then, COVID shook our worldview, and it’s never been the same since. For the past two years, we’ve been living in what’s been coined the ‘new normal.’ In spite of the vast changes, we have been managing. We have been managing despite the lack of community and the absence of our regular routine. This state of survival has become our ‘new normal,’ but the negative effects on our mental health may be too heavy to carry for much longer.

Now, two years later, steps have been taken to slow the spread of this virus. Although some of the changes to the way the world now works are permanent, many businesses and offices have reopened, and events are being held again. In many ways, it appears that there has been a total return to regular life, but we’re still feeling stuck. As employment, relationships, and addresses have all shifted and transformed during the last two years, re-integrating into our local communities and public spaces is bound to be an awkward transition. Additional stress from the pandemic makes it even more difficult to find the clarity you need to determine your new path forward.

You no longer have to carry these burdens alone. Now is the time to get up, get out, and retrain your mind to be comfortable again in the world outside of your home. It won’t be an easy process, but you can take it one step at a time. Group therapy options are available to let you know that many others are also struggling with this transition. Many others are also confused about what their ‘new normal’ should look like. Individual therapy with a [trained professional](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) is another option to learn new coping strategies for managing anxiety and depression.

**It’s time to remember who you are. You deserve to define your own ‘new normal.’**

**Categories:** Pandemic, Support

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### [The 988 Suicide Prevention Hotline Launches](https://d2counseling.com/2022/07/19/the-988-suicide-prevention-hotline-launches/)

**Published:** July 19, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Just like you would call 911 for a medical emergency, you can now simply call, text, or chat 988 to reach the [National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network.](https://988lifeline.org/) As of July 16th, **988 is the official three-digit code for mental health and suicide crises**. The original number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255, will continue to be operational. Callers will be connected with trained counselors who can listen, offer support, and provide more resources.

In addition to making the number easier to remember, it is hoped that this transition will also reduce the stigma around mental health and reaching out for help. Even the loved ones of those who have attempted or committed suicide often carry shame as they try to navigate a frightening and confusing situation. This guilt is ingrained in our society, but it is not too late to change.

The adoption of 988 comes at a critical time for the mental health of Americans. The intersection of the Covid-19 pandemic, opioid epidemic, and a stigma against mental health care has created what the Center for Disease Control and Protection has called “a serious public health problem.” Suicide is now the second-leading cause of death in the United States for those between the ages of 15 and 24.

Several US states have reported an increase in suicides among adolescents since the beginning of the pandemic. Nearly 20% of high school students report serious thoughts of suicide, and 9% have made an attempt to take their lives, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. There are many speculated reasons why the pandemic could have affected suicide rates. The loss of a caregiver, virtual classes leading to a lack of social support, financial woes, and an increase in drug usage during a stressful time may be contributing factors.

However bleak the situation may seem, we know that it is possible to positively intervene as a bystander, and the warning signs that someone is considering suicide are well-worth learning. Some warning signs of suicide to watch for are threats or action towards suicide, substance abuse, purposelessness, anxiety, withdrawal, anger, and other mood changes.

As a society, it should become commonplace to pay attention to behaviors that could signal suicidal thoughts by adolescents and adults in each of our lives. We must look inwards, within our own families and circles of friends. **In order to become a community working together to stop these tragic losses of life, we must turn to our friends, coworkers, roommates, and family members to look for any changes in how our loved ones are expressing themselves.** Eventually, each of our small actions will become a larger movement, replacing the need for articles like this one.

Those in crisis deserve a clear path to resources, including [therapists](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) in their community that can offer a range of services. D2 Counseling is able to provide those connections. Whether you’re reaching out for yourself or for someone you care about, D2 can provide and refer treatment and other resources to those struggling.

**Categories:** Uncategorized

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### [Choosing the Right Therapist](https://d2counseling.com/2022/09/21/choosing-the-right-therapist/)

**Published:** September 21, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Increasing numbers of people have become curious about therapy during the pandemic, but taking the steps to start treatment can be a confusing and stressful process for many.

Despite a therapist’s skill level, you will not see benefits unless you have formed a connection with them. If you aren’t able to share your deepest thoughts and truths, then you may not get to the center of the issues you are seeking to change.

*So how do you go about picking the best therapist?*

There are many things to look for in a therapist before reaching out to them. Therapists often share their biography online, allowing you to do some research. The highest importance is choosing a licensed mental health professional who follows a code of ethics. Credentials to look for include a licensed professional counselor (LPC), licensed master social worker (LMSW), licensed chemical dependency counselor (LCDC), or licensed psychologist (LP).

Therapists also often specialize in areas of therapy, including couples counseling, substance abuse, and trauma, and also in methods of treatment, such as Somatic Experiencing therapy and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EDMR). These focuses should be mentioned on their website, along with notes about what experience they have gained in their career through different positions as a counselor.

Even the most basic information in a therapist’s biography may guide you on your search. You may want to consider your own age, gender, religion, and more. For example, would you feel more comfortable with someone closer to your age or older? Would you feel more open speaking with someone who is religious?

Many therapists also offer communication via email or a short phone call before scheduling an appointment to further assess if they would be a good match for you. A therapist that connected well with one person may not work for you, so it’s important to consider your own needs and wants.

This connection or relationship with your therapist is called the “therapeutic alliance,” and research shows that **the therapeutic alliance is an essential factor in seeing a positive change from therapy.** That success can depend on other factors as well, including if the therapist and client are aligned on goals and methods, good communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work together.

It’s also common to feel confused about what the first session with a new therapist may be like. How can you dive straight into your personal struggles and deepest thoughts with a stranger? However, those types of conversations come about naturally over time. The very first session may vary depending on the therapist and whether the appointment is in person or not. Your therapist may first explain some basic information about how the sessions will go and have forms to sign. They may ask you questions about your background, previous issues with mental health, and current problems you may be having. Together, you will work on creating your overall goals for your time working together.

You can also ask the therapist questions of your own. You may inquire about how they help new clients feel at ease or how they go about helping people with similar struggles.

At D2 Counseling, therapists work in collaboration with their clients to form a strong therapeutic alliance, helping increase self-awareness, learn new tools, and build strength and confidence. Reach out today to discuss which of D2 Counseling’s [trained therapists](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) may be the right fit for your needs.

**Categories:** Communication, Pandemic, Support

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### [Are You Chronically Online?](https://d2counseling.com/2022/10/26/are-you-chronically-online/)

**Published:** October 26, 2022
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

In the last decade, smartphone usage has skyrocketed. Upon first consideration, it’s easy to assume that having access to social media online and the ability to text loved ones worldwide would make people feel more connected, but *research shows that this isn’t the case.*

As screen time takes up more hours of daily life, our fundamental social interactions become fewer. Messages or video calls can’t fully replicate relationships in real life, so **many people are surprised when they feel even lonelier despite becoming more connected online.**

Unfortunately, teenagers are especially at risk for negative effects from screen time, as they average 7 to 9 hours of time behind a screen daily, according to the [American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry](https://www.aacap.org/).

A decreased attention span and less developed communication and listening skills outside of the digital world are just a few of the negative side effects of excessive screen time. Data from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey found that adults who watched TV or used a computer for more than 6 hours per day were more likely to experience moderate to severe depression. Research has also found that more screen time may also be linked to less and worse sleep, which, in turn, is related to worse mental well-being.

The content being consumed online is as large of an issue as the time spent. Social media has created a digital culture glorifying edited images and curated moments. Many of us may identify with feelings of jealousy and low self-esteem when comparing ourselves to what we see online. Further, the algorithms behind the social media giants frequently promote stress-inducing content that is often divisive or “fake news” in order to increase engagement and keep people scrolling on their platforms.

![Phone addiction](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Online-scoll-girl-in-bed.webp "Online scoll- girl in bed")

The physical act of scrolling on our phones and laptops may also be affecting us due to the blue light emitted from the screens. A study done in connection with the Harvard Catalyst Clinical and Translational Science Center found that screen time before bed can further disrupt sleep patterns, as it may trick your body into thinking it’s still daytime.

These negative effects of screen time on our mental health can be felt in real-time. Despite this, *are there any positives to time spent behind a screen?* Social media and smartphones have made sharing resources, including apps created to promote mental health awareness, and being connected around the globe more possible than ever before.

**The issues come about when the digital world starts interfering with our relationships and daily life, so it’s important that we pay attention to how time online may be affecting us.** Some small changes to a daily routine may make a large impact. Introduce taking breaks, tracking social media usage, wearing glasses that block blue light, and even reading a book at night instead of being on a device to your routine. Our devices, when used in moderation, should simply be tools to help us accomplish tasks and stay connected. Finding the right balance for you is the path forward.

In the meantime, D2 Counseling can help you navigate struggles with depression and anxiety that screen time may be contributing to. Trained counselors like [Jonathan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/) can help you learn new tools and develop the self-awareness to maintain healthy habits for a happier you starting now.

**Categories:** Addiction, Relationships

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### [Is Online Therapy Right for You?](https://d2counseling.com/2023/01/24/is-online-therapy-right-for-you/)

**Published:** January 24, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

As remote working became a part of normal life for many during the pandemic, the concept of remote therapy grew in popularity alongside it. Although it began as a sanitary measure to combat the spread of COVID-19, online counseling was quickly spotted by investors who saw it as a business opportunity.

The original goal for therapy offered online via video calls, emails, or texts was to make mental health care more convenient and at a lower cost than traditional therapy. Proponents of digital therapy also appreciate that it can be more accessible for people with busy schedules, clients in remote rural areas, and those who may feel reluctant to show up in person due to the stigma surrounding mental health.

Those positive attributes are concepts supported by many. However, the groups investing in “e-counseling” wanted these businesses to grow as fast as possible, *treating therapy as if it was any other commodity and not a sensitive form of health care.* To promote the growth, millions of dollars went and continue to go toward advertising for online therapy on social media, podcasts, and celebrity interviews.

Critics say that e-counseling platforms have been too focused on growth and not enough on the strength of their service. **Therapy may be more widely available today than ever, but quality therapy is what truly improves lives.**

As there was an influx of customers during the pandemic, the demand to hire more counselors may have led to reduced hiring criteria for training and experience. Further, there is general confusion over what licensing laws apply to these online therapy providers, as one client could in theory be treated by a therapist across the world.

Some counselors have taken to social media to share their own grievances with the new digital therapy industry. Their criticisms of these digital platforms include underpaying therapists, sharing client mental health data with third parties, and enforcing policies that may make online therapy less effective than traditional therapy. The permanent digital gap between the provider and client could make it difficult for the therapist to properly assist their client in an emergency situation.

Although there is disagreement within the mental health field around the effectiveness of online versus in-person therapy, *there is certainly more agreement on the need to regulate this new e-counseling industry as it rapidly grows.*

For those who are looking for both flexibility and the highest quality of care, D2 Counseling offers [highly-trained therapists](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) that take a holistic and practical approach to therapy, including proven and effective techniques that are based on scientific and spiritual principles. At D2 Counseling one can expect a balanced style stemming from diverse training and backgrounds. With the option to join both in-person and online groups in addition to traditional therapy, you can expect quality care that remains convenient and flexible.

**Categories:** Support

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### [How to Open Up During Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/2023/03/30/how-to-open-up-during-therapy/)

**Published:** March 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

If you have difficulty expressing or identifying your feelings, you aren’t alone. Traditional therapy can be intimidating for this very reason. Fortunately, it *is* possible to improve your well-being with the help of a therapist by *doing* as well as talking.

When most people think of therapy, talk therapy comes to mind first. In traditional talk therapy, a client and therapist engage in a direct conversation, and the therapist listens and offers insights to help create positive change.

In contrast, **experiential therapy uses some type of external tool or activity to explore feelings and traumas instead of a conversation.** There are a wide variety of activities and other interventions that can be used to work through a client’s perceptions of what they are experiencing in order to learn more about themselves and their deeper feelings. No matter the format, experiential therapy is client-centered, meaning that the method needs to appeal to the client and make them feel comfortable.

Some experiential methods are immersive and also focus on connection with others, like group therapy. Other options, such as music therapy, are more hands-on and active. One example is psychodrama experiential therapy, in which a client can act out a past life event, helping them process any shame or anger related to the memory that they may have avoided processing. Another example is somatic experiencing therapy, which releases trauma from the body by focusing the client’s attention on physical sensations and any related emotions. Other types of experiential therapy include EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), dance therapy, equine-assisted therapy, and more.

*Experiential therapy is based on the idea that perception determines behavior and follows a “bottom-up” approach to therapy.* The terms “top-down” and “bottom-up” refer to which region of the brain a therapeutic approach targets first. The upper brain, where the prefrontal cortex is located, is responsible for logic and self-control. Higher level emotions, thinking, and speaking are also handled in the upper brain. Meanwhile, the lower brain, where the amygdala and brain stem are located, is the more primitive part of the brain. Basic functioning and the body’s natural responses are handled there.

A top-down therapeutic approach targets the upper brain first, focusing on speaking and the client’s current thoughts and feelings. Traditional talk therapy and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) are two examples that take this approach.

Therapists that subscribe to a bottom-up approach believe that the upper brain can temporarily shut down while experiencing trauma in order for the lower brain, where trauma is stored, to take over and focus solely on surviving. A bottom-up approach follows the idea that **a person’s thoughts and behaviors can’t be changed without first understanding what is triggering those thoughts and how the body is connected.** Once there is a safe place for the client to explore their feelings, then the therapist can start to branch out on the style of approach to include other methods of therapy, like talk therapy.

[Therapists](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) at D2 Counseling are trained in a multitude of therapy techniques and take a holistic and practical approach to healing. At D2, clients have the option to work with counselors specifically trained in effective experiential therapy methods, including somatic experiencing therapy and EMDR. If you struggle to open up during traditional therapy methods, there is still a path forward for you. D2 Counseling is ready today to guide you in overcoming trauma, gaining confidence, and processing your emotions.

**Categories:** Relationships, Support

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### [The Power Of Therapeutic Journaling](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/06/the-power-of-therapeutic-journaling/)

**Published:** June 6, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Though studies have shown that journaling can be so effective that it can even reduce the number of sick days a person needs to take from work, many still resist putting their most private emotions onto paper. Keeping a diary can consist of keeping straightforward notes on travels, to-do lists, and daily activities. In contrast, therapeutic journaling encompasses the entire process that begins with writing to express feelings about significant life events and leads to processing those emotions in order to reach a deeper understanding of oneself. This type of journaling involves putting a pen or pencil to paper, which allows for more thorough reflection as compared to typing on a device.

Many studies have shown that writing about traumatic events can actually significantly benefit both physical and mental health. Journaling has been shown to lower levels of depression, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts.

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Journal-one.webp "Journal one")

**But how can the seemingly simple act of writing make such a powerful impact?** 
When an individual goes through a traumatic event, it can affect all facets of their lives, not just the part directly touched by the trauma. Writing can help those struggling with trauma to organize their thoughts on what they experienced. The act allows people to get negative thoughts out onto paper and then process them in a less emotional way. The potential benefits of journaling don’t end with lowering depression and anxiety. It can also improve the body’s immune response by helping individuals to have a more positive overall view of themselves, making them less prone to mental health issues that lead to physical diseases. Journaling can also improve memory by making it easier to remember details that are written down several times, as well as making patterns in relationships and oneself clearer to identify and address.

Gratitude is also often a byproduct of journaling, as the process encourages one to reflect on life as a whole, including all of the good things. This, in turn, can lead to better sleep, more exercise, and increased optimism. Overall, journaling can be a productive habit for those wanting to lead a happier and healthier life.

However, the process of confronting distressing memories and thoughts isn’t always pleasant. **Research has shown journaling to be an aid in recovery from both emotional trauma and addiction, but journaling is an especially helpful tool when used in conjunction with [therapy](https://d2counseling.com/therapy/ "Therapy").**

A trained therapist, such as those at D2 Counseling, can offer guidance on how to approach journaling for it to be most effective but without judgment or a rigid structure. Knowing that their innermost thoughts are private and valid, D2 clients can confidently journal while also finding support in meeting with a therapist who is walking the journey toward healing with them.

**WATCH YOUR STEP**

TRIGGER! TRIGGER! TRIGGER! – I have been stuck on a battlefield with a
landmine full of triggers exploding all around me for the last 8-10 months. This
battlefield isn’t new to me… I have been here before. I have the deep scars
embedded into my skin making it impossible to forget. Navigating this land has
never been my strong suit. I’ve never been properly armed with the right
equipment. This last battle, however, is different from the others I have fought in
– my morals and values are now at risk of being stripped away. The enemy has
strategically arranged the landmine to pull my focus from the real threat of losing
my soul. When I’m able to finally tear my eyes away from the eruptions, I see the
enemy has silently surrounded me. It is closing in with every passing second. It’s
too late. What do I do?! There is no escape. I’m going to lose. As it creeps closer, I
identify the all-encompassing darkness that is about to overtake me – addiction. I
close my eyes and take a deep breath as it washes over me, into me.
Addiction doesn’t care about morals or values. Addiction only cares about getting
its selfish needs met. It feeds off a lifetime of trauma and childhood wounds,
making it excruciating to break free of. It demands the full attention of the tenant
it overtakes. It destroys anything and anyone in its path… including the tenant’s
worth, esteem and being. The longer addiction is fueled, the greater it sinks its
sharp, menacing claws into one’s soft and supple flesh. Its strategy is brilliant as it
makes one crave the very thing that will cause imminent death. One cannot
defeat addiction alone. It requires God and a team full of people to go to combat
to begin loosening addiction’s death grip. However, addiction does not shy away
from a fight. It will use every weakness, every trauma, every negative core belief
to its advantage. Just when one thinks the battle has been won, addiction rears
its ugly head again. It’s easy to lose faith knowing this will be a lifelong fight.
Although not all hope is lost. Using the tool of knowledge will equip one to keep
addiction at bay. The tenant can awaken and choose, not their thoughts, but their
actions. They can lean on God and the support of others to remind them of their
worth and value. It is by using these resources that a true warrior will emerge
Victorious.

**-Anonymous**

By allowing the writer to work through trauma, process their current situation, and find insight into patterns in their life, past wounds can be healed as they move forward. If you’re ready to start the path to freedom, D2 is ready to help you today.

**Categories:** Therapeutic Journaling

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### [It's Time To Kick Bad Quarantine Habits To The Curb](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/12/quarantine-habits-curb/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

During stressful periods in our lives, we tend to gravitate towards behaviors that help us get by, but these cravings sometimes do more harm than good. According to the [National Library of Medicine](https://www.nlm.nih.gov/), 53% of adults in the United States reported that the pandemic has negatively impacted their mental health, which often manifests in an increased use of alcohol, drugs, gambling, and overeating to cope.

For many of us, social distancing disrupted our daily routines. Being away from community support as we worked and learned from home may have caused us to adopt some new behaviors that are addictive and self-destructive at times.

Those who used to enjoy a drink now and then with others may have felt cravings to drink more at home alone. The same could be said for others who struggle with overeating, pornography, overusing social media, and gaming, for example. The severity of these compulsive behaviors can become exacerbated when one is unemployed, without a support network, or struggling with mental health disorders. Teenagers are also found to be especially at risk.

On the most simple level, being stuck at home for extended periods of time is *boring*. With less stimulation and little access to many hobbies outside of our homes, it is common to start craving pleasurable activities and ways to feel more in control during such a turbulent time in history. Many of us also fall into the trap of looking for a distraction from the negative news on our screens.

![Quarantine habits](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/quaratine-habits-.webp "quaratine habits")

These behaviors bring temporary comfort, but the consequences include guilt, anxiety, worsening health, and even tension in close relationships. Experiencing these repercussions can often then lead to a negative mood and more guilt, beginning a cycle of seeking comfort in harmful habits to combat that poor mood.

It may be difficult to know at what point an intervention is needed. **As a new school year approaches and many offices are re-opening, now is the time for many of us to address some negative patterns that arose during the pandemic.**

A stable routine, limiting media intake, exercise, meditation, and new hobbies can help curb cravings for compulsive behaviors. Logging how many hours were spent doing something, such as playing video games, may help bring to light which hobbies are becoming an addiction. Reinvesting time with loved ones is another way to reconnect with your sense of self and deeper purpose in life.

Finally, seeking help from trained professionals can be life-changing for many. Therapists specializing in addiction therapy, like Cara from D2 Counseling, can be a strong ally in breaking the cycles of self-destruction in your life. In addition to being a resource for all types of programs in the DFW area and across the country, D2 Counseling is committed to helping everyone find the best fit for their therapy needs.

**Categories:** Pandemic

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### [2022's Word Of The Year: Gaslighting](https://d2counseling.com/2023/06/12/gaslighting/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Being gaslighted often creeps up on you. Through small digs over time, your perception of reality is altered, and you no longer know if you can trust yourself. The resulting self-doubt can be debilitating despite the truth ironically being on your side.

“Gaslighting” was announced to be [Merriam-Webster’s Word of the Year for 2022](https://www.merriam-webster.com/wordplay/word-of-the-year). They define this word as “psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories.”

The term gaslight is said to have origins in a play, 1938’s “Gas Light.” The plot revolves around a husband manipulating his wife until she became convinced that she was going insane. In the almost 84 years since the play debuted, the word has continued to show up in popular culture, and it has never been as popular as it is today, appearing in music, politics, and even on our TVs.

As the word gains traction in our day-to-day language, it’s important that gaslighting is differentiated from lying. A lie becomes part of the act of gaslighting when its part of a larger intent to maintain or gain power, undermine the reality of others, or seriously mislead and manipulate someone. Gaslighting is far more sinister than lying or simply disagreeing over something. In order to address this type of abuse, we have to properly identify it. Making this the word of the year will help many people put a name to a struggle they’ve been going through and connect with others experiencing the same specific type of abuse.

![Gaslighting](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Gaslighting-blog.webp "Gaslighting- blog")

Gaslighting can occur in all types of relationships, not just romantic ones. It can take place in the relationship between a doctor and their patient, a boss and their employee, or even between children and their parents. Gaslighting also exists on a much broader scale in our social systems. By strengthening the power imbalances that so negatively affect marginalized communities, gaslighting plays an ugly role in sexism, racism, homophobia, and ableism.

If you aren’t sure if you are being gaslighted, you can look for signs, such as feeling confused and not like yourself, questioning yourself, isolating yourself from your support system, and making excuses for the other person. The results of this psychological abuse can be devastating.

However, you can break free from this cycle and create new boundaries in your relationships. If you can first identify the manipulation that is happening to you as gaslighting, then you can begin to get the help you need to see change. Along with reconnecting to the support system around you, therapy is a strong option to help you increase your emotional awareness and regulation so that you can gain back the confidence that was taken from you.

Trained[ counselors](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/) at D2 Counseling are ready today to help you identify unhealthy patterns, make changes in your relationship, or find the strength to leave an unhealthy situation. Group therapy, such as a new D2 therapy group created to empower women struggling to find their voice and feeling stuck due to codependency and blurred boundaries, can be another step in your healing journey. See below for more details.

**Categories:** Pandemic

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### [Depression, Suicide and Medicine](https://d2counseling.com/2018/05/11/depression-suicide-and-medicine/)

**Published:** May 11, 2018
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

My heart is hurting.

Last summer a good friend of mine died from his depression. As a minister, it was a privilege to serve his widow by presiding at his memorial service. As his friend I have cried before, during and after his funeral. Suicide invites us to evaluate our relationship with the person, and a lot of “what ifs?” and “if only I had…” surface in our mind. Yet as a counselor I know that depression takes people to places they would not go on their own, and at some point, get so far out there they cannot get back on their own, or even ask for help.

It is beyond the scope of this writing to go into depression, medicine or suicide at any length but there is a stigma that surrounds these issues that need to be considered. Mental illness is an organic chemical imbalance. This chemical imbalance can often be addressed in a number of ways. Exercise is one way. We’ve all heard of endorphins and their effect on the brain. While I personally don’t believe in endorphins while I am on the last quarter mile while running on the treadmill (then I only believe in panting), I do know that somehow I feel better if I work out regularly both physically and mentally. There is a physical reaction, an organic reaction that occurs in the brain that addresses the chemical imbalance when someone is depressed. Another way this chemical imbalance can be addressed is through counseling. Changes in brain chemistry can be made with changes in behavior. You can act your way into right thinking (and feeling) in many circumstances. The process is gradual, though remarkable progress can be made. Another way to address the chemical imbalance is through medicine. Sometimes it is the only way, depending on the imbalance.

Depression is best addressed however with a combination of these resources, including medicine. Unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to depression, and its treatment. In fact, this stigma continues with most mental illness. With education and time, I hope this stigma disappears. (We used to believe there was something wrong with left-handed people. Ever heard of a “left handed compliment?” The stigma around being left-handed is the etiological source of this phrase). Anyway, there is resistance to the belief that medicine is appropriate for use in depression. That somehow the individual should just “snap themselves out of it.”

If you subscribe to this approach I would challenge you to tell a diabetic to “just get over it” without their insulin, or that someone should just “snap out” of their high blood pressure. The principle is the same. Medicine can help address the chemical imbalance of the diabetic, one with high blood pressure and the depressed.

I cannot begin to imagine the dark place that my friend found himself when suicide seemed like a good choice. To be in a place where the ending of one’s life looks like a reasonable alternative. To be in that place, something is chemically broken in the brain and the illness succeeded in taking his life. If my practice is any indicator, men seek treatment far less that women do, yet studies show that depression affects both sexes about the same. If you or someone you know suffers from depression (or think you might), please take a step towards health and recovery. You do not have to live like this.

My heart is hurting.

**Categories:** Depression

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### [Collaborative Divorce](https://d2counseling.com/2018/05/11/collaborative-divorce/)

**Published:** May 11, 2018
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Time after time I have watched teenagers, just prior to leaving home, initiate conflict or exaggerate a fight with their parents to facilitate the separation. This often leaves the parents confused and hurt at a time they are genuinely trying to connect. The tension serves to equip the child with a framework of motivation to ease the separation.

Fortunately, this dynamic plays a useful and timely role in greasing this process, and dealt with productively, plays itself out in a short time frame. I am seeing that this paradigm occurs between adults at the time of divorce, and the dynamic fuels the friction with many couples.

Unfortunately, it puts the kids in the family in an untenable position with the potential for elevated pain and suffering.

In divorce counseling, Rule Number One says that no matter how big a jerk your soon-to-be ex is, do not say anything negative about them to the kids. Every ounce of negativity you offer to them in this way will return later on your head with an expanded consequence. I see my clients, children of a divorce, time and time again sitting in my office working out a clearer perspective of truth about both parents. When one or both parents have been negative towards the other, the child always ends up resenting the offender. This is true if the client is 12 or 32, and it is even more heightened if one parent has been lying about the other. The truth does come out. Your not-so-significant other may now be the jerk of your life, but they are still your child’s parent. You do not have the right to manipulate that relationship. All parents deserve a primary relationship with their child, one that is not controlled by another person.

You owe it to your kids to set aside your need to inflict pain. The pain you direct towards your ex will usually take out the onlookers, including your kids. This infliction may provide you with a momentary satisfaction, but it will return to haunt you when the children figure out for themselves that you did it. I guarantee it. The fact that you are divorcing is adequate expression that you are both redefining your relationship with the other. You do not have the right to make your children an additional battlefield or you will count them among the casualties. By the way, this principle remains true despite how the other is treating you. I recognize the difficulty in accepting this piece of it, but it is true nonetheless.

Check out the collaborative law process in your state. It is a refreshing approach to this redefinition of relationship we call divorce. In this process, mutually beneficial resolutions are sought and the kid’s needs take on a higher priority in the process. I have seen the process serve the children and the couple well. The process does not work for all, but it is one of the resources available to divorcing couples that can strengthen their concern for the children’s well being.

I can always find common ground with feuding parties, sometimes we just have to take a step or two back from the conflict to see it in a different light. If you begin this separation process with common ground around protecting the kids and putting their needs first you will do a better job, a healthier job, in redefining your relationship. That is, after all, divorce at its simplest — a redefining of boundaries in a relationship. You will enhance your relationship with your child if you deal appropriately with them in their relationship with their other parent.

**Categories:** Co-Parenting, Divorce

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### [Trauma And The Grammatical Style Guide](https://d2counseling.com/2019/05/21/trauma-and-the-grammatical-guide/)

**Published:** May 21, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Emotional trauma, by its simplest definition, is an extremely stressful or disturbing event or event(s). There are two types however and one of them is usually overlooked. We need to reach into the grammatical style guide (shout out to my journalist son for the clarification) to begin to differentiate Trauma vs trauma. Trauma with a capital “T” is the universally recognized event that causes stress, usually because it is horrific in nature. The car accident. Parents divorced. Cigarette burns to the skin. The house burns down. Parents raging and throwing pots at each other or the kids. These are clearly examples of Trauma and they are going to have an impact on everyone around them regardless of the age of the individual (or witness) impacted. Childhood relational trauma often takes a less obvious form in what therapists call little “t” trauma. These are usually more chronic in nature, but make no mistake: constant exposure to little “t” trauma takes a huge toll on the individual.

Some years after I left home I returned for a visit. It is often on these homecomings that we can see our family of origin from a different point of view. This was certainly the case for me. As we sat down to watch the family tv after dinner, the news came on and my father and mother began a discussion of what the newscaster was wearing and what they looked like on tv. Dad remarked how old the newscaster looked and Mom responded that she was quite sure the announcer would not have worn *that* outfit if they knew how big it made them look. In that moment I realized I had been raised in a soup of criticism of others and I did not even know how pervasive and offensive it was. I had done enough work at that point to see that my esteem issues were very much tied to insecurity about appearance and I quickly began to see that both of my parents projected their insecurity onto those around them via criticism. Slow drip poison.

Self esteem issues show themselves in events where the individual feels less than (at least in their own mind) those around them. My salary/wealth is less than theirs. Their car is nicer than mine. They have a bigger house. My mentor Pia Mellody says this all started with our awareness that we live in a finite universe and so we weigh and measure all things out of a fear that we will not have enough. This scarcity mentality leads us to immediately grasp at something within or about ourselves that would make us appear better than the other. This vibration over to the other end of the spectrum will lead us to bounce from feeling less than (one down) to better than (one up). Anytime I would feel insecure I would search for some way to prove to myself that I am better than. In that moment, I could relax into feeling ok about myself but the problem with this solution is its impermanence. There is always someone with a bigger car, thinner body, more money and there I go again to the one down position.

My parents didn’t tie me up and hit me with a brick while screaming that I did not have any value. That would have been Trauma. To sit in that soup of criticism and judgment of others had an impact however and that trauma has required a lot of work on my part.

When I start working with people on issues that don’t serve them well in their lives, we inevitably must look at the building blocks of childhood upon which their current reality sits. The folks with Trauma actually have it easier at this point, they see what may have been outrageous influential points in their lives. And everyone with lower case “t” tells me they had a normal childhood. Of course they did. It was they only one they had. But was it nurturing, functional and healthy? Many people will say yes in the absence of the capital “T” Trauma. With some education we explain that anything less than nurturing is abuse and in the face of their particular slow drip poison, their current reality may be less than ideal. Neglect (a particular type of abuse) is a good example. Neglect of the child to the point of starvation is Trauma. Not engaging the child in an emotionally connected way is trauma. The latter is harder to identify, because there may have been a family dinner every night (but nobody talked). There was enough food for everyone (but no interest in the child). The parents may have been so connected to each other (or indifferent) there was little left in time and attention for the kids. One of the major indicators of traumatic neglect is lack of memory. Clinicians are always listening for family stories, perceptions and childhood family adventures. But often what is clinically noteworthy is the lack of these stories. When there is little to remember, it is usually the result of emotional neglect, trauma with a lower case “t”. I frequently will ask a client about some specifics in their childhood and I get a concerned look back. They don’t know. They can remember the stuffed animals in the bedroom because they still have some of them. They remember pictures from the house, but don’t actually remember being there. They know they had dinner every night but don’t have any recall about what was discussed or how everyone related to each other.

Curiosity will carry us a long way as we strive to get our story straight. I began to wonder if sitting in a soup of judgment and criticism from the moment I developed language had an effect on me. How could it not? Some of the deepest work I have had to do is rooted in the belief that I am not good enough (toxic shame) and the fear that others are better than me. That is a building block from my history I have had to re-set. I had plenty of Trauma, but I have had to do as much work on the trauma.

I wish you peace on your journey.

**Categories:** Trauma

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### [The Myths of Mindreading](https://d2counseling.com/2019/10/01/the-myths-of-mindreading/)

**Published:** October 1, 2019
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

“If he cared about me, he would just know what to do.” “If she loved me, she would know what I liked.” “If I must ask for it, it means it is not sincere when they do it. I want him/her to do it without me having to ask.” All three of these statements come out of the realm of romantic fantasy. All three rely on mindreading and are recipes guaranteed to add to our relationship frustrations, yet they are common beliefs. From *The Notebook* to any given copy of *Cosmo* we have all been set up to believe that somehow other people (especially those closest to us) are supposed to be able to “just know” what we like and what we need. And so, in this belief, we never learn to ask to get our needs met.

In the last Shrek movie, there is a scene where all the characters that missed out on their “happily ever after” ending, congregate at the bar to commiserate. Now, I am not sure we have to go to that extreme, but honestly, the characters in that scene were more real than the rest of what Hollywood would have us believe. Sleeping Beauty was lying unconscious until the magic kiss, when suddenly; all her needs were met. But wait, thirty seconds earlier, she didn’t even know what her needs were! I love a good story, but as a therapist I am here to testify that over time we as a culture have developed some unrealistic expectations about how others are to relate to us.

Ultimately, it is our responsibility to get our own needs met. It is perfectly acceptable to ask for help in getting them met, and it is okay for others to say no. The last three sentences are often fraught with misunderstanding. The point is, if we are going to hand over the responsibility for our happiness (or any of our wants or needs) to other people we lose the ability to meet our own needs and we turn into victims “Oh why won’t they do this for me?” becomes our mantra and we blame others for our circumstance. The way through this is to realize first that we are not victims, we are volunteers. We must take responsibility for our own actions and our own needs. I will say again, it is our responsibility to get our own needs met, and, we are allowed to ask for help from others to get them met.

I was teaching an intimacy class one time to 8-10 couples. The class was named “Frisky Business,” and we were discussing this very idea. Now these couples had been married anywhere from 18 months to 24 years, so it was quite a mix. I had everyone take out a sheet of paper and asked them to write down 10 things their spouse could do for them that helps them feel that they were loved and appreciated in the relationship. (Whenever I do this exercise with couples, I have to set three parameters. The ten things cannot include chores, tv or sex. Otherwise I get back: “do the dishes for me,” “leave me alone when the game is on,” and “do this particular thing in bed for me.”) So, they began the exercise. It went fine for a minute or two, but then I began noticing that people weren’t writing. Everyone had two or three written down, but their enthusiasm for the exercise was falling off fast. After another minute or so people were flat out trying to copy from other papers to look busy. But wait, I had asked them to write me a list of what their significant other could do for them to make them feel special. If we cannot define this for ourselves, how in the world are others supposed to contribute? How are they supposed to magically know what we need when we aren’t’ even sure ourselves?

So, I offer to you that our first step in getting our needs met is to be able to identify what they are. This is not as easy as it sounds, most of us focus on how we want to feel rather than focusing on what we need. We can get better at it however and the reward is that we get to quit placing unrealistic expectations on those around us and we get to give up the resentment we hold over others when we don’t feel what we want to feel. As I begin to work with clients on this process I steal a concept from the YMCA. They have a visual motto that has Mind-Body-Spirit at the points of a triangle. This is a useful model to examine what you need in these areas to stay balanced. Take out a piece of paper, make three columns and start writing. As you develop your list, start a discussion with your significant other or a friend to start getting feedback and perspective about this balance we all need and seek.

Erma Bombeck, a practical humorist, once wrote to her sisters on Valentine’s Day. She said something to the effect, “Ladies, if you didn’t get what you wanted today it is because you didn’t circle it in the paper and put it on his plate yesterday.” She was a favorite author of mine and came from a different time in our culture, but her point is valid. For us (male or female) to have expectations about how others are treating us, without us participating in the process, is inviting disaster in the relationship.

Figure out what you need and learn to ask for it. Take responsibility for your own feelings, for your own peace and your own happiness.

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##### [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/)

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My clinical work centers on the holistic treatment of relationships—with both self and others. This includes supporting individuals, couples, and families navigating anxiety, depression, intimacy disorders, trauma, and addiction, always with a focus on emotional, psychological, and social well-being.

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#### [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/)

PhD, CSAT
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#### [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

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##### [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

LPC-S, LCDC, CSAT
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I began my counseling career in ministry and use this background to integrate spiritual principles into helping clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves, their partner and other important people in their lives. I offer private counseling to individuals, couples, families and groups.

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##### [Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

LPC, LCDC, NCC, EMDR, CSAT
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Whether addressing addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship challenges, or trauma, I provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for exploration and transformation. Through individual and group therapy modalities, I strive to foster resilience, self-awareness, and meaningful connections, guiding each individual towards a life of fulfillment and well-being.

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

LPC-S, MEd
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My specialties are intimate relationships and individual personal growth. My work with couples primarily involves developing meaningful communication, deeper intimacy, an enhanced sex life and a renewed sense of connection between partners. I also work with individuals who are experiencing grief, trauma or loss relating to relationship break ups, infidelity, divorce or bereavement. The therapeutic approach of my practice is effective for Christian Counseling but equally applicable for persons of all faith backgrounds.

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Susanna Huffman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

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I became a counselor because I believe healing allows people to live more authentically and in alignment with their values. It is deeply meaningful to me to walk alongside clients through both the painful and joyful parts of their stories. I strive to create an inclusive, affirming environment where clients of all cultural backgrounds, spiritual beliefs, and gender or sexual identities feel safe and respected. My approach is person-centered and collaborative. I tailor therapy to your unique experiences and goals, intentionally bringing your strengths into the room as we work toward meaningful and lasting change.

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Yvette Bonavita](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

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Yvette Bonavita, LCSW, is a dedicated and compassionate therapist with a profound commitment to helping individuals on their path to healing. Since the late 1990s, Yvette has been working with children, adolescents, parents/couples, and individuals facing life’s challenges, guiding them toward personal growth and empowerment. Her therapeutic approach is built on empathy, acceptance, and the belief that every person’s journey is unique.

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I began working in the fields of addiction, trauma, and mental health in 2008. Since then, I have gained experience in private practice, inpatient psychiatric care, and residential addiction treatment settings, working with clients of all ages and backgrounds. My greatest passion is helping individuals heal from trauma. Because of this passion, I have pursued extensive specialized training in evidence-based and trauma-informed approaches to support clients in meaningful and lasting healing.

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#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/peaches/)[Susanna Huffman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

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#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/peaches/)[Yvette Bonavita](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

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#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/peaches/)[Bill Walker ](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/kerrigan-spangler/)[ ](#)[ Renae Bingham ](#)

Office Manager

Having worked in the service industry for many years, I’m excited to apply what I’ve learned to create a safe and welcoming environment for our clients. 

I’ve always been drawn to working in the mental health field. With a Bachelor’s in Psychology from the University of North Texas and my experience at D2 Counseling, I am inspired to finish my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at the University of North Texas. When not at work or in school, I enjoy time with family and friends to find peace of mind. I am looking forward to helping our clients feel welcome and able to focus on their mental health journey. 

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/JP-copy.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

#### [Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

LPC, LCDC, NCC, EMDR, CSAT
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[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/BC-copy.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

#### [Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

LPC-S, MEd
[(972) 275-6019]()

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Temp-prof-pic.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/kerrigan-spangler/)

#### [Renae Bingham](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/kerrigan-spangler/)

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### [Notice to Texas Consumers](https://d2counseling.com/notice-to-texas-consumers/)

**Published:** January 15, 2026
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## **Notice to Texas Consumers**

In accordance with Texas law (House Bill 4224, 89th Regular Session, and Section 181.105 of the Texas Health & Safety Code), licensed behavioral health providers in Texas must provide certain consumer information. This page explains your rights and how to exercise them.

### **Your Rights as a Consumer**

As a client of D2 Counseling, you have the right to:

- Request access to your health care records that are maintained by this practice.
- Contact the [**Texas Behavioral Health Executive Council (BHEC)**](https://bhec.texas.gov/) regarding licensed behavioral health providers.
- File a consumer complaint with the [**Office of the Texas Attorney General’s Consumer Protection Division**.](https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/consumer-protection)

### **Requesting Your Health Care Records**

You may request copies of your health care records that we maintain.

To request your records:

- Submit a written request to: 
- We will process your request in accordance with applicable state and federal law.
- Fees may apply as permitted by law.

### **Filing a Complaint with the Texas Behavioral Health Executive Council**

If you have concerns about the conduct of a licensed behavioral health provider in Texas, you may contact:

- **Texas Behavioral Health Executive Council (BHEC)**
- Visit the BHEC [**Discipline and Complaints**](https://bhec.texas.gov/discipline-and-complaints/) page on their website to learn more about their complaint process.

BHEC oversees licensing boards for professional counselors, marriage and family therapists, psychologists, and social workers in Texas.

### **Filing a Consumer Complaint with the Texas Attorney General**

Texas consumers may also file a complaint with the [**Office of the Texas Attorney General’s Consumer Protection Division**](https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/consumer-protection) if you believe you have been harmed by a provider’s professional conduct. Current instructions for filing a consumer complaint are available on the Attorney General’s website.

### **Compliance Statement**

This notice is provided to comply with Texas state licensing requirements and Section 181.105 of the Texas Health & Safety Code.

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### [A Message from D2 Counseling](https://d2counseling.com/a-message-from-d2-counseling/)

**Published:** July 9, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

A lawsuit was recently filed against D2 Counseling, Daniel Gowan and Dina Hijazi, by former employees alleging discrimination and retaliation because they are Jewish. We take these allegations seriously and want to address them directly and transparently.

First and foremost, we categorically deny the claims made in the lawsuit. These allegations do not reflect the values, policies, or practices of our organization. We are confident that the facts will demonstrate that all employment decisions were made lawfully, fairly, and without any form of discrimination.

As a practice grounded in compassion, inclusivity, and mental wellness, D2 Counseling has long been committed to fostering a diverse and respectful workplace. We deeply value and support our Jewish staff, clients, friends, family and community partners. Discrimination of any kind has no place in our organization, and we stand firmly against antisemitism in all its forms.

Our team continues to be focused on providing high-quality, ethical, and culturally sensitive care to all clients. We will not allow this legal matter to distract from our mission of supporting mental health and well-being in our community.

Out of respect for the legal process and the privacy of all involved, we will refrain from further comment at this time. We are confident that the truth will emerge through the appropriate legal
channels.

We remain grateful for the continued support of our clients and community.

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### [As Seen On](https://d2counseling.com/as-seen-on/)

**Published:** June 26, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## As Seen On

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![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/dallas-news.jpg "dallas news")

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/SA-Podcast-Thumbnails-1-1024x1024-1.png)](https://successfuladdict.com/50-why-sex-addiction-recovery-is-different-for-successful-men/)

### The Sex Addiction Podcast

In Episode 50 of *The Successful Addict* podcast, host Roland Cochrun and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Daniel Gowan delve into the unique challenges high-achieving men face in sex addiction recovery. They explore how traits like the pursuit of respect, admiration, and accomplishment—while beneficial in professional settings—can complicate personal relationships and recovery efforts.

[Listen Now](< https://successfuladdict.com/50-why-sex-addiction-recovery-is-different-for-successful-men/>)

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## Coping With Holiday Grief During Pandemic

Whether mourning the loss of a loved one to COVID-19 to being isolated from loved ones due to distance or quarantine, this year’s holiday grief may be more heightened because of the pandemic.

[Read More](https://www.nbcdfw.com/news/coronavirus/coping-with-holiday-grief-during-pandemic/2488064/)

## Expanding and Stretching The Role Of The Physician

Since the writings of Hippocrates, physicians have been pledging to treat the sick to the best of their ability, to keep them from harm, to preserve their privacy, and to teach the art and science of medicine to the next generation.

[Read More Here](https://www.dcms.branchmediapro.com/2020/09Sep/page_31.html)

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## “It’s Not Something I Can Really X Out Of My Life”: Cowboys DE Randy Gregory Opens Up On Tackling Anxiety

Dr. Dina Hijazi remembers her phone ringing in January. Cowboys defensive end Randy Gregory was calling. His message to the Dallas-based psychologist: Let’s get to work.

[Read More Here](https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/nfl/cowboys/2020/11/05/cowboys-randy-gregory-nfl-mike-mccarthy-jerry-jones/6170276002/)

## A Message From Rev. Daniel Gowan

In September of 2023 Rev. Daniel Gowan sat down for an interview for [Grace Presbytery](https://www.gracepresbytery.org/). Have a watch to hear him speak on topics from starting D2, how his role fulfils his calling to ministry, and why he feels counselling is so important.

[Learn More about Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

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### [Comprehensive Guide to Therapy in the DFW Area](https://d2counseling.com/comprehensive-guide-to-therapy-in-the-dfw-area/)

**Published:** April 25, 2025
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![ EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/EMDR.webp "EMDR")

## Comprehensive Guide to Therapy in the DFW Area

Finding the right therapy approach in the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex can be overwhelming. At D2 Counseling, we provide evidence-based therapy services throughout DFW, with convenient access for residents of Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, and McKinney. Our dedicated team of licensed therapists specializes in a range of proven therapeutic approaches, each carefully selected and personalized to address your unique challenges and goals. We understand that seeking therapy is a deeply personal decision, which is why we’re committed to creating a safe, supportive environment where healing and growth can flourish.

Our integrative approach to mental health combines cutting-edge therapeutic techniques with compassionate care that’s tailored to the unique needs of DFW residents. We recognize that no single approach works for everyone, which is why we draw from multiple evidence-based methodologies to create a treatment plan that’s as unique as you are. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship challenges, or life transitions, our Dallas-Fort Worth therapists have the expertise and tools to help you navigate your journey toward wellness.

On this page, we’ll guide you through the primary therapeutic approaches we offer at D2 Counseling to clients throughout Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, and McKinney. Our goal is to help you understand your options so you can make informed decisions about your mental health care, no matter where you are in the DFW area.

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Counseling.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [When to Consider Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Many people wonder if their challenges warrant professional support. At D2 Counseling, we believe therapy can be beneficial for anyone looking to improve their mental health and wellbeing, regardless of the severity of their concerns. Here are some signs that might indicate therapy could be particularly helpful for you:

### [When to Consider Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

- **You have trouble managing stress** – When everyday pressures feel overwhelming or your usual coping mechanisms aren’t working effectively anymore
- **You consistently feel overwhelmed or exhausted** – When mental and emotional fatigue persists despite adequate rest
- **You have persistent problems you can’t solve on your own** – When you’ve tried multiple approaches but find yourself facing the same challenges repeatedly
- **You feel depressed or disinterested in life** – When activities that once brought joy no longer do, or when motivation and energy are consistently low
- **You have anxiety that interferes with daily life** – When worry, fear, or physical symptoms of anxiety impact your relationships, work, or ability to engage in regular activities

Even if your challenges seem “not serious enough” for therapy, remember that seeking support early often prevents smaller concerns from developing into larger problems. Our therapists throughout the DFW area provide a non-judgmental space to address these concerns and develop effective strategies for managing them.

You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. Many clients come to D2 Counseling for personal growth, improved relationships, and enhanced coping skills during ordinary life transitions. Whatever your reason for considering therapy, we’re here to support your journey toward improved mental health and wellbeing.

[Contact us to discuss how therapy might help with your specific situation →](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

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## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Our Locations ](#)

Our offices in the DFW area are designed to provide welcoming, private spaces where you can speak openly about sensitive concerns. We maintain strict confidentiality in accordance with professional ethical standards and federal privacy laws, ensuring your privacy whether you visit us in Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, or McKinney.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Comfortable, Confidential Environments ](#)

Our offices in the DFW area are designed to provide welcoming, private spaces where you can speak openly about sensitive concerns. We maintain strict confidentiality in accordance with professional ethical standards and federal privacy laws, ensuring your privacy whether you visit us in Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, or McKinney.

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/cyberspace.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) ](#)

### [Understanding Cognitive Behavioral Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is one of the most well-researched and effective therapeutic approaches available today. At its core, CBT is based on the understanding that our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected—and that by changing unhelpful thinking patterns, we can positively impact our emotions and actions.

At D2 Counseling, our CBT approach focuses on identifying and challenging the negative thought patterns that contribute to emotional distress and problematic behaviors. Through a collaborative process, your therapist will help you recognize these patterns and develop more balanced, realistic ways of thinking.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Core Principles of CBT at D2 Counseling ](#)

Our approach to CBT is guided by several key principles:

- Present-focused: While we acknowledge the importance of your past experiences, CBT primarily focuses on current challenges and developing practical solutions.
- Problem-specific: Treatment targets specific problems and goals rather than general emotional states.
- Collaborative: You and your therapist work as active partners in the therapeutic process.
- Skills-based: CBT emphasizes learning concrete skills you can apply in your daily life.
- Time-limited: CBT is typically structured with a defined timeline, often showing significant results within 12-20 sessions.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ When CBT Is Most Effective ](#)

CBT has demonstrated remarkable effectiveness for a wide range of conditions, including:

- Anxiety disorders: Including generalized anxiety, social anxiety, panic disorder, and specific phobias
- Depression: Both acute episodes and recurrent depression
- Obsessive-compulsive tendencies: Managing intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors
- Stress management: Developing healthier responses to life’s pressures
- Sleep disorders: Particularly insomnia and sleep disturbances related to anxiety or depression
- Post-traumatic stress symptoms: When combined with trauma-focused approaches

[Learn more about treating Depression at D2Counseling](https://d2counseling.com/depression/)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ The CBT Process at D2 Counseling ](#)

When you engage in CBT with one of our therapists, you can expect a structured yet flexible approach:

- Assessment and goal-setting: We begin by understanding your specific challenges and establishing clear, measurable goals for therapy.
- Cognitive restructuring: Your therapist will help you identify unhelpful thought patterns and beliefs, then guide you in evaluating and modifying them.
- Behavioral activation: You’ll learn to break cycles of avoidance and engage in activities that improve your mood and build confidence.
- Skill development: Sessions focus on practical techniques including relaxation training, problem-solving strategies, and assertive communication.
- Homework assignments: Between-session activities reinforce what you’re learning and help integrate new skills into your daily life.
- Progress evaluation: Regular check-ins ensure we’re moving toward your goals and allow us to adjust our approach when needed.

Many of our clients report significant improvement within 3-4 months of consistent CBT work, often describing a newfound sense of control over their thoughts and emotions.

[Learn more about our approach to Treating Anxiety](https://d2counseling.com/anxiety/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/middle-age-trauma--scaled.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [Trauma-Focused Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Understanding Trauma-Focused Approaches ](#)

Trauma can profoundly impact every aspect of a person’s life, from relationships and self-image to physical health and daily functioning. At D2 Counseling, we recognize that healing from trauma requires specialized approaches that address both the emotional and physiological effects of traumatic experiences.

Our trauma-focused therapy integrates several evidence-based methodologies designed specifically for trauma recovery, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy, and somatic (body-centered) approaches. These techniques help process traumatic memories and reduce their emotional charge while developing new coping strategies.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ EMDR Therapy ](#)

EMDR is a powerful, research-supported approach for trauma treatment. This therapy helps the brain process disturbing memories in new ways, reducing their emotional impact without requiring detailed discussion of the traumatic events.

During EMDR sessions at D2 Counseling, your therapist guides you through a structured protocol that includes bilateral stimulation (typically eye movements, taps, or tones) while you briefly focus on traumatic memories. This process helps your brain reprocess these memories so they become less distressing over time.

EMDR has been recognized by the American Psychological Association and the World Health Organization as an effective treatment for trauma and PTSD.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Trauma-Informed Care at D2 Counseling ](#)

All our therapists practice from a trauma-informed perspective, meaning we:

- Recognize the widespread impact of trauma
- Understand paths for recovery
- Recognize the signs and symptoms of trauma
- Fully integrate knowledge about trauma into our policies and procedures
- Actively work to avoid re-traumatization

This approach creates a foundation of safety and trust that’s essential for trauma healing.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Who Benefits from Trauma-Focused Therapy ](#)

Our trauma-focused approaches can help individuals experiencing:

- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Including flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, and avoidance
- Childhood trauma: Including abuse, neglect, or witnessing violence
- Complex trauma: From prolonged or repeated traumatic experiences
- Single-incident trauma: Such as accidents, assaults, or natural disasters
- Medical trauma: From invasive procedures or life-threatening illnesses
- Grief and traumatic loss: When loss occurs in traumatic circumstances

### [The Trauma Healing Process](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Trauma therapy at D2 Counseling typically progresses through several phases:

- Stabilization: Developing safety, trust, and coping skills before processing traumatic material
- Processing: Working through traumatic memories using specialized techniques like EMDR
- Integration: Making meaning of experiences and rebuilding a sense of self and purpose
- Growth: Moving beyond survival to thriving and connecting with others

Throughout this process, you set the pace. We never push you to discuss traumatic details before you’re ready, and we ensure you have adequate coping skills at each stage.

### [Safety and Support](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Creating a safe therapeutic environment is paramount in trauma work. At D2 Counseling, we emphasize:

- Building a strong therapeutic relationship based on trust and respect
- Teaching grounding techniques to manage overwhelming emotions
- Ensuring you have adequate support between sessions
- Collaborating with other healthcare providers when helpful
- Respecting your boundaries and autonomy throughout the process

Many clients report that trauma therapy helps them feel “unstuck” from the past and able to move forward with greater peace and purpose.

[Learn more about our trauma-focused therapy options →](https://d2counseling.com/trauma-and-ptsd/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/parents-pay.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Family Systems Therapy ](#)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Family Systems Approach ](#)

Family Systems Therapy views individuals as part of interconnected relationship systems, rather than in isolation. This perspective recognizes that family patterns, roles, and communication styles profoundly impact our emotional wellbeing and personal growth.

At D2 Counseling, our approach to Family Systems Therapy helps individuals, couples, and families understand how these dynamics influence their lives and relationships. By exploring these patterns together, we create opportunities for more fulfilling connections and healthier functioning both within and outside the family unit.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Relationship Dynamics Addressed in Therapy ](#)

Our Family Systems work addresses a wide range of relationship dynamics, including:

- Multigenerational patterns: How behaviors, beliefs, and emotional responses are transmitted across generations
- Family roles: How members adopt certain positions (e.g., peacemaker, scapegoat) that maintain system balance
- Boundaries: Establishing healthy limits between family members and subsystems
- Triangulation: When tension between two people is diverted by involving a third person
- Communication patterns: Addressing unhealthy communication styles that create conflict or distance

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Applications for Families, Couples, and Individuals ](#)

Family Systems Therapy at D2 Counseling can benefit:

- Families navigating transitions: Including divorce, remarriage, births, relocations, or launching children
- Couples experiencing relationship difficulties: Such as communication problems, intimacy issues, or repeated conflicts
- Parents seeking to improve parenting approaches: Particularly when struggling with behavioral issues or parent-child conflict
- Individuals dealing with family-of-origin issues: Even when other family members aren’t in therapy
- Blended families: Working through integration challenges and role adjustments
- Families coping with illness or loss: Adapting to changes in family structure and functioning

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ The Family Therapy Process at D2 Counseling ](#)

When you engage in Family Systems work with us, you can expect:

- 1Assessment: We begin by understanding your family structure, history, and current challenges.
- 2Goal setting: Together, we establish clear objectives for what you hope to achieve.
- 3Exploration of patterns: We help identify recurring dynamics that may be contributing to distress.
- 4In-session interventions: These might include communication exercises, role-playing, or genogram work (family mapping).
- 5Practice new interactions: Sessions provide a safe space to experiment with new ways of relating.
- 6Home practice: We suggest specific activities to reinforce new patterns between sessions.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Benefits of Addressing Family Systems ](#)

Clients who engage in Family Systems Therapy often experience:

- Improved communication and fewer misunderstandings
- Reduced conflict and more effective problem-solving
- Greater emotional intimacy and connection
- Clearer boundaries and healthier roles
- Increased resilience during life transitions
- Breaking free from unhelpful multigenerational patterns

Even when working with individuals, a Family Systems perspective can provide powerful insights into recurring relationship patterns and create pathways for change that extend beyond the therapy room.

[Explore our Family Systems Therapy services →](https://d2counseling.com/about-us/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Healthy-MArriage.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) ](#)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ What is DBT? ](#)

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a specialized form of cognitive-behavioral therapy originally developed to treat borderline personality disorder but now recognized as effective for many conditions involving emotional dysregulation and interpersonal difficulties.

The term “dialectical” reflects the therapy’s core principle: balancing acceptance of who you are with the commitment to change. This paradoxical blend helps clients move beyond black-and-white thinking toward a more nuanced understanding of themselves and others.

At D2 Counseling, our therapists trained in DBT help clients develop specific skills to manage intense emotions, improve relationships, and build lives worth living—even amid significant challenges.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Core DBT Skills Taught at D2 Counseling ](#)

Our DBT approach focuses on four essential skill modules:

#### [1. ](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Mindfulness Skills ](#)

- Developing awareness of the present moment without judgment
- Learning to observe thoughts and emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them
- Practicing effective attention control and “wise mind” decision-making

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ 2. ](#)[Distress Tolerance ](#)

- Building crisis survival strategies for overwhelming emotional situations
- Learning to accept reality when it cannot be immediately changed
- Developing self-soothing techniques and healthy distraction methods

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ 3. ](#)[Emotion Regulation ](#)

- Identifying and labeling emotions accurately
- Reducing emotional vulnerability through self-care and lifestyle changes
- Learning to increase positive emotions and decrease vulnerability to negative ones
- Developing strategies to change or modulate intense emotional responses

#### [4](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[. ](#)[Interpersonal Effectiveness ](#)

- Communicating needs clearly while maintaining relationships
- Setting boundaries and saying “no” when appropriate
- Building self-respect while requesting what you need
- Navigating conflict effectively without damaging relationships

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Who Benefits from DBT ](#)

At D2 Counseling, we find DBT particularly helpful for clients experiencing:

- Emotional dysregulation: Difficulty managing intense emotions or rapid mood shifts
- Impulsive behaviors: Including self-harm, substance use, spending, or other harmful coping mechanisms
- Relationship difficulties: Patterns of unstable or intense relationships
- Identity concerns: Struggles with self-image or sense of self
- Borderline personality traits: Including fear of abandonment and black-and-white thinking
- Chronic suicidal thoughts: Persistent thoughts of death without immediate crisis

DBT can also be effective for treatment-resistant depression, eating disorders, and PTSD when emotional regulation is a core challenge.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ DBT in Practice ](#)

DBT at D2 Counseling typically includes:

- 1Individual therapy sessions: Weekly one-on-one meetings to address specific challenges and apply DBT skills to your unique situation.
- 2Skills training: Either in individual sessions or group format (when available), focusing on the systematic learning and practice of core DBT skills.
- 3Between-session coaching: Support for applying skills in real-world situations between formal therapy sessions.
- 4Homework assignments: Regular practice exercises to reinforce skill development and track progress.

Throughout treatment, we emphasize validation of your experiences while simultaneously encouraging change—the dialectical balance that makes DBT so effective.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Individual vs. Group DBT ](#)

At D2 Counseling, we offer:

- Comprehensive individual DBT: One-on-one therapy that incorporates all DBT components.
- DBT-informed individual therapy: Traditional therapy enhanced with specific DBT skills and principles.
- Skills-focused groups: When available, these structured groups focus exclusively on learning and practicing DBT skills with peers.

Our therapists will help determine which format will best meet your needs based on your specific challenges and goals.

Many clients report that DBT provides concrete tools they can use immediately, creating a sense of empowerment even early in the therapeutic process.

[Meet our DBT Therapist](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/kari-knott/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Nature.jpg)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Solution-Focused Brief Therapy ](#)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ The Solution-Focused Approach ](#)

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) is a goal-directed, future-focused therapeutic approach that emphasizes finding solutions rather than analyzing problems. Unlike therapies that explore childhood experiences or unconscious motivations, SFBT concentrates on identifying what’s already working in your life and building upon these strengths.

At D2 Counseling, our solution-focused approach helps clients create meaningful change efficiently by focusing on concrete goals and practical steps forward. This pragmatic method is particularly effective for clients who prefer a direct, action-oriented approach to addressing specific challenges.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Goal-Oriented Treatment Methodology ](#)

SFBT at D2 Counseling is structured around:

- Future focus: Emphasizing desired outcomes rather than past problems
- Strengths-based perspective: Identifying and leveraging your existing resources and successes
- Concrete, measurable goals: Creating clear, observable markers of progress
- Collaboration: Working together to discover solutions rather than prescribing them
- Efficiency: Working toward meaningful change in a relatively brief timeframe

This approach respects your expertise in your own life while providing guidance to help you recognize and build upon what’s already working.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ When SFBT Works Best ](#)

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy is particularly effective for:

- Specific, defined challenges: When you can identify clear issues you want to address
- Life transitions: Navigating changes in career, relationships, or living situations
- Decision-making processes: When facing important choices or crossroads
- Performance improvement: Enhancing workplace or academic functioning
- Parenting challenges: Addressing specific behavioral concerns or family dynamics
- Relationship adjustments: When couples need practical tools for specific issues
- Goal achievement: Working toward personal or professional aspirations

While SFBT can be beneficial for many concerns, it’s typically not the primary approach for severe trauma, psychosis, or conditions requiring longer-term, more intensive treatment.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ The Solution-Focused Process at D2 Counseling ](#)

When engaging in SFBT with one of our therapists, you can expect:

- 1Goal identification: We’ll help you articulate what you want to achieve in clear, specific terms.
- 2Exception finding: Together, we’ll explore times when your problem is less severe or absent, identifying what’s different about those moments.
- 3Scaling questions: Using 1-10 scales helps track progress and identify small steps forward.
- 4The “miracle question”: This thought experiment helps clarify how your life would look if your problem suddenly disappeared, creating a clear vision of your desired future.
- 5Compliments and affirmations: Your therapist will highlight strengths and resources you already possess.
- 6Homework tasks: Specific actions to try between sessions that build on what’s already working.
- 7Regular reassessment: Checking progress toward goals and adjusting the approach as needed.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Efficiency and Results ](#)

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy typically requires fewer sessions than traditional therapies—often between 6-12 sessions total. Many clients report noticing positive changes after just a few meetings, as the approach creates momentum through:

- Shifting focus from problems to solutions
- Building on existing strengths rather than starting from scratch
- Creating immediate action steps rather than extensive analysis
- Celebrating small successes that build confidence for bigger changes

This efficiency makes SFBT particularly valuable for clients with limited time, financial constraints, or specific goals they want to achieve quickly.

[Meet our Therapist that works with Solution-Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Anxiety.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Our Integrative Approach to Mental Health ](#)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Personalized Treatment Plans ](#)

At D2 Counseling, we recognize that each person’s journey is unique. Rather than adhering rigidly to a single therapeutic model, we draw from our extensive training across multiple evidence-based approaches to create a treatment plan tailored specifically to you.

This integrative approach allows us to address the full complexity of your experience—combining techniques that might help you process difficult emotions, change unhelpful thought patterns, improve relationships, and develop practical coping skills, all within a cohesive treatment framework.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Combining Therapeutic Approaches for Optimal Results ](#)

Our therapists are skilled at weaving together elements from different therapeutic modalities to meet your specific needs. For example:

- A client processing trauma might benefit from EMDR techniques combined with DBT skills for emotional regulation between sessions
- Someone struggling with relationship issues might experience the best results with a blend of Family Systems work and cognitive-behavioral techniques
- A client facing major life transitions might find value in Solution-Focused approaches paired with mindfulness practices for stress management

This flexibility allows us to adapt as your needs evolve throughout the therapeutic process.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Holistic Considerations ](#)

Mental health doesn’t exist in isolation from physical, social, and spiritual wellbeing. Our integrative approach considers the whole person, including:

- Physical health factors that impact mental health
- Cultural and spiritual dimensions of your experience
- Social support systems and relationship dynamics
- Environmental and lifestyle influences on your wellbeing

When appropriate, we collaborate with other healthcare providers, including primary care physicians, psychiatrists, and nutritionists, to ensure comprehensive care.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Ongoing Assessment and Adaptation ](#)

Effective therapy requires regular evaluation and adjustment. Throughout your work with us, we’ll:

- Check in regularly about your progress toward identified goals
- Remain attentive to emerging needs or concerns
- Adapt our approach based on what’s most effective for you
- Collaborate with you on determining when therapy goals have been met

This flexible, responsive approach ensures that your therapy remains relevant and beneficial throughout your journey.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ The Importance of the Therapeutic Relationship ](#)

Research consistently shows that regardless of the specific techniques used, the quality of the therapeutic relationship is one of the strongest predictors of positive outcomes in therapy. At D2 Counseling, we prioritize creating a safe, trusting connection where you feel heard, respected, and understood.

Our therapists bring not only technical expertise but also genuine compassion, cultural humility, and a deep commitment to your growth and wellbeing. This relational foundation makes it possible for the therapeutic techniques we employ to reach their full potential.

[Schedule an initial consultation to discuss your personalized treatment plan →](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Common Mental Health Concerns We Address ](#)

At D2 Counseling, we provide effective treatment for a wide range of mental health concerns using our integrative, evidence-based approach. Here are some of the most common issues we help our clients navigate:

- Shifting focus from problems to solutions
- Building on existing strengths rather than starting from scratch
- Creating immediate action steps rather than extensive analysis
- Celebrating small successes that build confidence for bigger changes

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Anxiety Disorders ](#)

Anxiety can manifest in many forms, from generalized worry to specific phobias, panic attacks, or social anxiety. Our approach to anxiety treatment typically combines:

- Cognitive techniques to address worry patterns and catastrophic thinking
- Behavioral strategies to reduce avoidance and build confidence
- Mindfulness practices to manage physical symptoms
- Exposure-based methods to gradually reduce fear responses

Most clients experience significant relief from anxiety symptoms within 8-16 sessions of consistent work.

[Learn more about our approach to anxiety treatment →](https://d2counseling.com/anxiety/)

#### [Depression](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Depression can drain the joy and energy from life, making even simple tasks feel overwhelming. Our depression treatment focuses on:

- Behavioral activation to break cycles of withdrawal and inactivity
- Cognitive work to address negative thought patterns
- Interpersonal strategies to strengthen support systems
- Mindfulness techniques to increase present-moment awareness
- Exploration of meaning and purpose to rebuild engagement with life

We also coordinate with psychiatric providers when medication might be beneficial alongside therapy.

[Explore our depression treatment options →](https://d2counseling.com/depression/)

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Trauma and PTSD ](#)

Trauma responses can persist long after traumatic events, affecting relationships, self-image, and daily functioning. Our trauma treatment integrates:

- EMDR therapy to process traumatic memories
- Somatic (body-based) approaches to address physical trauma responses
- CBT techniques to manage trauma-related thoughts and beliefs
- Grounding and self-regulation skills for symptom management
- Narrative approaches to help reconstruct meaning after trauma

Our trauma work is always paced according to your comfort level, with safety and stabilization as the foundation.

[Discover our trauma-focused therapy approach →](https://d2counseling.com/trauma-and-ptsd/)

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Relationship Issues ](#)

Whether you’re struggling with romantic relationships, family dynamics, or workplace interactions, our relationship-focused therapy can help through:

- Communication skill development
- Boundary-setting practice
- Conflict resolution techniques
- Attachment pattern exploration
- Family systems analysis

We work with individuals, couples, and families to create healthier, more fulfilling connections.

[Learn about our relationship counseling services →](https://d2counseling.com/about-us/)

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Life Transitions ](#)

Major life changes—whether chosen or unexpected—can create significant stress and identity challenges. Our approach to navigating transitions includes:

- Processing emotional responses to change
- Clarifying values and priorities during times of uncertainty
- Developing concrete coping strategies for adjustment periods
- Building resilience for future transitions
- Finding meaning and opportunity within change

Many clients find that therapy during transitions not only helps them cope but transforms these periods into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

[Meet our Therapist to help with Life Transitions](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/elyse-kitterman/)

[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/drive-day.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

## [Why Choose D2 Counseling in the DFW Area](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

When selecting a therapy provider in Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, or McKinney, you deserve care that’s not only effective but also provided with warmth, respect, and professional excellence. Here’s what sets D2 Counseling apart from other therapy providers in the DFW metroplex:

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Experienced, Credentialed Therapists ](#)

Our team consists of licensed mental health professionals with advanced training in multiple evidence-based therapeutic approaches. Beyond academic credentials, our therapists bring years of real-world experience helping individuals navigate a wide range of challenges.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Evidence-Based Treatment ](#)

We’re committed to providing therapy that works. The approaches we use are supported by research and have demonstrated effectiveness for the concerns we treat. We stay current with developments in the field to ensure we’re offering the most effective care available.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Personalized Care Plans ](#)

We recognize that no two individuals are alike, which is why we never apply one-size-fits-all solutions. Your treatment plan is developed collaboratively, taking into account your specific needs, preferences, strengths, and goals.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Accessible Locations Throughout DFW ](#)

With convenient access for residents of Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, and McKinney, our offices are strategically located to serve clients throughout the northern DFW metroplex. We understand that finding local therapy that fits your schedule is important, which is why we’ve made our services accessible to communities across the region.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Flexible Scheduling Options ](#)

We understand that finding time for therapy can be challenging. We offer appointment times that accommodate various schedules, including some evening hours, to make consistent attendance possible.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Insurance and Payment Information ](#)

D2 Counseling is a private-pay practice. We don’t work with insurance companies, which allows us to focus entirely on providing the best care for our clients without insurance limitations or restrictions. We offer transparent self-pay options and can provide documentation you may need for out-of-network reimbursement if you choose to submit claims to your insurance provider independently.

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## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Your Next Steps in Finding Therapy in DFW ](#)

Taking that first step toward therapy can feel daunting, but at D2 Counseling, we aim to make the process as straightforward and supportive as possible for residents throughout the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Starting Your Therapy Journey in the DFW Area ](#)

- Reach out to us: Contact us by phone or through our secure online form to schedule an initial consultation.
- Initial consultation: This first 45-60 minute session allows us to understand your concerns and goals while giving you the opportunity to ask questions and get a sense of our approach.
- Collaborative planning: Together, we’ll develop a treatment plan tailored to your specific needs, including the therapeutic approaches most likely to be helpful for your situation.
- Ongoing sessions: Most therapy sessions are 50 minutes and typically occur weekly, especially in the beginning stages of treatment.
- Regular check-ins: We’ll periodically review your progress and adjust our approach as needed to ensure you’re moving toward your goals.

This approach respects your expertise in your own life while providing guidance to help you recognize and build upon what’s already working.

### [What to Expect at Your First Appointment](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

Your initial visit will focus on building rapport and gathering information. Your therapist will ask about your current concerns, relevant history, and what you hope to achieve through therapy. This is also your opportunity to ask questions about the therapeutic process and determine if the therapist feels like a good fit for your needs.

You don’t need to prepare anything special for this first meeting—just come ready to share what’s bringing you to therapy at this time. Many clients report feeling a sense of relief even after this first conversation, knowing they’ve taken a concrete step toward positive change.

**Ready to begin your therapy journey in the DFW area? Contact us today at 972-975-9100 or fill out our**[ **online request form**](https://d2counseling.com/contact/) **to schedule your initial consultation at our Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, or McKinney locations.**

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## [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy in DFW ](#)

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ How do I choose the right therapist in the DFW area? ](#)

Finding the right therapist is important for successful therapy outcomes. Consider factors like therapist specialization, location convenience (whether you’re in Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, or McKinney), and your personal comfort with the therapist. At D2 Counseling, we offer complimentary phone consultations to help determine if our therapists are a good match for your needs before scheduling your first appointment.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ How long will therapy take? ](#)

The duration of therapy varies based on your specific concerns, goals, and the therapeutic approach used. Some solution-focused work might be completed in 6-8 sessions, while more complex issues may benefit from several months of treatment. During your initial consultation, your therapist will provide an estimate based on your unique situation.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Do you offer teletherapy for DFW residents? ](#)

Yes, we offer secure video therapy sessions for clients throughout Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, McKinney, and the broader DFW area. Teletherapy provides the same quality care as in-person sessions with added convenience, especially for clients with busy schedules or transportation limitations.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ How often will we meet? ](#)

Most clients begin with weekly sessions to build momentum. As you progress, sessions may be spaced further apart. Your therapist will recommend a frequency that balances progress with practical considerations like time and financial resources.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Which areas do you serve in DFW? ](#)

D2 Counseling proudly serves clients throughout the northern Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex, with convenient access for residents of Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, and McKinney. Whether you live or work in these communities, our locations and scheduling options make quality therapy accessible.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ Do you prescribe medication? ](#)

As licensed therapists (not psychiatrists), we don’t prescribe medication. However, we collaborate closely with psychiatrists and primary care physicians throughout the DFW area when medication might be beneficial alongside therapy. We’re happy to provide referrals to trusted providers in Dallas, Plano, Frisco, Richardson, Prosper, and McKinney.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ What’s the difference between the therapeutic approaches you offer? ](#)

Each approach has unique strengths: CBT focuses on changing thought patterns, trauma therapy processes difficult experiences, family systems examines relationship dynamics, DBT builds emotional regulation skills, and solution-focused therapy creates practical, forward-moving plans. Many clients benefit from an integrative approach that combines elements from multiple modalities.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ How do I know if therapy is working? ](#)

Progress in therapy often includes improved ability to manage difficult emotions, healthier relationships, reduced symptom intensity, and greater alignment with your values and goals. Your therapist will help establish concrete markers of progress specific to your situation and check in regularly about your experience of therapy.

### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[ What if I don’t connect with my therapist? ](#)

The therapeutic relationship is crucial for effective therapy. If you don’t feel a good fit with your initial therapist, we encourage you to discuss this openly. We can either work to address any concerns or help facilitate a transfer to another provider on our team who might be a better match for your needs and preferences.

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### [Trauma and PTSD Landing](https://d2counseling.com/trauma-and-ptsd/)

**Published:** January 25, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

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### Healing and Hope: Trauma and PTSD Therapy at D2 Counseling

Trauma affects every aspect of your present and future. At D2Counseling, we understand the profound impact of trauma and PTSD, offering a compassionate space for individuals to embark on a journey of healing and reclaiming their lives.

The aftermath of trauma can take a daily toll. Instead of facing it alone, trauma and PTSD therapy provide a dedicated space for you to explore and overcome the lingering effects of traumatic experiences. Our therapists specialize in guiding individuals through the process of healing, acknowledging the unique challenges that trauma survivors face.

[Get Started Today!](#contact)

## Reclaiming Your Life: Navigating Trauma and PTSD

In trauma and PTSD therapy we recognize the weight of your experiences expressing understanding and empathy. Together we navigate the complexities of trauma, addressing emotional pain, fostering resilience, and empowering you to reclaim control over your life.

Our experienced team is dedicated to supporting individuals on their journey to healing. We provide a safe and non-judgmental space for you to explore, understand, and transform the impact of trauma.

Ready to reclaim your life from the shadows of the past? Click the button below to take the first step towards healing and empowerment.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s time to [get help](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact").

[Take The First Step Today](#contact)

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### [Sex Therapy Landing](https://d2counseling.com/sex-therapy/)

**Published:** January 25, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

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### Enhancing Intimacy: Compassionate Sex Therapy Services at D2 Counseling

Navigating challenges in the realm of sexuality can be a complex and sensitive journey. At D2Counseling, we understand the importance of sexual well-being and offer a compassionate space for individuals and couples to explore and enhance their intimate lives.

In the intricacies of sexual concerns, each day may present unique obstacles. Instead of allowing these challenges to persist, sex therapy provides a dedicated space to address and overcome them. Our therapists specialize in fostering open communication, understanding, and empowerment, creating a safe environment for you to express your concerns and desires.

[Get Started Today!](#contact)

## Tailored Sex Therapy for Individuals and Couples

Whether you’re facing issues related to intimacy, communication, or sexual function, our therapists collaborate with you to navigate the complexities of sex and relationships. We recognize the unique challenges individuals and couples may encounter and tailor our approach to suit your specific needs.

Our therapists hold specialized certifications and are dedicated to fostering healthy sexual relationships. We combine professional expertise with a compassionate approach to provide guidance on your journey to sexual well-being.

Ready to nurture intimacy and enhance your sexual health? Click the button below to take the first step towards a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s time to [get help](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact").

[Take The First Step Today](#contact)

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### [Testimonials](https://d2counseling.com/testimonials/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

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## What Our Clients Have To Say

We believe that everyone has the potential to lead a fulfilling and happy life. [Our team](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/ "Meet The Team") of compassionate and experienced counselors is dedicated to providing personalized care that meets the unique needs of each client. We offer a range of therapy services that are designed to help individuals overcome challenges and achieve their goals. Read client testimonials to learn about their experience with D2 Counseling.

> “The tension and anxiety I’ve had in my body has almost completely gone, and It’s only because of me being in this group.”

**Shelly B.**

> “I was able to sit across from my mother and not react. I wouldn’t have been able to do that with the support of this group.”

**Jeff M.**

> “Thank you for reminding me to look at how far I have come! There have been many discoveries, dark places, dreams, experiences, and awakenings. The whole journey is the biggest mystery that I have ever experienced.”

**Mike Z.**

> “I have grown more in the past year of group than in all the decades of therapy I’ve had before. I’ve come to really trust my group to give me the feedback that helps me change.”

**Marcus L.**

> “The couples workshop was great. We thought we were pretty good communicators because that’s what we both do for a living. Dina and Daniel taught us how to really understand what we were both trying to say.”

**Niki P.**

> “My husband and I always get stuck in the same place on the same disagreements. In that workshop we learned why and what to do about it. Thanks Dina and Daniel!”

**Shane M.**

> “We struggled over some really simple arguments. What we found out is that we were just doing the same thing over and over because we did not know how to do it different. We learned the skills in the couples workshop to move past that.”

**Mikey G.**

> “What a difference from a few years ago. She came home and said ‘\[My counselor\] is like magic. How does she know everything?’ Thank you for meeting with her.”

**Brian C.**

> “Of all the trainings that I have done in my career, this workshop was by far the most impactful and healing. Without having done the workshop, it would be safe to say that my wife and I would not have the tools to work through our issues of our marriage. It has given us a new perspective of our relationship and what matters to us in moving forward. It was well worth the time and the investment.”

**Samantha M.**

> “You’re helping me grow on my journey and I’m really starting to notice some significant changes in myself. And I like what I’m seeing.”

**Dave H.**

> “We are very pleased with our progress with you. Your ability to cut to the heart of it so quickly is astounding. Thank you.”

**Lilly Q.**

> “Thank you for being there to guide me, help me see, and create new possibilities. You were the perfect person for me to be with in this transition!”

**Ray S.**

> “I want to express our deep appreciation for the work you’ve done with us so far. You’ve provided us with a safe and supportive space to work through some challenging issues, and we are both grateful for the insights and tools you’ve given us to navigate our relationship.”

**Susan G.**

> “With your help, I’ve moved out of those depths and back to a growth path toward flourishing.”

**Allie G.**

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### [Parenting Articles](https://d2counseling.com/parenting-articles/)

**Published:** April 10, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

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## The D2 Blog

## Navigating the Journey of Imperfect Parenting

Navigating the Journey of Imperfect Parenting” captures the essence of the unpredictable adventure of raising children. It dispels the myth of perfection, encouraging parents to embrace the real, messy, and beautiful journey of growth and learning. This theme underscores the importance of presence, empathy, and adaptability, advocating for a parenting approach that values affirmation, nurtures growth, and sets boundaries with love. It’s a call to cherish the imperfections, learn from every experience, and foster deep connections, understanding that true guidance comes from the heart.

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    [Parenting Articles](https://d2counseling.com/category/parenting-articles/)
    
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## [Walking with Our Kids through Cyberspace](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/walking-with-our-kids-through-cyberspace/)

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    [Parenting Articles](https://d2counseling.com/category/parenting-articles/)
    
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## [The Price Parents Pay](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/the-price-parents-pay-2/)

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## [Side by Side in Camptalk](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/side-by-side-in-camptalk/)

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## [Relationships on Hold](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/relationships-on-hold/)

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## [Let Nature Do The Work](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/let-nature-do-the-workthe-myths-of-mindreading-cloned/)

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## [High School Senior Rebellion](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/high-school-senior-rebellion/)

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## [Drive Day](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/drive-day/)

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## [Collaborative Divorce and Kids](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/collaborative-divorce-and-kids/)

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### [Grief Landing](https://d2counseling.com/grief/)

**Published:** January 25, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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### Finding Solace in Grief: Compassionate Counseling Services at D2 Counseling

In the face of loss, grief can cast a shadow on every aspect of life, making each day a challenge. At D2Counseling, we understand the profound impact of grief and offer a compassionate space for individuals to navigate the complex emotions that accompany loss.

Experiencing grief can feel like an uphill battle. Instead of facing it alone, grief counseling provides a dedicated space for you to express your emotions, share your memories, and find support. Our therapists specialize in providing empathetic guidance, acknowledging the unique nature of each grief journey.

In grief counseling, we recognize the weight of your emotions, expressing understanding and compassion. Together, we work through the stages of grief, offering strategies to cope with loss and fostering resilience. Our therapists create a safe environment for you to mourn, remember, and ultimately find a path towards healing.

Ready to navigate your grief journey with support? Click the button below to take the first step towards healing and finding solace.

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##### [Elyse Kitterman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/elyse-kitterman/)

LPC, LCDC, CSAT
[(214) 432-0514](tel:2144320514)

I have over 36 years of experience in the counseling field and am very passionate about helping people grow through their pain and suffering. I have worked in a variety of settings including hospitals, treatment centers, and for over 20+ years worked as one of the Employee Assistance Program Managers and Critical Response Team for American Airlines. Trauma and grief work, as they impact relationships, is a specialty of mine.

[Learn More](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/elyse-kitterman/)

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#### [Elyse Kitterman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/elyse-kitterman/)

LPC, LCDC, CSAT
[(214) 432-0514](tel:2144320514)

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### [Couples Therapy Landing](https://d2counseling.com/couples-therapy/)

**Published:** January 24, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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### Strengthen Your Bond: Expert Couples Therapy at D2 Counseling

Navigating the complexities of a relationship can sometimes feel like a daunting task. Misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, and unresolved conflicts can create a sense of distance between partners. At D2Counseling, we understand that maintaining a strong and healthy connection requires effort and understanding.

In couples therapy, we provide a safe and supportive environment where both partners can express their thoughts and feelings openly. Our therapists empathize with the unique challenges that couples face and are here to guide you through the process of rebuilding and strengthening your bond.

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## Rediscover Love and Connection

Learn new ways of communication, deepen your understanding of each other, and explore effective problem-solving strategies. Our therapeutic interventions are tailored to the specific dynamics of your relationship, helping you both rediscover the love and connection that brought you together in the first place.

Our team of experienced therapists is dedicated to helping couples thrive. We offer a combination of evidence-based practices and compassionate guidance to foster positive change. Reconnect with your partner and build a foundation for a fulfilling and lasting relationship.

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Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s time to [get help](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact").

[Take The First Step Today](#contact)

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

LPC-S, MEd
[(972) 275-6019]()

My specialties are intimate relationships and individual personal growth. My work with couples primarily involves developing meaningful communication, deeper intimacy, an enhanced sex life and a renewed sense of connection between partners. I also work with individuals who are experiencing grief, trauma or loss relating to relationship break ups, infidelity, divorce or bereavement. The therapeutic approach of my practice is effective for Christian Counseling but equally applicable for persons of all faith backgrounds.

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#### [Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

LPC-S, MEd
[(972) 275-6019]()

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### [Children and Adolescents Landing](https://d2counseling.com/children-and-adolescents/)

**Published:** January 24, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![High Five](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/high-five.webp "high five")

### Overcoming Depression with D2Counseling’s Support

Growing up in today’s world can be extremely challenging for children and adolescents. Children face difficulties in developing essential social and emotional skills in an environment where relationships are often digitally driven. This in turn is frequently reflected in behavior problems at home or at school. Adolescents face enormous pressure with academic stress, social media scrutiny and navigating the complexities of modern life, all while developing their identity. This can manifest as depression, anxiety, self harm behaviors and use of alcohol and drugs. At D2Counseling, we recognize the unique needs of young individuals and offer a supportive space for their emotional and psychological development.

Our therapists specialize in connecting with children and adolescents, creating an environment where they feel safe expressing their thoughts and emotions. We understand the importance of early intervention and work collaboratively with young individuals to develop coping skills, emotional regulation, and a sense of self-worth.

[Get Started Today!](#contact)

## Empowering Resilience: Comprehensive Therapy for Today’s Children and Adolescents

In therapy, we address a range of issues, from academic stress to social difficulties and emotional struggles. Our approach combines evidence-based techniques with a play-based and age-appropriate methodology, ensuring that therapy is engaging and beneficial for young minds.

Our dedicated team of therapists has a passion for supporting the growth and resilience of young individuals. We foster a trusting and nurturing environment to empower children and adolescents to face life’s challenges with confidence. We will also help you learn new ways to parent through this difficult time.

Take the first step towards your child’s well-being by clicking the button below.

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[Take The First Step Today](#contact)

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##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Yvette Bonavita](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

LMSW
[(972) 275-6018]()

I am a dedicated and compassionate therapist with a profound love for empowering individuals through the therapeutic journey. At the core of my practice is a commitment to support and accept each person on their unique path to personal growth and healing.

In my work with children and youth, I take a holistic approach to helping them flourish. I see each child as a unique individual, using different kinds of tools to help them in their own special way. I use play and games to make learning fun, a bit like putting puzzle pieces together. In our time together, I make sure each child feels heard and understood.

[Learn More](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Yvette-crop.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/peaches/)[Yvette Bonavita](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

LMSW
[(972) 275-6018]()

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### [Anxiety Landing](https://d2counseling.com/anxiety/)

**Published:** January 25, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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### Finding Calm in the Storm: Effective Anxiety Therapy at D2 Counseling

Living with anxiety can make even the simplest tasks feel like insurmountable challenges. Instead of brushing off minor mistakes, you may find yourself dwelling on them for hours. Saying “yes” to social invitations becomes a wrestling match with what-ifs, and relaxation at the end of the day seems elusive as tension persists in your body and thoughts churn relentlessly.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way. Anxiety is highly treatable, and at D2Counseling, we are here to guide you towards a more easeful existence. Many clients experience significant relief after just a few therapy sessions. Your therapist will collaborate with you, imparting stress management and anxiety reduction skills, offering insights into the roots of your anxiety, and helping you build the courage to confront anxiety-inducing situations.

[Get Started Today!](#contact)

## Experience Relief: Engaging and Effective Anxiety Therapy

At D2Counseling, we specialize in treating anxiety through an experiential approach. Our therapists integrate common therapy methods like CBT and exposure therapy with engaging experiential activities that involve both your mind and body. This approach not only enhances your participation in therapy but also fosters lasting confidence. (And, yes, it’s kind of fun!)

Ready to embark on the journey towards a calmer, more confident you? Click the button below to take the first step.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way.
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[Take The First Step Today](#contact)

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[![Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/jonathon.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

##### [Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

LPC, LCDC, NCC, EMDR, CSAT-Candidate

[(972) 275-6413](tel:9722756413)

As a licensed therapist holding credentials as an LPC, LCDC, and NCC, with a master’s degree in counseling psychology from SMU, I am dedicated to guiding individuals towards holistic healing and personal growth. With specialized training in EMDR and ongoing pursuit of CSAT certification, my passion lies in empowering clients to overcome obstacles and realize their full potential.

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#### [Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

LPC, LCDC, NCC, EMDR, CSAT-Candidate
[(972) 275-6413](tel:9722756413)

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### [EMDR Landing](https://d2counseling.com/emdrd2/)

**Published:** January 24, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

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![ EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/EMDR.webp "EMDR")

### Transform Your Life: Overcome Trauma with EMDR Therapy at D2 Counseling

When you carry the weight of past traumas, it can cast a shadow on your present, influencing your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, available at D2Counseling, is a powerful and evidence-based approach designed to help you process and overcome the impact of traumatic events.

In the midst of trauma, each day may feel like a struggle. Instead of letting these experiences define you, EMDR therapy offers a structured process to guide you towards healing and empowerment. Your therapist will assist you in revisiting distressing memories, using the EMDR process, and developing new, more adaptive associations.

At D2Counseling, our experienced EMDR therapists are dedicated to your transformation. We provide a safe and supportive space for you to navigate the complexities of healing. With a focus on empowerment, we combine expertise with compassion, ensuring you receive personalized and effective care.

Take the first step towards reclaiming your life by clicking the button below.

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[![Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Susanna-Hoffman-2.webp)](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

##### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)[Susanna Huffman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

LPC, LCDC
[(972) 275-64]()04

I entered the field of counseling to help people from a variety of diverse backgrounds heal from past experiences to be able to live more authentic lives that are aligned with their own personal values. I find tremendous meaning in walking alongside my clients as they navigate through both challenging times and times filled with joy.

I received my Masters of Science in Counseling through Southern Methodist University. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC) in the state of Texas. I also have been trained in EMDR and Gottman levels I & II for Couples Therapy.

[Learn More](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

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#### [](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/peaches/)[Susanna Huffman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

LPC, LCDC
[(972) 275-64]()04

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### [Workshops](https://d2counseling.com/workshops/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

# Counseling Workshops

Unlock Your Potential and Improve Your Life with D2 Counseling’s Empowering Workshops.

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/3-Part-Couples-Intensive-small-scaled-1.webp "3 Part Couples Intensive small -scaled")

##### 3 Part Relationship Intensive

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##### Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together

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##### Empowered! Family Of Origin

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### [Blog](https://d2counseling.com/blog/)

**Published:** June 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

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# Blog

# Blog

## The D2 Blog

## The D2 Blog

The D2 Counseling blog offers insights and advice from experts that can help you. Covering topics from mental health, relationships, and personal growth. From coping with anxiety and depression to building stronger connections with loved ones, our counselors offer a wealth of knowledge and experience to help you navigate life’s challenges. Stay tuned for regular updates and inspiration, and don’t hesitate to reach out to us for personalized support.

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    [Addiction](https://d2counseling.com/category/addiction/)
    
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## [Addiction Counseling: Signs, Treatment, and Recovery](https://d2counseling.com/2026/08/18/addiction-counseling-signs-treatment-recovery/)

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    [Couples](https://d2counseling.com/category/couples/), [Family Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/category/family-therapy/)
    
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## [How Family of Origin Affects Adult Relationships](https://d2counseling.com/2026/08/06/how-family-of-origin-affects-adult-relationships/)

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    [Mental Health](https://d2counseling.com/category/mental-health/)
    
     [](https://d2counseling.com/2025/08/07/dont-bring-january-blues-into-february/)

## [Don’t Bring January Blues Into February](https://d2counseling.com/2025/08/07/dont-bring-january-blues-into-february/)

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    [Family Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/category/family-therapy/)
    
     [](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/24/family-therapy-child-therapy-explained/)

## [Family Therapy & Child Therapy: Explained](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/24/family-therapy-child-therapy-explained/)

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    [Mental Health](https://d2counseling.com/category/mental-health/)
    
     [](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/10/when-the-world-leaves-you-feeling-powerless/)

## [When the World Leaves You Feeling Powerless](https://d2counseling.com/2025/07/10/when-the-world-leaves-you-feeling-powerless/)

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    [Depression](https://d2counseling.com/category/depression/), [Support](https://d2counseling.com/category/support/)
    
     [](https://d2counseling.com/2025/06/26/building-resilience-to-find-your-path/)

## [Building Resilience to Find Your Path](https://d2counseling.com/2025/06/26/building-resilience-to-find-your-path/)

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    [Mental Health](https://d2counseling.com/category/mental-health/)
    
     [](https://d2counseling.com/2024/06/25/is-your-mindset-holding-you-back-from-growth/)

## [Is Your Mindset Holding You Back From Growth?](https://d2counseling.com/2024/06/25/is-your-mindset-holding-you-back-from-growth/)

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    [Parenting Articles](https://d2counseling.com/category/parenting-articles/)
    
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## [Walking with Our Kids through Cyberspace](https://d2counseling.com/2024/04/10/walking-with-our-kids-through-cyberspace/)

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### [Download Your Guide](https://d2counseling.com/guide/)

**Published:** January 16, 2024
**Author:** jwarner

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# Your Guide is Ready!

Our understanding of relationships and how to participate in them is founded on the patterns we grew up with and how we were taught to interact with others. As children develop we need to be affirmed, nurtured and have limits placed on us. When we get anything less than this, it will show in our development and most definitely show in our relationships. To be clear, parents usually have good intentions, but we as little people have to deal with the impact of how we were raised. The number one thing people are after, once our survival needs are met, is acceptance.

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### [Group Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/group-therapy/)

**Published:** June 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Group therapy can help you

You’re not alone in the challenges you face. Other individuals, couples and families face similar relationship crises. Participating in group therapy led by our expert relationship [counselors](https://d2counseling.com/meet-the-team/ "Meet The Team") can support your healing and help you reach your goals more quickly in a number of ways.

![Men's Group Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/mens-group-therapy.webp "mens group therapy")

### Men’s Groups

Our men’s groups are based on the teaching of Pia Mellody and focus on boundaries, relationships and intimacy.

**Facilitators:**

Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, CSAT & Rev.

Daniel Gowan, LPC-S,LCDC CSAT.

- Men’s Group Wednesday (1st, 3rd) 10am
- Men’s Group Wednesdays 5pm
- Men’s Group Tuesday (2nd, 4th) 9am
- Men’s Group Tuesday at 3pm

**Facilitator:**

Kari Knott, MA, LPC

- Men’s Group Tuesday at 5:15pm
- Men’s Group Thursday at 5:45pm

**Men’s Recovery Group:**

Jonathan Pruitt, MS, LPC, LCDC

- Monday’s at 6:00pm (In Person)
- Thursday’s at 6:00pm (In Person)

[Get In Touch & Find Out More](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

![Women's Group Therapy Session ](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/womens-tgroup-therapy-.webp "womens tgroup therapy")

### Women’s Groups

Our women’s groups focus on personal growth, relationship issues & wellness.

**Facilitator:** Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, CSAT.

- Tuesdays (1st & 3rd) 9am

[Get In Touch & Find Out More](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

![Women's Group Therapy Session ](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/grouptherapy.webp "grouptherapy")

### Co-ed

Our co-ed groups focus on boundaries, intimacy and personal growth.

**Facilitators:**
Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, CSAT & Rev.
Daniel Gowan, LPC-S, LCDC, CSAT

- Tuesdays 7am
- Wednesdays 7pm

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### [EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/)

**Published:** June 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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### Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

EMDR is a form of therapy that helps individuals heal from trauma or other distressing life experiences. EMDR therapy has been extensively researched and has demonstrated effectiveness for trauma.

EMDR therapy at D2Counseling is the therapy of choice for trauma events. Trauma can be big and loud and bold (like soldiers and shooting) but trauma also includes slow drip verbal meanness that barely goes noticed in the moment. In hindsight, there are no physical scars, but the emotional wounding is just as impactful. EMDR therapy heals both.

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## What’s The Best Thing About Your EMDR Therapy?

- “Those movies that used to run in my head….They used to be in high def, now they are old black and white polaroids. I know they happened, they just don’t bother me now.” – Iraq War Vet
- “While I was doing the EMDR, it was like the feelings were floating away, and the thing I was working on just wasn’t that important.” – Plano Mom
- “I used to think all that stuff when I was a kid was my fault. Now I see I was just there in the middle of a bad scene.” – Dallas Businessman
- “It was weird, it was like the stuff that happened to me when I was an adult brought up feelings I had when I was younger- and they felt the same when I started. Now I see what was mine and what wasn’t.” – Adult Daughter

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s time to [get help](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact").

[Take The First Step Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

[Take The First Step Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

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### [About D2](https://d2counseling.com/about-us/)

**Published:** June 26, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Improving Relationships With Self And Others

At D2 Counseling, we provide relationship counseling for individuals, families, couples and groups, as well as relationship workshops, training and speaking worldwide. Therapy sessions take place in our North Dallas metro-area offices, convenient to Plano, Frisco, Allen, McKinney and Richardson.

Our highly-trained therapists are known for helping people learn to connect in healthy ways that create satisfying and meaningful relationships.

[(972) 975-9100](tel:9729759100)

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### Are You Feeling Vulnerable, Overwhelmed and Perhaps Even Hopeless?

What we offer is a safe, non-judgmental place where we’ll challenge you to move beyond whatever is causing you pain. We want to help you feel stronger and more confident as an individual so you can better navigate your life and relationships with others. Our counselors take a holistic and practical approach to relationship therapy, including proven, effective techniques based in scientific and spiritual principles. Bringing both a male and female perspective to our sessions, you can expect a balanced style stemming from [our diverse training and backgrounds](https://d2counseling.com/Meet-the-team).

### We Want You To Know That Change Is Possible

Just because you’re having a hard time right now doesn’t mean you have to spend years in therapy to fix everything before you start to feel better. Our practice is designed to promote growth from the moment you walk in, so you can begin to heal yourself and your relationships, and achieve your goals as quickly as possible. We work closely with adults and families who are struggling with challenges and change. Our clients are facing crises such as feeling overwhelmed, infidelity, depression, anxiety, pornography or sex addiction, trust issues, lack of intimacy or anger.

## In Our Sessions & Workshops, You Can Learn To:

- Address a specific relationship crisis or challenge.
- Move beyond betrayal, infidelity or loss of trust.
- Work through codependency or addiction problems.
- Grow awareness in the roles you play with your partner.
- Manage intense feelings without losing your temper or walling off.

- Overcome guilt and shame.
- Move past blame and finger pointing.
- Create appropriate healthy boundaries.
- Recognize what patterns and behaviors keep you stuck.
- Identify and build upon your strengths as a couple or family.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s time to get help.

Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling life — one with joy, laughter and purpose. If your relationships with others and yourself are interfering with your day-to-day activities, it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s time to get help.

[Take The First Step Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

[Take The First Step Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

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### [Schedule An Appointment](https://d2counseling.com/schedule-an-appointment/)

**Published:** October 4, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Get the Support You Need: Book a Therapy Session Today

Are you ready to take the first step towards healing and personal growth? Schedule an appointment with D2 Counseling today. Our team of experienced therapists is here to support you on your journey towards a happier and healthier life. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or any other mental health concern, we provide individual, couples, family, and group therapy sessions tailored to your specific needs. Contact us now to schedule your appointment and start your transformative therapy journey.

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### [Thank You](https://d2counseling.com/thank-you/)

**Published:** September 28, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

# Thank You

Thank you for reaching out to us. Someone from our team be in touch with you shortly!

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### [Therapy](https://d2counseling.com/therapy/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

# Therapy

Our individual therapy, relationship counseling, workshops and seminars are designed to help you discover new tools and skills that not only change your thinking, but also your feelings and behaviors — both individually and within relationships with others.

Together you and your therapist will focus on increasing self awareness, learning new tools and building strength and confidence.

[Get In Touch Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

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## Individual Therapy

The more confident, happier and more self-aware you are as an individual, the stronger and healthier your relationships can be. Work one-on-one with a therapist to heal trauma, depression, anxiety, work-related stress or family of origin issues that may be affecting your behaviors and relationships.

###### Addictions:

- Sexual
- Food
- Substances
- Pornography
- Compulsive Behaviors

###### Mental Health:

- Depression
- Anxiety/Panic
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- Bipolar
- Body Image Disorders

###### Mental Health:

- Depression
- Anxiety/Panic
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- Bipolar
- Body Image Disorders

###### Addictions:

- Sexual
- Food
- Substances
- Pornography
- Compulsive Behaviors

###### Trauma:

- Betrayal
- Sexual Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Neglect
- Emotional abuse
- Loss/Death
- Attachment Issues
- Self-Injury
- PTSD

###### Trauma:

- Betrayal
- Sexual Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Neglect
- Emotional abuse
- Loss/Death
- Attachment Issues
- Self-Injury
- PTSD

[Get In Touch Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/couples-therapy.webp "couples-therapy")

### Individual Therapy

The more confident, happier and more self-aware you are as an individual, the stronger and healthier your relationships can be. Work one-on-one with a therapist to heal trauma, depression, anxiety, work-related stress or family of origin issues that may be affecting your behaviors and relationships.

- Intimacy Disorders
- Relationship Problems

- Marital Conflict
- Healthy Courtship

[Get In Touch Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/group-therapy-2.webp "group-therapy-2")

### Group Therapy

You’re not alone in the challenges you face. Other individuals, couples and families face similar relationship crises. Participating in group therapy led by our expert relationship counselors can support your healing and help you reach your goals more quickly in a number of ways. [Group therapy](https://d2counseling.com/group-therapy/ "Group Therapy") can help you:

- Identify struggles more quickly than you can on your own.
- Work through issues at a deeper level with opportunities for self-reflection and feedback from other group members.
- Create change faster by learning from the experience and feedback of your peers.

[Get In Touch Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

## Family Therapy

Are relationships within your family system suffering due to marital problems, addictions, child/adolescent/teen behavioral problems or some form of trauma or betrayal? Your family can learn how to better communicate, resolve conflict, strengthen bonds and create the lifelong loving and healthy relationships you desire.

[Get In Touch Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

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### [Somatic Experience](https://d2counseling.com/somatic-experience/)

**Published:** June 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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## A Naturalistic Approach To Trauma

Somatic Experiencing® is a short-term naturalistic approach to the resolution and healing of trauma developed by Dr. Peter Levine. It is a psychobiological method for resolving symptoms of trauma and chronic stress. It promotes balance, resiliency, equanimity and engagement in an individual’s life.

In the face of trauma events, people would ideally release the energy they accumulate during these stressful events through the flight, flight or freeze response. We often override these natural ways of regulating the nervous system with feelings of shame and pervasive thoughts, judgments and fears resulting in cognitive, emotional and physical manifestations of traumatic stress. [Contact us](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact") today to start your journey.

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### [Privacy Policy](https://d2counseling.com/privacy-policy/)

**Published:** June 9, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

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Privacy Policy

At D2 Counseling, we are committed to protecting your privacy and ensuring the security of your personal information. This Privacy Policy outlines how we collect, use, disclose, and store your data when you visit our website or avail our counseling services. By accessing our website or using our services, you agree to the terms outlined in this policy.

1. Collection of Personal Information: We may collect personal information, including but not limited to your name, email address, phone number, and any other information you provide to us voluntarily. This information is collected through our website’s contact form, registration forms, or during counseling sessions.
2. Use of Personal Information: We use your personal information to provide you with the counseling services you request, to communicate with you, and to improve our services. Your information may also be used for administrative purposes, such as billing and record-keeping.
3. Disclosure of Personal Information: We may share your personal information with our team of counselors and therapists who are involved in providing you with the counseling services you request. However, we will not disclose your personal information to any third parties unless required by law or with your explicit consent.
4. Data Security: We have implemented appropriate technical and organizational measures to safeguard your personal information from unauthorized access, loss, misuse, or alteration. We regularly review our security procedures to ensure the ongoing protection of your data.
5. Data Retention: We will retain your personal information for as long as necessary to fulfill the purposes outlined in this Privacy Policy, unless a longer retention period is required or permitted by law.
6. Your Rights: You have the right to access, correct, update, or delete your personal information. You may also withdraw your consent for us to use your personal information at any time. To exercise these rights, please contact us using the information provided below.
7. Third-Party Websites: Our website may contain links to third-party websites. Please note that we are not responsible for the privacy practices or content of those websites. We encourage you to review the privacy policies of any third-party websites you visit.

If you have any questions or concerns regarding our Privacy Policy, please [contact us.](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact")

We reserve the right to update or modify this Privacy Policy at any time. Please check this page periodically for any changes.

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### [Hire Us To Speak](https://d2counseling.com/hire-us-to-speak/)

**Published:** June 30, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Engaging and Informative Speakers

Dr. Dina Hijazi and Rev. Daniel Gowan speak on a variety of issues that are tailored to your specific groups. From the PTA at your school to National Conferences, they offer engaging, humorous and informative presentations. Connect with them today to discuss how they can present to your group.

To inquire about a speaking event, [contact us](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact") or fill out the form below.

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#### Words From Our Past Clients

“Their presentation on intimacy opened my eyes to what my husband and I were really after. And we both got it at the same time while we were listening to them.”

“When I heard them talk about boundaries, I finally understood why I was frustrated in my relationships. My protection boundary just wasn’t working for me and now I know how to do that better.”

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### [Gallery](https://d2counseling.com/gallery/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## A Space Designed For Comfort

Our office is designed to create a safe and relaxed space for clients. The interior is carefully decorated with comfortable furniture, soft lighting, and soothing colors to create a peaceful ambiance. Our aim is to make you feel at ease and comfortable. In our Gallery you can see how our space provides a conducive environment for counseling sessions.

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Lobby.webp "Lobby")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Lobby.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Daniel-Office.webp "Daniel Office")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Daniel-Office.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Dina-Office.webp "Dina Office")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Dina-Office.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/jacqueline-office.webp "jacqueline-office")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/jacqueline-office.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/elyse-office.webp "elyse-office")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/elyse-office.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Kerry-D-office.webp "Kerry D office")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Kerry-D-office.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/kari-office-webp.webp "kari-office-webp")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/kari-office-webp.webp)

[![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Group-Room.webp "Group Room")](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Group-Room.webp)

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### [Fees](https://d2counseling.com/fees/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Working with a quality therapist is a life-changing investment in a happier, more peaceful, and more fulfilled future.

Our fees vary by therapist and cover 50-minute sessions. Payment is due at the time of service. We accept check, cash, credit card or PayPal.

We do not accept insurance but will provide you with receipts and documentation that you may turn into your insurance company for possible reimbursement. [Contact us](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact") today with any questions on our fee structure.

TherapistFeeDr. Dina Hijazi$375 Evaluation Session — 75 min
$250 Session — 50 min
$375 Couples Session — 75 minRev. Daniel Gowan$375 Evaluation Session — 75 min
$250 Session — 50 min
$250 Couples Session — 50 min
$375 Couples Session — 75 minLicensed Associates$270 Evaluation Session — 75 min
$180 Session — 50 min
$200 Couples Session — 50 min
$300 Couples Session — 75 min

 (972) 975-9100

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### [FAQ](https://d2counseling.com/faq/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Improving Relationships With Self and Others

We understand that seeking therapy can be a daunting process and that you may have many questions. Our goal is to provide you with the information you need to make an informed decision and feel comfortable with our services. Our FAQ page is designed to answer some of the most common questions we receive from our clients.

If you still have questions not covered in our FAQ, please do not hesitate to [reach out to us](https://d2counseling.com/contact/ "Contact"). We are happy to speak with you about your counseling options.

[Contact Us Today](https://d2counseling.com/contact/)

Where are you located?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:00:19+00:00#### [Where are you located?](#collapse-1-2450)

Therapy sessions take place in our Dallas metro-area office.

**17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252.**

*The complex is on the NW corner of Campbell and Preston. Coming North on Preston, go west (left) on Campbell and enter the driveway on your right just past the second red brick building. Coming South on Preston, go right on Campbell and enter the driveway just past the second red brick building. Once inside Building #17210 we are the first office on your right, Suite #175.*

What is your cancellation policy?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:01:35+00:00#### [What is your cancellation policy?](#collapse-1-2448)

Therapy is built on a foundation of commitment. Out of respect for your progress, and for our counselor’s ability to be of service to our clients, we require a 24-hour notice. If you are unable to provide a 24-hour notice of your cancellation, you will be charged the full fee of your session.

We plan our custom workshops carefully to serve our D2 community so cancellations will result in the loss of your deposit, and if you cancel less than two weeks prior to your scheduled workshop, it will result in loss of the full registration fee.

What can I expect from therapy?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:02:29+00:00#### [What can I expect from therapy?](#collapse-1-2446)

D2 therapists take a holistic and action-oriented approach to individual, relationship and couples counseling. We aim to help you convert suffering into motivation and growth quickly. Our belief is that you should not have to be in therapy for years to feel better.

How long will therapy take?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:03:11+00:00#### [How long will therapy take?](#collapse-1-2444)

Each therapy session is 50-minutes. You will work closely with your therapist to determine the course of the work you will do together and number of sessions you need to reach your goals. Our action-oriented approach aims to help you feel better more quickly than you might think.

Do you offer appointments on evenings or weekends?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:04:33+00:00#### [Do you offer appointments on evenings or weekends?](#collapse-1-2442)

Yes. We strive to offer convenient sessions to fit our clients’ schedules. Some of our therapists are available for weekend and evening appointments. Availability varies by therapist.

Do you accept insurance?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:04:45+00:00#### [Do you accept insurance?](#collapse-1-2440)

We do not accept insurance but will be happy to provide you with receipts and documentation that you may turn into your insurance company for possible reimbursement.

How much will therapy cost?[jwarner](https://d2counseling.com/author/jwarner/)2023-09-27T17:05:34+00:00#### [How much will therapy cost?](#collapse-1-2438)

Working with a quality therapist is a life-changing investment in a happier, more peaceful and more fulfilled future.

Our pricing depends on the experience and licensing level of your chosen therapist. Rates range from $130-200 per 50-minute session.

Payment is due at the time of service. We accept check, cash, credit card or PayPal.

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## Events

### [Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together (Sold Out)](https://d2counseling.com/event/couples-intimacy-workshop-growing-up-together-111823/)

**Published:** October 9, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together

**Interactive One-Day Group Workshop**
*with Rev. Daniel Gowan, LCDC, LPC-S & Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, LSSP, CSAT*

- Grow your awareness in the roles you play with your partner.
- Learn to manage intense feelings without losing your temper or walling off.
- Move beyond blame and finger pointing.
- Learn what belongs to you and what belongs to your partner.
- Recognize what patterns keep you stuck and what new behaviors lead to intimacy.
- Identify your strengths as a couple and build on them.

When: **November 18, 2023 (Sold Out)**

Where: **17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252**

Cost: **$900/couple, $400 deposit to hold your spot**

Snacks and Lunch (Jason’s Deli) provided

For More Information Contact:

Dr. Dina Hijazi – dina@d2counseling.com – (214) 432-0512
Rev. Daniel Gowan – daniel@d2counseling.com – (972) 267-2800

![](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%201%201%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E)

**Event Categories:** Couples Intimacy Workshop

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### [Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together](https://d2counseling.com/event/couples-intimacy-workshop-growing-up-together-012724/)

**Published:** November 9, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together

**Interactive One-Day Group Workshop**
*with Rev. Daniel Gowan, LCDC, LPC-S & Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, LSSP, CSAT*

- Grow your awareness in the roles you play with your partner.
- Learn to manage intense feelings without losing your temper or walling off.
- Move beyond blame and finger pointing.
- Learn what belongs to you and what belongs to your partner.
- Recognize what patterns keep you stuck and what new behaviors lead to intimacy.
- Identify your strengths as a couple and build on them.

When: **January, 27th 2024**

Where: **17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252**

Cost: **$900/couple, $400 deposit to hold your spot**

Snacks and Lunch (Jason’s Deli) provided

For More Information Contact:

Dr. Dina Hijazi – dina@d2counseling.com – (214) 432-0512
Rev. Daniel Gowan – daniel@d2counseling.com – (972) 267-2800

### Couples Intimacy Workshop

Cpls Wkshp Depo $400.00 USDCpls Wkshp Total $900.00 USDCpls Wkshp Balance $500.00 USD

![](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%201%201%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E)

**Event Categories:** Couples Intimacy Workshop

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### [3 Part Relationship Intensive: Part 2](https://d2counseling.com/event/3-part-relationship-intensive-part-2/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Part I- Getting on the Same Page: Feb 11, March 4, April 8, May 6, July 15, Sep 9
- Part II- Now We’re Talking!: April 1, June 3, Sep 30
- Part III- Let’s Talk About Sex: June 24

Part 1 will begin on Feb 11 from 9:30-4:00. The cost is $750 per couple per part. 3-4 couples maximum. Lunch will be provided. Couples can attend only the first part or all parts.

**Here is the Paypal link for couples to sign up:**

### Relationship Intensive

Intensive Payment $750.00 USD
Part II- Sept 30

**Event Categories:** 3 part couples

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### [3 Part Relationship Intensive: Part 1](https://d2counseling.com/event/3-part-relationship-intensive-part-1-2/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Part I- Getting on the Same Page: Feb 11, March 4, April 8, May 6, July 15, Sep 9
- Part II- Now We’re Talking!: April 1, June 3, Sep 30
- Part III- Let’s Talk About Sex: June 24

Part 1 will begin on Feb 11 from 9:30-4:00. The cost is $750 per couple per part. 3-4 couples maximum. Lunch will be provided. Couples can attend only the first part or all parts.

**Here is the Paypal link for couples to sign up:**

### Relationship Intensive

Intensive Payment $750.00 USD
Part I- Sept 9

**Event Categories:** 3 part couples

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### [3 Part Relationship Intensive: Part 1](https://d2counseling.com/event/3-part-relationship-intensive-part-1/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Part I- Getting on the Same Page: Feb 11, March 4, April 8, May 6, July 15, Sep 9
- Part II- Now We’re Talking!: April 1, June 3, Sep 30
- Part III- Let’s Talk About Sex: June 24

Part 1 will begin on Feb 11 from 9:30-4:00. The cost is $750 per couple per part. 3-4 couples maximum. Lunch will be provided. Couples can attend only the first part or all parts.

**Here is the Paypal link for couples to sign up:**

### Relationship Intensive

Intensive Payment $750.00 USD
Part I- July 15

**Event Categories:** 3 part couples

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### [3 Part Relationship Intensive: Part 3](https://d2counseling.com/event/3-part-relationship-intensive-part-3/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Part I- Getting on the Same Page: Feb 11, March 4, April 8, May 6, July 15, Sep 9
- Part II- Now We’re Talking!: April 1, June 3, Sep 30
- Part III- Let’s Talk About Sex: June 24

Part 1 will begin on Feb 11 from 9:30-4:00. The cost is $750 per couple per part. 3-4 couples maximum. Lunch will be provided. Couples can attend only the first part or all parts.

**Here is the Paypal link for couples to sign up:**

### Relationship Intensive

Intensive Payment $750.00 USD
Part III- June 24

**Event Categories:** 3 part couples

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### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/event/empowered-family-of-origin-4/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

That which we do not heal from childhood we replay in adulthood.

This workshop is a 3 day intensive that investigates the origins of adult dysfunctional behaviors. In this revolutionary educational and experiential workshop participants learn to identify the childhood wounds which fuel adult dysfunction, i.e., depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and relationship difficulties. The focus is not on blaming caregivers; but rather healing the trauma (defined as any less-than-nurturing events). The workshop is based on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and utilizes her treatment model.

### DEPOSIT FOR UPCOMING WORKSHOP

Deposit is $500, please call for instructions or click below to pay by credit card

*Our 2023 EMPOWERED! workshops are scheduled for:*

- **Feb 24-26 – SOLD OUT**
- **Mar 31-Apr 2 – SOLD OUT**
- **May 12-14 – SOLD OUT**
- **June 16-18 – SOLD OUT**
- **July 28-31 – SOLD OUT**
- **Sept 15-18 – SOLD OUT**
- **Dec 8-10**

Workshop Fee is $2,750.00. Deposit to hold your spot is $500.00. If cancellation occurs more than 2 weeks before workshop, the deposit can be moved to a future workshop date. If cancellation occurs less than 2 weeks before the workshop, then deposit will be forfeited (and used to fill workshop at a reduced rate by another participant).

Please let us know if you would like to be on the waiting list for one of these workshops, or would like to hear about upcoming dates.

### Empowered!

Deposit $500.00 USDBalance $1,950.00 USDTotal Workshp Price $2,450.00 USD

**Event Categories:** Empowered! Family Of Origin

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### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/event/empowered-family-of-origin/)

**Published:** June 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

That which we do not heal from childhood we replay in adulthood.

This workshop is a 3 day intensive that investigates the origins of adult dysfunctional behaviors. In this revolutionary educational and experiential workshop participants learn to identify the childhood wounds which fuel adult dysfunction, i.e., depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and relationship difficulties. The focus is not on blaming caregivers; but rather healing the trauma (defined as any less-than-nurturing events). The workshop is based on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and utilizes her treatment model.

### DEPOSIT FOR UPCOMING WORKSHOP

Deposit is $500, please call for instructions or click below to pay by credit card

*Our 2023 EMPOWERED! workshops are scheduled for:*

- **Feb 24-26 – SOLD OUT**
- **Mar 31-Apr 2 – SOLD OUT**
- **May 12-14**
- **June 16-18**
- **July 28-31**
- **Sept 15-18**
- **Dec 8-10**

Workshop Fee is $2,750.00. Deposit to hold your spot is $500.00. If cancellation occurs more than 2 weeks before workshop, the deposit can be moved to a future workshop date. If cancellation occurs less than 2 weeks before the workshop, then deposit will be forfeited (and used to fill workshop at a reduced rate by another participant).

Please let us know if you would like to be on the waiting list for one of these workshops, or would like to hear about upcoming dates.

**Event Categories:** Empowered! Family Of Origin

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### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/event/empowered-family-of-origin-2/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

That which we do not heal from childhood we replay in adulthood.

This workshop is a 3 day intensive that investigates the origins of adult dysfunctional behaviors. In this revolutionary educational and experiential workshop participants learn to identify the childhood wounds which fuel adult dysfunction, i.e., depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and relationship difficulties. The focus is not on blaming caregivers; but rather healing the trauma (defined as any less-than-nurturing events). The workshop is based on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and utilizes her treatment model.

### DEPOSIT FOR UPCOMING WORKSHOP

Deposit is $500, please call for instructions or click below to pay by credit card

*Our 2023 EMPOWERED! workshops are scheduled for:*

- **Feb 24-26 – SOLD OUT**
- **Mar 31-Apr 2 – SOLD OUT**
- **May 12-14**
- **June 16-18**
- **July 28-31**
- **Sept 15-18**
- **Dec 8-10**

Workshop Fee is $2,750.00. Deposit to hold your spot is $500.00. If cancellation occurs more than 2 weeks before workshop, the deposit can be moved to a future workshop date. If cancellation occurs less than 2 weeks before the workshop, then deposit will be forfeited (and used to fill workshop at a reduced rate by another participant).

Please let us know if you would like to be on the waiting list for one of these workshops, or would like to hear about upcoming dates.

### Empowered!

Deposit $500.00 USDBalance $1,950.00 USDTotal Workshp Price $2,450.00 USD

**Event Categories:** Empowered! Family Of Origin

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### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/event/empowered-family-of-origin-3/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

That which we do not heal from childhood we replay in adulthood.

This workshop is a 3 day intensive that investigates the origins of adult dysfunctional behaviors. In this revolutionary educational and experiential workshop participants learn to identify the childhood wounds which fuel adult dysfunction, i.e., depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and relationship difficulties. The focus is not on blaming caregivers; but rather healing the trauma (defined as any less-than-nurturing events). The workshop is based on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and utilizes her treatment model.
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Deposit is $500, please call for instructions or click below to pay by credit card

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Workshop Fee is $2,750.00. Deposit to hold your spot is $500.00. If cancellation occurs more than 2 weeks before workshop, the deposit can be moved to a future workshop date. If cancellation occurs less than 2 weeks before the workshop, then deposit will be forfeited (and used to fill workshop at a reduced rate by another participant).

Please let us know if you would like to be on the waiting list for one of these workshops, or would like to hear about upcoming dates.

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**Event Categories:** Empowered! Family Of Origin

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### [Smooth Sailing Workshop](https://d2counseling.com/event/smooth-sailing-workshop/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Smooth Sailing Workshop

Designed to help dating or married couples, those who are already in a secure relationship, or couples who are looking to start over fresh and overcome pain/resentment. Couples will participate in a relationship evaluation, identifying strengths and areas for growth, learn a fresh approach to communicating in a way that helps each person feel seen and heard, and define a shared foundation of trust, intimacy and values that is unique to them.

- Helping parents and young adults work together to navigate the next phase of life.
- Create boundaries and expectations when living independently and with each other
- Helping parents transition from role of manager to mentor
- Helping young adults learn individual communication styles and the best way to communicate with each other

**Cost** – $800 per young adult and two parents
**When** –
**Where** – 17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252
**Facilitators** – Kari Knott, LPC

**Event Categories:** smooth sailing

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### [Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together](https://d2counseling.com/event/couples-intimacy-workshop-growing-up-together/)

**Published:** June 13, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

## Couples Intimacy Workshop: Growing Up Together

**Interactive One-Day Group Workshop**
*with Rev. Daniel Gowan, LCDC, LPC-S & Dr. Dina Hijazi, PhD, LSSP, CSAT*

*Our 2023 Couples Intimacy Workshop workshops are scheduled for (Classes fill up quick):*

- - **July 29th, 2023**

This workshop is for you if you’re looking to move beyond blaming and finger-pointing so you can identify your strengths as a couple and build on them. Learn how to manage your intense feelings without walling off or losing your temper. Discover how to grow your awareness of the roles you play with your partner and how to recognize what belongs to you and what belongs to your partner. Our goal is for you to walk away with the ability to recognize what patterns keep you stuck and what behaviors can facilitate reconnection and enhance intimacy.

Workshop Fee is $900. Deposit to hold your spot is $400.00

### Couples Intimacy Workshop

Cpls Wkshp Depo $400.00 USDCpls Wkshp Total $900.00 USDCpls Wkshp Balance $500.00 USD

![](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%201%201%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%271%27%20height%3D%271%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E)

**Event Categories:** Couples Intimacy Workshop

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## Portfolio

### [Yvette Bonavita](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/yvette-bonavita/)

**Published:** December 14, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/YB-copy.webp "YB copy")

# Yvette Bonavita

LCSW

(972) 275-6018

Yvette Bonavita, LCSW, is a dedicated and compassionate therapist with a profound commitment to helping individuals on their path to healing. Since the late 1990s, Yvette has been working with children, adolescents, parents/couples, and individuals facing life’s challenges, guiding them toward personal growth and empowerment. Her therapeutic approach is built on empathy, acceptance, and the belief that every person’s journey is unique.

Specializing in trauma-related events, Yvette works with individuals of all ages, offering EMDR therapy as a powerful tool for healing. She is passionate about creating a safe, non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, experiences, and traumas in a supportive environment. Yvette’s expertise extends to working with children and youth, as well as helping parents and couples navigate personal and family dynamics.

Yvette is trained in EMDR for trauma and Exposure Response Prevention (ERP), treating individuals with compulsions, intrusive thoughts, and other anxiety producing behaviors associated with OCD.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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### [Bill Walker](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bill-walker/)

**Published:** May 20, 2026
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![Portrait of a middle-aged man in a blue blazer and white collared shirt against a gray backdrop, looking at the camera with a neutral smile.](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Bill-Walker.webp "Bill Walker")

# Bill Walker

MEd, LPC-S, PIT, CCTP
[Bill@d2counseling.com]()
(972) 275-6080

I began working in the fields of addiction, trauma, and mental health in 2008. Since then, I have gained experience in private practice, inpatient psychiatric care, and residential addiction treatment settings, working with clients of all ages and backgrounds.

My greatest passion is helping individuals heal from trauma. Because of this passion, I have pursued extensive specialized training in evidence-based and trauma-informed approaches to support clients in meaningful and lasting healing. My training includes Collaborative Problem Solving, SMART Recovery, Positive Recovery, and Child Parent Relationship Training. I am also trained in trauma-focused modalities including Post-Induction Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems (IFS). In addition, I am a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional – Level II. I believe deeply in the human capacity for healing and change.

My goal is to provide a compassionate, collaborative, and safe therapeutic space where clients can move from surviving to thriving, from hopelessness to recovery, and toward a renewed sense of wholeness and connection. It is an honor to walk alongside my clients as they discover their resilience, growth, and healing.

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### [Susanna Huffman](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/susanna-huffman/)

**Published:** September 12, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/SH-copy-2.webp "SH copy 2")

# Susanna Huffman

LPC, LCDC, CSAT
[(972) 275-6404](tel:9722756404)

I became a counselor because I believe healing allows people to live more authentically and in alignment with their values. It is deeply meaningful to me to walk alongside clients through both the painful and joyful parts of their stories. I strive to create an inclusive, affirming environment where clients of all cultural backgrounds, spiritual beliefs, and gender or sexual identities feel safe and respected. My approach is person-centered and collaborative. I tailor therapy to your unique experiences and goals, intentionally bringing your strengths into the room as we work toward meaningful and lasting change.

I work with adults (18+) and have a particular focus on young and middle-aged adults navigating anxiety, OCD, addiction, and betrayal trauma – including the impact of infidelity or compulsive behaviors within relationships. I provide Individual Therapy and Couples Therapy and specialize in OCD and Anxiety Disorders, Betrayal Trauma, Post-Traumatic Stress symptoms, and substance and process addictions (including sex and pornography addiction). I also support couples in the early stages of disclosure and recovery following infidelity.

I earned my Master of Science in Counseling from SMU in Dallas, TX, and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Texas and Colorado. I also hold a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC) and am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). With nearly a decade of clinical experience since beginning my career in 2016, I have pursued advanced training in several specialized modalities. I am trained in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD and Emetophobia, EMDR and Brainspotting (Level II) for trauma processing, and have completed Level 3 training in the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy. I have also completed training through the official IFS Institute and regularly integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS/parts work) to address somatic and emotional distress rooted in childhood wounds.

I would be honored to be part of your support team as you work toward healing, changing patterns, and building a life that feels aligned and authentic.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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### [Jonathan Pruitt](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/jonathan-pruitt/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/JP-copy.webp "JP copy")

# Jonathan Pruitt

LPC, LCDC, NCC, EMDR, CSAT
[(972) 275-6413](tel:9722756413)
[Jonathan@D2Counseling.c](mailto:Jonathan@D2Counseling.com)om

As a licensed therapist holding credentials as an LPC, LCDC, NCC, and CSAT, with a master’s degree in counseling psychology from SMU, I am dedicated to guiding individuals towards holistic healing and personal growth. With specialized training in [EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/) and PIT (Post-Induction Therapy/family of origin trauma/relationship issues), my passion lies in empowering clients to overcome obstacles and realize their full potential. My approach blends evidence-based techniques with empathetic support, offering both in-person and virtual therapy sessions to accommodate diverse needs.

Whether addressing addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship challenges, or trauma, I provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for exploration and transformation. Through individual and group therapy modalities, I strive to foster resilience, self-awareness, and meaningful connections, guiding each individual towards a life of fulfillment and well-being.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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### [Dr. Dina Hijazi](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/)

**Published:** June 28, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

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# Dr. Dina Hijazi

PhD, CSAT
[(214) 432-0512]()
[Dina@D2Counseling.c](mailto:dina@d2counseling.com)om

My clinical work centers on the holistic treatment of relationships—with both self and others. This includes supporting individuals, couples, and families navigating anxiety, depression, intimacy disorders, trauma, and addiction, always with a focus on emotional, psychological, and social well-being.

My educational journey includes a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from Purdue University, a Master’s from Notre Dame University, and a Ph.D. from the University of Texas at Austin. Postdoctoral training in family systems therapy and trauma/addiction work was completed under the mentorship of Pia Mellody and Patrick Carnes. I also hold national certifications in Sex Addiction Therapy (CSAT), Multiple Addiction Therapy (CMAT), and training in [EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/dr-dina-hijazi/) (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).

Sharing this work with broader audiences has been deeply fulfilling—whether through The Meadows Lecture Series, The Dallas Free Lecture Series, or speaking engagements at universities, conferences, and schools.

I look forward to connecting with you.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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### [Bernice Curry](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/bernice-curry/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/BC-copy.webp "BC copy")

# Bernice Curry

LPC-S, MEd
[(972) 275-6019](tel:9722756019)
[Bernice@D2Counseling.c](mailto:bernice@d2counseling.com)om

My specialties are intimate relationships and individual personal growth. My work with couples primarily involves developing meaningful communication, deeper intimacy, an enhanced sex life and a renewed sense of connection between partners. I also work with individuals who are experiencing grief, trauma or loss relating to relationship break ups, infidelity, divorce or bereavement. The therapeutic approach of my practice is effective for Christian Counseling but equally applicable for persons of all faith backgrounds.

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) with a Master’s Degree in Counseling from UTRGV and a Bachelor’s Degree in Spanish from USNY. After years of counseling in public education, I completed additional graduate work at UNT Dallas in couples counseling and specific training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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### [Rev. Daniel Gowan](https://d2counseling.com/portfolio-items/rev-daniel-gowan/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

![](https://d2counseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/DG-copy-2.webp "DG copy 2")

# Rev. Daniel Gowan

LPC-S, LCDC, CSAT
[(972) 267-2800]()
[Daniel@D2Counseling.c](mailto:daniel@d2counseling.com)om

I began my counseling career in ministry and use this background to integrate spiritual principles into helping clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves, their partner and other important people in their lives. I offer private counseling to individuals, couples, families and groups.

I have a Master of Arts in Counseling from [Amberton University](https://amberton.edu/) and a Master of Divinity from Perkins School of Theology at Southern Methodist University. I am credentialed as an LCDC (Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor) and LPC-S (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor). Both of these credentials are licenses from the State of Texas. In addition, I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT-C) and trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing ([EMDR](https://d2counseling.com/emdr/)).

Dina and I both consult with businesses, churches and organizations around conflict management, relational policies and emotional development within the organization.

**Portfolio Categories:** Staff

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## FAQs

### [How much will therapy cost?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/how-much-will-therapy-cost/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Working with a quality therapist is a life-changing investment in a happier, more peaceful and more fulfilled future.

Our pricing depends on the experience and licensing level of your chosen therapist. Rates range from $130-200 per 50-minute session.

Payment is due at the time of service. We accept check, cash, credit card or PayPal.

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### [Do you accept insurance?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/do-you-accept-insurance/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

We do not accept insurance but will be happy to provide you with receipts and documentation that you may turn into your insurance company for possible reimbursement.

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### [Do you offer appointments on evenings or weekends?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/do-you-offer-appointments-on-evenings-or-weekends/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Yes. We strive to offer convenient sessions to fit our clients’ schedules. Some of our therapists are available for weekend and evening appointments. Availability varies by therapist.

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### [How long will therapy take?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/how-long-will-therapy-take/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Each therapy session is 50-minutes. You will work closely with your therapist to determine the course of the work you will do together and number of sessions you need to reach your goals. Our action-oriented approach aims to help you feel better more quickly than you might think.

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### [What can I expect from therapy?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/what-can-i-expect-from-therapy/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

D2 therapists take a holistic and action-oriented approach to individual, relationship and couples counseling. We aim to help you convert suffering into motivation and growth quickly. Our belief is that you should not have to be in therapy for years to feel better.

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### [What is your cancellation policy?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/what-is-your-cancellation-policy/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Therapy is built on a foundation of commitment. Out of respect for your progress, and for our counselor’s ability to be of service to our clients, we require a 24-hour notice. If you are unable to provide a 24-hour notice of your cancellation, you will be charged the full fee of your session.

We plan our custom workshops carefully to serve our D2 community so cancellations will result in the loss of your deposit, and if you cancel less than two weeks prior to your scheduled workshop, it will result in loss of the full registration fee.

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### [Where are you located?](https://d2counseling.com/faq-items/where-are-you-located/)

**Published:** June 29, 2023
**Author:** jwarner

**Content:**

Therapy sessions take place in our Dallas metro-area office.

**17210 Campbell Rd, Ste 175, Dallas, TX 75252.**

*The complex is on the NW corner of Campbell and Preston. Coming North on Preston, go west (left) on Campbell and enter the driveway on your right just past the second red brick building. Coming South on Preston, go right on Campbell and enter the driveway just past the second red brick building. Once inside Building #17210 we are the first office on your right, Suite #175.*

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### [Empowered! Family Of Origin](https://d2counseling.com/events/category/empowered-family-of-origin/)

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